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PrintableFauxie said: JustErin said: Sorry, but I actually have been in long term relationships where I lived with the person and I never, ever had an issue with not having time for sex. Besides, the issue is not having the time - not whether or not you want to have sex with your partner because you've had disagreements all day. I am a full time mom and work full time - whether I have a man hanging around all day or over for just a few hours isn't what we're talking about here. The point is that I would never be in a position where I just couldn't find the time for sex because my life is just too busy or I am too tired. And my real point is that if you love sex and are attracted to your partner....you will always have time for sex. To me, the whole no time for it is just an excuse and not the real reason why they don't wanna get busy. I see my posts and I see yours and it's scaring me how much they're in agreement. I'm starting to think there's no way I could have a horribly, unhappy marriage and bitter divorce with you.  Shut the fuck up. There, does that help a little?  | |
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JustErin said: Fauxie said: I see my posts and I see yours and it's scaring me how much they're in agreement. I'm starting to think there's no way I could have a horribly, unhappy marriage and bitter divorce with you. Shut the fuck up. There, does that help a little? That's better. Now everything's as it should be. I have no doubt you wouldn't find time to have sex with me.  | |
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Fauxie said: JustErin said: Shut the fuck up. There, does that help a little? That's better. Now everything's as it should be. I have no doubt you wouldn't find time to have sex with me. No, I'd fine the time but I would also find the time to belittle and humiliate you on your sexual performance once we were done. | |
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JustErin said: Fauxie said: That's better. Now everything's as it should be. I have no doubt you wouldn't find time to have sex with me. No, I'd fine the time but I would also find the time to belittle and humiliate you on your sexual performance once we were done. After I came.  | |
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Fauxie said: JustErin said: No, I'd fine the time but I would also find the time to belittle and humiliate you on your sexual performance once we were done. After I came. Sure. I'll let you do that. | |
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JustErin said: Fauxie said: After I came. Sure. I'll let you do that. Cool. You'd only be saying what my wife's thinking.  | |
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Fauxie said: JustErin said: Sure. I'll let you do that. Cool. You'd only be saying what my wife's thinking.  | |
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JustErin said: Fauxie said: Cool. You'd only be saying what my wife's thinking. So should she leave me or cheat?  | |
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Fauxie said: JustErin said: So should she leave me or cheat? Stay and continue to make your life a living hell. That's what I would do. | |
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JustErin said: Fauxie said: So should she leave me or cheat? Stay and continue to make your life a living hell. That's what I would do.  | |
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JustErin said: ZombieKitten said: you know my reply to this one
you have the perfect set-up you are not trying to live with your guys. you do it your own way all day long and then invite one over for hot sex, a breath of fresh air, a chance to forget your whole day's events and get down to it. After spending the day in disagreements over household/child-rearing issues with your partner, it's very hard to switch off from all that to fuck his brains out at night. If I could have someone else at that point, someone nice to come over that I didn't actually have to talk to about bills and what's for dinner, sure I would have time for sex Sorry, but I actually have been in long term relationships where I lived with the person and I never, ever had an issue with not having time for sex. Besides, the issue is not having the time - not whether or not you want to have sex with your partner because you've had disagreements all day. I am a full time mom and work full time - whether I have a man hanging around all day or over for just a few hours isn't what we're talking about here. The point is that I would never be in a position where I just couldn't find the time for sex because my life is just too busy or I am too tired. And my real point is that if you love sex and are attracted to your partner....you will always have time for sex. To me, the whole no time for it is just an excuse and not the real reason why they don't wanna get busy. If I had no kids at all, or just one, I would say same as you. 
According to what you said, my husband does not love sex and is not attracted to me. Can you see why I would rather explain that he has no time?
And if you ask him, I think he is quite happy with a once a fortnight sex. | |
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Muse2NOPharaoh said: ZombieKitten said: you know my reply to this one
you have the perfect set-up you are not trying to live with your guys. you do it your own way all day long and then invite one over for hot sex, a breath of fresh air, a chance to forget your whole day's events and get down to it. After spending the day in disagreements over household/child-rearing issues with your partner, it's very hard to switch off from all that to fuck his brains out at night. If I could have someone else at that point, someone nice to come over that I didn't actually have to talk to about bills and what's for dinner, sure I would have time for sex Ive had it both ways and I very much see your point entirely! You also have 3 kids all under 6... this again changes the equation entirely. My eldest is 8 now 
Kids, health issues, money worries etc. Takes up a lot of brain space Sometimes sex is not at the forefront of your thoughts, no matter how hot you are for your partner. | |
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ZombieKitten said: Muse2NOPharaoh said: Ive had it both ways and I very much see your point entirely! You also have 3 kids all under 6... this again changes the equation entirely. My eldest is 8 now
Kids, health issues, money worries etc. Takes up a lot of brain space Sometimes sex is not at the forefront of your thoughts, no matter how hot you are for your partner. WOW! They grow so fast.... I remember everything you say both as one who was married for 15 years and then not for 9. Far easier to be intimate with someone I don't share all my hopes, dreams, debts and struggles with. | |
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Fauxie said: morningsong said: Wow, other people making decisions on how two people should decide on how to conduct their relationship. Deep.
