When the chips are down, most people won't be there for you. So unconditional support is normally not something I tack on to the requirements for friendship. Everybody has their own demons to tackle, and I've always been big on being able to handle one's own affairs. I've sometimes come across as cold and uncaring to friends when I'm not always there for them, but I've always found that they never took into account what I was going through during their own times of need. I've let friends live with me rent free for months to get their lives back on track, only to have them turn my house into a playboy mansion complete with ex-wives showing up at my door to slash their wrists (true story), then to never hear from my friends again once they've left. I've loaned friends money, support, my car, etc. etc., and still to no avail. When the chips are down, sometimes you're your ownly friend.

We each have our own arbitrary requirements of what we want out of our friends. Hence what we consider a "True" friend to be really just serves our own selfish ends anyways, doesn't it? Even if those needs are noble or basic ones (trust, kindness, mutual respect, etc.), they still serve our own selfish needs.

If you're healthy, not living on skid row, and your friends seem to still be abandoning you, it could very well say more about you than it does about them.
I want to go on, but I've lost my train of thought. I'm rather horny today.

Natisse was not so happy with your post, Dan. She deleted her account.

Natisse was not so happy with your post, Dan. She deleted her account.

I suspect this thread is a personal orgnote disquised as a general discussion thread actually.

That's another reason she is getting a spanking!

That's another reason she is getting a spanking!

So. What do you want. Natisse is gone. We got the room all to ourselves.