Seems like when you are dating everything is ROSES,but get married and it's Doggie Doo!

52% of the time? No.

I think love and honesty work, but unfortunately alot of marriages are not build upon those concepts anymore

The divorce rate in America for first marriage, vs second or third marriage
50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second and 74% of third marriages end in divorce, according to Jennifer Baker of the Forest Institute of Professional Psychology in Springfield, Missouri.”

According to enrichment journal on the divorce rate in America:
The divorce rate in America for first marriage is 41%
The divorce rate in America for second marriage is 60%
The divorce rate in America for third marriage is 73%



Accoring to The Department of Justice, Child Support Initiative, Evaluation Report, August 1997, divorce rate in Canada is about 48%. What it means is, one marriage out of every two marriages end up to divorce. But remember that for many, divorces and marriages are repetitions.

Some facts about the divorce rates in Canada

Almost 75% of Canadian divorces are being initiated by women.

One year after separation or divorce, 50% of children of divorced or separated families never see their fathers again.

First marriages have about a 50% chance of ending in divorce , that risk becomes greater with each successive marriage (about 72% for second, and about 85% for third marriages).

Divorce Rates UK
According to the Office of National Statistics, divorce rates in the UK have risen over the past three years since falling back from the level reached in 1996. The total number of divorces in England and Wales last year was 153,490, working out at 13.9 divorces per 1,000 married people. This rose from 13.4 in 2002

Divorce rates in Australia
Divorce rate in Australia in around 40%. Meaning, about 40 percent of marriages can be expected to end in divorce. Adding a small fraction for marriage breakdowns which are never formalised by divorce,it is estimated that about 43 per cent of marriages end in separation within 30 years of the marriage.
Divorce rate in Australia stands at around 3 divorces per 1000 marriages. Census records show that more than 55,000 divorces were granted in 2001. During the same period around 103,000 marriages were registered.

Divorce Rates In Japan
Japan divorce rate is approximately 27%. One in every four marriages ends up to divorce. According to Reuters, The number of divorces annually has almost doubled since 1990, with 264,000 couples formally breaking up in 2000. From 2000 to 2004, there is a little bit drop in the divorce rate in Japan.

Divorce Rates In Singapore
Divorce rate in Singapore is about 10%, means 1 out of 10 marriages end up in divorce.

Divorce Rate In India
Divorce rates in India are amongst the lowest in the world. 11 marriages out of 1,000 marriages (around 1 marriage out of 100 marriages) ends up to divorce in India. This figure was even low in 1990. In 1990, 7.40 marriages out of 1,000 marriages ended up in divorce in India.

http://www.divorcerate.org/

ehuffnsd said:

That is fucking painful to read.

maybe for some but not 4 me, neva gonna happen!!!!!

Yes it does.

As long as you're not so damn quick to throw both hands whenever trouble arouse, you'll maintain a long good healthy marriage

But people are just spoiled rotton nowadays,,,,,they threw the "give & take" tactic and replaced it with the "me! me! me!" tactic, and thats exactly why few believe in it because they ARE the "me me me" crowd
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Harlepolis said:

well put.

Marriage is an ancient instutition.

Yes. My parents are celebrating their 34th anniversary in a few weeks.

I love being married, then again, I do have the best husband in the world!

Though it is not popular to be happily married, I am. I think this society dwells on the break ups and divorces and lacks celebrating the ones that last. I do believe it is not for everyone. I do believe it should be an option for everyone though.

I love my hubby and would not trade him for the world.
He is my best friend.

Not at all. That's why Erin and I pick up hookers almost every week.

Yeah - pretty sure it works

I think that when it doesn't work, most of the time is because the expectation is not balanced with the effort. Don't expect things to work by themselves. YOU have to make them work.

I think cheating could be a major reason that a lot of marriages don't work out, whether it's the man or woman cheating. I think a marriage can work. I have accepted that when your in a relationship somebody always cheats because we as people are not made to stay with one person forever.

shanti0608 said:

That's beautiful.

egyptkizzee said:

Untrue blanket statement

Though if you have accpeted and believe that (non)fact into your life then that is what may become of your relationships

key word = may

Tremolina said:

I will admit there are times that I would like to strangle his hyper ass but it is really hard to stay mad at him, I do try though!

He is my life partner.

He makes me laugh.

He gives me reason to believe this world is not such a bad place.

shanti0608 said:

I love you, you are my everything and my world would crumble without you.

So yes, i believe it works despite having been shit on.


Oh yeah and the sex is fucking awesome too

Clearly it works for some and not for others.

I suspect those it works for in the long term are few and far between, though. I know of very few real-life examples.

That totally depends on what "works" means.

As for those who think these rates are higher now because people just give up too easy. I really don't think that's the case at all. Rates are higher because women (in particular) are no longer willing to just settle for a husband that treats them horribly (in whatever way).

I strongly believe that rates would have been the same in the past of women felt they had the power and support to end bad relationships.

Notice that the rates are lower in countries that are notorious for repressing women? Coincidence? I don't think so.

JustErin said:

Bingo!

I don't know...

I suspect that couples who divorce would have broken up with or without the wedding. A ring does not put an end to stress or conflict.

Similarly, my husband is my best friend, but I'm guessing it'd be that way whether or not we were married.

jillybean said:

Co-

But even best friends go through "dry spells" which boils down to working it out.

My grandmother said that marriage is like a bowel of water, if you stir it up, it won't rot.

I personally find that very true.

Harlepolis said:

very true..... Nothing worse than stagnating.

Marriage works when both are willing to work on it...
it's not something that can be taken lightly.

Harlepolis said:

I like her saying

While I agree that modern women aren't staying in or accepting being in a bad or abusive relationship, I believe that divorce rates are high because people enter into marriage with a skewed sense of what they're getting into...they buy into the fantasy of what "marriage" is, but when some of that fantasy luster wears off, they have to be able to come up with ideas to keep things fresh and forward looking...where most divorced people go wrong, in my opinion, is that when the luster wears off, so does their interest...

....marriages aren't self-perpetuating...THEY TAKE WORK...THEY TAKE EFFORT....and if both parties are willing to deal with the crust of a motherf**ker, as Chris Rock put it, then chances are the marriage will work....

My marriage (17 years as of October) is a living testament of what works if folks are willing to work through whatever issues come up...