and he is a rude retarded little shyt.

When my husband and i got divorced, he insisted on having custody of my now 17 year old. When I would visit, ( she was 12 then) she would be on the internet all hours of the night, in chat rooms, and i saw some racy conversations, etc. I even had to off an old ass joker for coming by the house cause he wanted to "speak" to her saying i was in the way.

I explained over and over to her about what she should NOT be doing, yet, she insisted mother was ignorant, and stupid. SHe did not grow up seeing me on drugs and men in and out of the house.

so now, she is going around with another ignorant 17 year old and he is stupid and abusive, just like her. His mother allows them privacy in his bedroom, which is downright appauling to me. Not that i'm a prude, but at that age shouldn't they be going to movies and going around with other friends etc??? Are the parents really that stupid that the kids can't sit down and watch a movie instead of all the silly shyt "only they" understand.
When I mentioned that to the mom, she was like...what does the dad say!!!

Fuck what the dad says, cause if he gave a shyt, she would have had something to occupy her time other than some ignorant little shyt who wants to blam the world for his misfortune or whatever. oh and shyt, .....he did, in my garage floor cause he "expected" better treatment while he was visiting one time.

I was taught that you get married first then you have children. I can't keep getting ready for them to have children and then talk about marriage. I really ddon't want to stand on the outside to keep watch and try to advise them. But, i don't want to be included in there affairs if only to be used and kept secrets from. and furthermore.....the fukkin dad is off doing his own similar dirt. I have enought problems with that, cause he wants me to co-sign all his shyt. Is she gonna be a tramp like her father?????


WHAT AM I TO DO! ! ! ! ! I FEEL LIKE A RAT IN A TRAP! .....lost in la vida loca!

I have teenagers.
I am completely with you on this.I am so sorry you are going through this.

I would be furious too. The only thing I can think of is for you to try to get a deeper relationship with your daughter. Pull away from the anger of the situation. Don't preach. Try to strengthen your bond and her understanding of your love and concern for her. Teens brains are full of mush. I really don't like mine right now. I love them though.

BEAT. THEY. ASS!!!!!

The more you clash the more she will keep seeing him. It's hard to "put your foot down" when she's not living with you. You cannot control how your ex runs his home or how he parents her. Have you sat with ex to discuss or come to some agreement? Any way you can go to court to change the custody? i.e. bring up to the judge the unhealthy environment she lives in.

All you can do is educate her in birth control, give some relationship advice and let her know your door is always open anytime she needs you.

have a litter of babies!

horatio said:

horatio said:

yur soooo sick...

luv4u said:

that's for real love. i fume when i think of him stoping by sometimes. and how she will speak to me on behalf of him.....all in all....another brick etc. etc.

DanceWme said:

i love her...

Damn right! Beat it from one end of the house to the other. Just beat it till you feel better.

its not that andy.....you have to be a mother and accountable for every fukked up thing they do. and i KNOW i been a model, fuck a SUPERMODEL for them skanks.

myfavorite said:

That's wrong to use a child/teenager to be a "mule" carrying message back and forth between parents. Puts the kid caught in the middle of a conflict. The courts would frown on the "mule" behaviour of either or both parents.

Give me his number and I'll give him a good talkin to!

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Ohhhh you want to do another good deed again

vainandy said:

You gotta admit, pooping in the garage is kinda funny. The only way to respond is in kind.

Give them that privacy they want...but shit in her bed first.

Mars23 said:

I missed the poop thing.
Great advice though!

She'll do what she wants, and go by what she feels in her heart, you might not get the outcome you feel you deserve after bring up your baby, but you can support, this is your job in life, and she is your ultimate responsibility.
But you know that anyway. 17 in this day and age, isn't a bad age to feel you know better than your parents.

My best friend is going through this with her 13 year old daughter. Her boyfriend is a year older than her, steals his mother's car, does drugs, just finished a stint in rehab and although his mother cares about him, she lets him come and go as he pleases, pretty much. Her daughter is sexually active with this boy but although they apparently use protection, they had a condom breaking situation in which my friend felt like she had to supply her daughter with the morning after pill. My friend is about ready to be fitted for a straight jacket at this point. She has no idea what to do and I don't know how to help her.

JuliePurplehead said:

I can't imagine how anybody thinks that girl should be a parent though. Still, I can't even imagine having to think about giving your minor daughter the pill.
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I know it a crazy idea,and it just might drive you a little crazy to do it,but if your daughter is anything like my sister was,then she would not want this boy so much if she felt you approved of him. When his at your house treat him really nice,and let your daughter know that you think he is really wonderful,and that you happy for her for finding such a wonderful boyfriend. Yeah your lying,but most likely if you like him,she won't.

whoop dat ass like she stole a fuckin guv'ment mule

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

It was very hard for her because 1)the pill is $45 2)you have to be 18 to get it so my friend had to pretend like she was the one that had an oops situation & 3)she didn't want her daughter to think this was a form of birth control. And this situation was how she found out her daughter was sexually active. OUCH! I really don't know what I would have done in her situation. But you're right, a 13 year old has no business being a mother yet.

Not to joke around about a serious subject and all, but should I be mad that a 13 year old is getting more ass than me?

JuliePurplehead said:

YES!

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and its even more distressing that my daughter thinks she is the mom, which would make me the child ( to her) which would also cause her to be a jerk, because i am in fact getting more ass than her. but is she supposed to know that???

myfavorite said:

How in the hell did he get custody of her????

myfavorite said:

So, you're calling your kids fucked up and skanks?


And sorry. If my kid decided to do some stupid shit, I would not be accountable for it.

DanceWme said:

HELL YEAH!


Even Obama agrees with this!

bboy87 said: