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onenitealone said: onenitealone said: 
Oh, I always have chocolate in the house. Always. You can nibble on it anytime. ~insert Dan annoyed comment here~ Who's Dan? And ooooh, pure chocolate! You know the way to my heart, you evil bald hot rod. |
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Hey Natisse!!!
How are you sweetie?? I haven't been a very good friend, but I think of you a lot!! ( but that doesn't help much does it?  )
I have two very dear friends I see on a regular basis.. and there are some people I love dearly but don't see very often.. but I'll always be 'connected'to them.. They know it and I know it.. and sometimes they don't know it The Borg... Partypoopers of the galaxy.. ( Medical Hologram )
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HowComeYouDontCallme said: but I'll always be 'connected' to them.. sometimes they don't know it
Was that YOU in the garden again last night? I want you to stop peeing there! |
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HowComeYouDontCallme said: Hey Natisse!!!
How are you sweetie?? I haven't been a very good friend, but I think of you a lot!! ( but that doesn't help much does it? )
I have two very dear friends I see on a regular basis.. and there are some people I love dearly but don't see very often.. but I'll always be 'connected'to them.. They know it and I know it.. and sometimes they don't know it *I* could've written that.  And it annoys the hell out of some people... but I am trying not to 'drop out' as much. It's just hard to keep in contact with everyone, y'know? Although I have major guilt trips about it. I like to focus on whoever I'm with at at that particular moment in time so if the phone's going off in the background... Plus, I like to retreat into my own world, sometimes. Fortunately, I have some very patient friends. | |
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horatio said: a large banana
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Anxiety said: someone who can tell me about myself and no matter how painful it is to hear, i totally know they're saying it for my benefit and not just to be hateful.
...and I'll add two more. Someone who'll stick with you through thick & thin, no matter what other folks say. Someone you'd trust with the lives of your children. There are only a few people like that in my life. Those are TRUE friends, and I consider them family. |
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Some consider mere acquaintances friends...I've never been one to think that way...
I have two best friends, Aaron and Kurt...Aaron I've known since we were 2...Aaron and I met Kurt in 2nd grade...the rest is history... from my experience with these guys, a friend is someone that will support you when you're right and support you when you're wrong-while reminding you that you were wrong... a friend is someone that doesn't have hang ups about their feelings for you... a friend is someone that willl remind you what is really important in your life... a friend is someone that will go out of their way to make sure you're ok or happy... a friend is someone that accepts you at face value and doesn't expect you to meet an unnecessary standard... | |
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Mach said: Comfort in silence
Compassion Unconditional love  I agree!!!Proud Memaw to Seyhan Olivia Christine ,Zoey Cirilo Jaylee & Ellie Abigail Lillian  | |
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onenitealone said: HowComeYouDontCallme said: Hey Natisse!!!
How are you sweetie?? I haven't been a very good friend, but I think of you a lot!! ( but that doesn't help much does it? )
I have two very dear friends I see on a regular basis.. and there are some people I love dearly but don't see very often.. but I'll always be 'connected'to them.. They know it and I know it.. and sometimes they don't know it *I* could've written that. And it annoys the hell out of some people... but I am trying not to 'drop out' as much. It's just hard to keep in contact with everyone, y'know? Although I have major guilt trips about it. I like to focus on whoever I'm with at at that particular moment in time so if the phone's going off in the background... Plus, I like to retreat into my own world, sometimes. Fortunately, I have some very patient friends. Marion ...I think of you too hon, and hope the three of you are all so happy 
Alun, hon, those are good things you should give your attention to those you're with at the time... I love you and miss you   | |
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A true friend will not keep score. | |
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A true friend is a very very rare thing indeed... | |
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A true friend is NOT someone who plays emotional games with you by using apathy and tones in thier voice they know or sense push your buttons in a negative way...
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...and how do you know when the line is drawn, for whatever reason, to withdraw from someone you DON'T feel is a true friend? | |
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Anxiety said: someone who can tell me about myself and no matter how painful it is to hear, i totally know they're saying it for my benefit and not just to be hateful.
The first part, definitely lol ...the second part is more you being a true friend to them than them being a true friend to you, I think.
In addition: A true friend has no problem or hesitation letting you know you're appreciated and loved, even though they know it's not necessary to do so... A true friend keeps your confidences...and allows you to have your secrets. A true friend effortlessly gives you reasons to remind you why you love them in the first place...being a true friend means never forgetting those reasons. A true friend remembers things that are important to you, for no other reason that it is important to you... A true friend doesn't need you to agree with them... A true friend takes the time and makes the effort... A true friend doesn't try to figure out what it is you need to hear to get what they want... A true friend is one of the first people you want to talk to when something goes incredibly right or incredibly wrong.. A true friend is someone who never seems to instill any doubts in you... A true friend has no problem just listening... A true friend is someone you can feel vulnerable with, and not worry... A true friend is someone who has built up a huge resevoir of trust inside you without even trying...and never abuses that trust. A true friend knocks that Pepsi can out of your hand before you can take that first drink... | |
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HowComeYouDontCallme said: I haven't been a very good friend, but I think of you a lot!! ( but that doesn't help much does it? )
Same here, shame on me
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Byron said: Anxiety said: someone who can tell me about myself and no matter how painful it is to hear, i totally know they're saying it for my benefit and not just to be hateful.
The first part, definitely lol ...the second part is more you being a true friend to them than them being a true friend to you, I think.
