I am uncomfortable with the idea of me needing to be taken care of. Men are silly little creatures anyway. I'm simply too demanding and way too independent to be under anyone's thumb. I enjoy being the one who takes care of most things, my husband is more of the nurturer than I. Just worked out that way.

My sister is a gazillionaire. She's never worked, she's never had to. She has 80 exotic birds that she breeds for fun. That's her hobby. She is ordered around by her husband daily, and is questioned with every purchase she makes.

Ummm, no thanks.

MuthaFunka said:

Hell yeah! It's great being driven around by a woman in a fancy car, and being treated every once in a while.

uPtoWnNY said:

Where do men like you guys exist in the "real" world?

uPtoWnNY said:

Preach that shit!

Vendetta1 said:

We're around! Ya just gotta find us!

Vendetta1 said:

"Seek, and ye shall find!"

Vendetta1 said:

I truly don't understand that mode of thinking. From my perspective, relationships are much easier when the woman has her own.

An independent woman who's got her own takes pressure off the man. I get tired of having to initiate everything and the one doing most of the work. Been there, done with that shit.

It’s unrealistic in this day and age for a woman NOT to work. Most people don’t make enough money to support a family on a single income and if they DO, then what happens when they get divorced (as the majority of couples do)? One of them has been out of the workforce for years. How do you re-enter at square one and expect to make enough of a salary to keep up your accustomed standard of living?

And how am I not gonna have my own at age 33? wtf? Who's gonna take care of me if NOT myself?

uPtoWnNY said:

Shiiiiit, a bitch is tired!

In the words of my dear Prince:

If brotha didn't have good and plenty of his own, in love pussy never did fall..

PaisleyPark5083 said:

SCNDLS said:

Maybe it's time to move (((cough))) NYC (((cough)))

uPtoWnNY said:

lol.....

uPtoWnNY said:

My girlfriends in NYC have the same issues.

SCNDLS said:

Yeah, but I don't want them...

uPtoWnNY said:

Well, I don't know if we'd make it boo, cuz surely we'd both die in a fight during a Cowboys vs. Giants game.

SCNDLS said:

seperate rooms, baby.

uPtoWnNY said:

And then after the Cowboys win, are you gonna act all pissy and shit?

SCNDLS said:

SCNDLS said:

I'll take my medicine like a man, and work out my frustrations playing Madden.

uPtoWnNY said:

Oh, is that how you're gonna take out your frustrations???

SCNDLS said:

Don't worry, hon. I have other ways of working out my frustrations...some last all night and into the morning.

uPtoWnNY said:

Duly noted.

SCNDLS said:

Make it plain: A real man is not intimidated by a strong woman.

Flowers2 said:

Girl, you know he's just saying that now but I know he'd be giving me his back in the bed.

Its too bad some men are like that. I've been fortunate not to go through that anymore. No offense to the guys but it will be a cold day in hell before I depend on a man and be left ass out so men who are intimidated betta get used to that shit lol

purplekitty said:

If, hypothetically, the woman defined her worth by what she had and my relative worth by what I had, I'd not be intimidated, but disgusted and utterly incompatible with her -- whether she had more or less than me.

On the other hand, if the woman had certain things -- e.g. material wealth, professional security, education, etc. -- that I didn't have, but brought them to the relationship to complement the things I, in turn, presented likewise (which is pretty much how my marriage does work), I'd be thrilled with that. Ultimately, I want a partner, not a sugar mama, another daughter to raise or some love/hate competitor with whom I'm always keeping score.
[Edited 1/15/09 19:34pm]