Mara said:

I decided that I wasn't gonna miss anymore good live shows just cause nobody else was into the genre. Their loss!

rushing07 said:

Wtf??

Never go out alone!! It reeks of desperation!

I can't even bring myself to meet people at a club if I am heading there alone.

JustErin said:

That doesn't reek of desperation! It might reek of insecurity if you can't though. Giving shyness or extreme introverted nature aren't in play.

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

Insecurity is the new pink, don't you know?

JustErin said:

Damn! I missed that memo!

rushing07 said:

I agree 100%.

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

Dude, my extreme introversion is part of why I LIKE to go out alone. That way, I get to choose how much interaction I want.

Desperation? No. Not desperate for anything, except to be left the fuck alone so I can get my groove on.

JustErin said:

Desperate my ASS. Speak for yourself, Sis.

Sometimes I just can't stand to be around other people that intimately connected for hanging out for a night. I want to go out and hear the music I want to hear, dance to the songs I like, chat with whomever I want to chat with, hear ZERO feedback from another party, then take my happy ass home. I don't want to hear bullshit about the ex that gets on your nerves, the kids that are driving you crazy, the colleague that's sabatoging you at work, and I'm not in the mood to re-assure you that you look beautiful in spite of your incessant insecure ramblings, yet AGAIN .

Shit, if person doesn't know how to pursue their interests on their own, and be comfortable with who they are as individuals how will they ever be comfy with other people and being their authentic selves?

JustErin said:

Forum rules say :

Don't make posts that are inflammatory just to get people riled up. Don't post useless off-topic stuff. Even if a silly, no-purpose post seems harmless and fun, don't be surprised if you get a warning and the message locked/deleted. You might think it's cute, but Moderators who have to wade through tons of posts like this, don't.

You should be


or at least spanked to entertain the men

Mach said:

But I meant what a said.

JustErin said:

It reeks of desperation if you are playing the whole room trying to take ANYONE home with you.

Usually I bump into people I know when I go out by myself.

Gawd, I'd have to have a gun to my head to go out drinking/dancing alone

Cinnie said:

Picking up (anywhere) grosses me out in general.

CalhounSq said:

JustErin said:

I can do a movie in the afternoon, or lunch, but no "nighttime activities" by my lonesome. It just seems so... lonely

CalhounSq said:

I'm the opposite, I can go out clubbing/barhopping by myself NO problem whatsoever, but I've never been to a movie theater alone. I just think that's so isolating [for me, anyway].

thekidsgirl said:

Oh man, if I counted on some of my frenz to do shit. I would never get anything done.



BTW, I also have no problem going to concerts or festivals alone. I do it all.the.time. And have a GOOD ol' time.
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CalhounSq said:

But why? The both of you are obviously strong, intelligent, engaging women...don't you ever just need to get away from the whoop-whoopla of people constantly on your jock and enjoy a night for just you? No distractions, no unwarranted conversation .

I try to make plans, but if they don't pan out I'm not gonna miss out just because someone else backs out.

Movies I can go alone to those too, but these days I know the movie will still be playing in a week and I can go later if the plan falls through.

Mara said:

For me the movie theater makes perfect sense - I'm not a talker in movies so sitting next to someone doesn't enhance the experience at all.

Mara said:

I can do movies alone,too. I'm just so much a stubbourn old goat that when I want to see something that interests me,do.not.want.to.listen.to.feedback.from.others.

I want to digest that shit! And not be bothered by somebody getting up to get extra butter for their popcorn or talking at inappropriate times. If it's a fluff thing that I'm not too keen on seeing I can go with a gang for fun. But if it's something I've really been salivating over, I need to experience it for myself...and again, not have to listen to somebody moan in between about boyfriends, kids, their psychotic bosses and so on. That's the shit we save for tea and scones on another day, but not when I want to hear my music or see my movies

Ottensen said:

Ehh, I don't go out a hell of a lot. When I do I'm definitely feeling social & wanna chat w/ a friend. I can stay home to avoid unwarranted conversation, I live alone I think it just depends on your lifestyle - I get (& need) more alone time than most people, so going out alone @ night (in my mind) would call attention to the fact that I'm alone, which would make me uncomfortable.

For me dancing & drinking are definitely times to be social & with friends, whereas a matinee, quick meal or even a mellow concert/show are okay to do alone...

Omg, I would also never, ever go to a movie alone.

As for going to a club, I go to listen to the music, dance and socialize with my friends. I need that social aspect of it as well and I am too much of a snob to go looking for new people to socialize with.

CalhounSq said:

EXACTLY how I feel too.

JustErin said:

Not even a matinee??

CalhounSq said:

Wtf would I do at a matinee??

But now I take my son to those.

erin stop it

as for myself, I NEED MY ENTOURAGE when going out!! or how else am i gonna get a break from my boring self

i do, however, piss on their parades quite a lot i admit as i get lots of those days when i just wanna sit home, pig out, and watch 5 movies back to back

JustErin said:

I always had to go alone, because nobody I knew wanted to go see frikkin eraserhead or whatever