In addition: A true friend has no problem or hesitation letting you know you're appreciated and loved, even though they know it's not necessary to do so... A true friend keeps your confidences...and allows you to have your secrets. A true friend effortlessly gives you reasons to remind you why you love them in the first place...being a true friend means never forgetting those reasons. A true friend remembers things that are important to you, for no other reason that it is important to you... A true friend doesn't need you to agree with them... A true friend takes the time and makes the effort... A true friend doesn't try to figure out what it is you need to hear to get what they want... A true friend is one of the first people you want to talk to when something goes incredibly right or incredibly wrong.. A true friend is someone who never seems to instill any doubts in you... A true friend has no problem just listening... A true friend is someone you can feel vulnerable with, and not worry... A true friend is someone who has built up a huge resevoir of trust inside you without even trying...and never abuses that trust. A true friend knocks that Pepsi can out of your hand before you can take that first drink... .....that got me byron, because, i have lots of those, true friends.  [Edited 8/17/08 8:39am] | |
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KidaSaurusRx said: Byron said: The first part, definitely lol ...the second part is more you being a true friend to them than them being a true friend to you, I think.
In addition: A true friend has no problem or hesitation letting you know you're appreciated and loved, even though they know it's not necessary to do so... A true friend keeps your confidences...and allows you to have your secrets. A true friend effortlessly gives you reasons to remind you why you love them in the first place...being a true friend means never forgetting those reasons. A true friend remembers things that are important to you, for no other reason that it is important to you... A true friend doesn't need you to agree with them... A true friend takes the time and makes the effort... A true friend doesn't try to figure out what it is you need to hear to get what they want... A true friend is one of the first people you want to talk to when something goes incredibly right or incredibly wrong.. A true friend is someone who never seems to instill any doubts in you... A true friend has no problem just listening... A true friend is someone you can feel vulnerable with, and not worry... A true friend is someone who has built up a huge resevoir of trust inside you without even trying...and never abuses that trust. A true friend knocks that Pepsi can out of your hand before you can take that first drink... .....that got me byron, because, i have lots of those, true friends.
I hope that last one is especially true for you lol ... | |
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...essssspecially?????  ... | |
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HamsterHuey said: HowComeYouDontCallme said: but I'll always be 'connected' to them.. sometimes they don't know it
Was that YOU in the garden again last night? I want you to stop peeing there! If it was me, I took great effort to jump on the bus for half an hour.. sit on the train for over 1,5 hours just to pee in your garden 
Ow well.. what can I say.. I'm a fan 
I don't even now where you live you doofus 
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...is someone who doesn't say one thing and do another.
...is someone who allows you to live your own life, and doesn't judge you for it. ... someone who makes you happy,and is someone who you want to make happy. .....is someone who loves you without condition,and whom you love without condition. In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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Over the years, I have come to the conclusion that the term 'true friend' is redundant. If a person isn't true, then they are not a friend. Friends are always true. | |
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Natisse said: ...and how do you know when the line is drawn, for whatever reason, to withdraw from someone you DON'T feel is a true friend?
For me that's something I just feel ~ inside So I try to trust that because when I have fought aganst it in the past things usually got worse  | |
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Mach said: Natisse said: ...and how do you know when the line is drawn, for whatever reason, to withdraw from someone you DON'T feel is a true friend?
For me that's something I just feel ~ inside So I try to trust that because when I have fought aganst it in the past things usually got worse thank you...
this is something I'm struggling with now and I'm not sure whether it's me being paranoid or whether it's what I think it is. I'm finding it very hard to see who truly cares. time will tell [Edited 8/17/08 16:51pm] | |
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When the chips are down, most people won't be there for you. So unconditional support is normally not something I tack on to the requirements for friendship. Everybody has their own demons to tackle, and I've always been big on being able to handle one's own affairs. I've sometimes come across as cold and uncaring to friends when I'm not always there for them, but I've always found that they never took into account what I was going through during their own times of need. I've let friends live with me rent free for months to get their lives back on track, only to have them turn my house into a playboy mansion complete with ex-wives showing up at my door to slash their wrists (true story), then to never hear from my friends again once they've left. I've loaned friends money, support, my car, etc. etc., and still to no avail. When the chips are down, sometimes you're your ownly friend.
We each have our own arbitrary requirements of what we want out of our friends. Hence what we consider a "True" friend to be really just serves our own selfish ends anyways, doesn't it? Even if those needs are noble or basic ones (trust, kindness, mutual respect, etc.), they still serve our own selfish needs. If you're healthy, not living on skid row, and your friends seem to still be abandoning you, it could very well say more about you than it does about them. I want to go on, but I've lost my train of thought. I'm rather horny today.  | |
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Imago said: When the chips are down, most people won't be there for you. So unconditional support is normally not something I tack on to the requirements for friendship. Everybody has their own demons to tackle, and I've always been big on being able to handle one's own affairs. I've sometimes come across as cold and uncaring to friends when I'm not always there for them, but I've always found that they never took into account what I was going through during their own times of need. I've let friends live with me rent free for months to get their lives back on track, only to have them turn my house into a playboy mansion complete with ex-wives showing up at my door to slash their wrists (true story), then to never hear from my friends again once they've left. I've loaned friends money, support, my car, etc. etc., and still to no avail. When the chips are down, sometimes you're your ownly friend.
Great post Dan.We each have our own arbitrary requirements of what we want out of our friends. Hence what we consider a "True" friend to be really just serves our own selfish ends anyways, doesn't it? Even if those needs are noble or basic ones (trust, kindness, mutual respect, etc.), they still serve our own selfish needs. If you're healthy, not living on skid row, and your friends seem to still be abandoning you, it could very well say more about you than it does about them. I want to go on, but I've lost my train of thought. I'm rather horny today. | |
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