Because of course they have to give a fuck what people on the internet say.  
Not only was this "issue" posted on a DISCUSSION site, but society in general has always set standards on how people conduct their relationships. Society and our culture is what makes us disdain polygamy. Not our DNA. By St. Boogar and all the saints at the backside door of Purgatory! | |
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Yes I'm getting here late.
No, I didn't read every post on the thread. That being said, if you were in counseling and your wife knows you are sexually frustrated why is she having a problem with you handling your business? Does she just want your life to be miserable and is withholding sex to further that aim? I know I would never hide my frustration and would explain that I'd go look elsewhere if I have to go YEARS in a relationship without sex? I'd have to be seriously in love not to walk away. If we want the relationship, then sex better be a part of it and if my partner can't do that . . . . love ya, but we are done. I don't want you to think like me. I just want you to think. | |
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JustErin said: ZombieKitten said: you know my reply to this one
you have the perfect set-up you are not trying to live with your guys. you do it your own way all day long and then invite one over for hot sex, a breath of fresh air, a chance to forget your whole day's events and get down to it. After spending the day in disagreements over household/child-rearing issues with your partner, it's very hard to switch off from all that to fuck his brains out at night. If I could have someone else at that point, someone nice to come over that I didn't actually have to talk to about bills and what's for dinner, sure I would have time for sex Sorry, but I actually have been in long term relationships where I lived with the person and I never, ever had an issue with not having time for sex. Besides, the issue is not having the time - not whether or not you want to have sex with your partner because you've had disagreements all day. I am a full time mom and work full time - whether I have a man hanging around all day or over for just a few hours isn't what we're talking about here. The point is that I would never be in a position where I just couldn't find the time for sex because my life is just too busy or I am too tired. And my real point is that if you love sex and are attracted to your partner....you will always have time for sex. To me, the whole no time for it is just an excuse and not the real reason why they don't wanna get busy. You know what, I have to agree with you Erin thinking about it. It's NOT simply there is "no time", you can "get it in where you can fit it in" it IS exactly as you say... There are other things that make a man/woman decide sex is not the priorty. That's where honest open communication comes in. Finding out why your partner is no longer interested in sex is the key. This makes me also agree with ZombieKitten as well, we use the "no time" reason as a blanket to cover up what's really going on in the relationship. From my own personal experience, sex is a mental thing first for me. Shit waaaay outside foreplay made it or broke it for me sexually. Especially after the kids came along. I had to learn get over that in my marraige, and he had to learn foreplay was more than just a kiss on my lips, tits, and clit. Once, we had a chance to talk about things and understand what did it for us both we were much more responsive to each others needs without letting outside factors get in the way. Then it's was never a problem again. That made all the difference, didn't save the marriage though | |
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Fauxie said: honeypot69 said: I live with someone for 10 years. Wasn't pretty. I really like the idea of separate places for breathing room That's cool with me. You just pop on over whenever.  cool mon cherry  | |
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nammie said: JustErin said: Sorry, but I actually have been in long term relationships where I lived with the person and I never, ever had an issue with not having time for sex. Besides, the issue is not having the time - not whether or not you want to have sex with your partner because you've had disagreements all day. I am a full time mom and work full time - whether I have a man hanging around all day or over for just a few hours isn't what we're talking about here. The point is that I would never be in a position where I just couldn't find the time for sex because my life is just too busy or I am too tired. And my real point is that if you love sex and are attracted to your partner....you will always have time for sex. To me, the whole no time for it is just an excuse and not the real reason why they don't wanna get busy. You know what, I have to agree with you Erin thinking about it. It's NOT simply there is "no time", you can "get it in where you can fit it in" it IS exactly as you say... There are other things that make a man/woman decide sex is not the priorty. That's where honest open communication comes in. Finding out why your partner is no longer interested in sex is the key. This makes me also agree with ZombieKitten as well, we use the "no time" reason as a blanket to cover up what's really going on in the relationship. From my own personal experience, sex is a mental thing first for me. Shit waaaay outside foreplay made it or broke it for me sexually. Especially after the kids came along. I had to learn get over that in my marraige, and he had to learn foreplay was more than just a kiss on my lips, tits, and clit. Once, we had a chance to talk about things and understand what did it for us both we were much more responsive to each others needs without letting outside factors get in the way. Then it's was never a problem again. That made all the difference, didn't save the marriage though that's right
sex and life can't be so separate you have to keep the sexiness alive despite being in each other's face all the time it needs to be there even during mundane activities.
I like when he grabs my ass while I'm making the school lunches, with a look that says "wait til I get you alone later", there just needs to be more of it  | |
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ZombieKitten said: nammie said: You know what, I have to agree with you Erin thinking about it. It's NOT simply there is "no time", you can "get it in where you can fit it in" it IS exactly as you say... There are other things that make a man/woman decide sex is not the priorty. That's where honest open communication comes in. Finding out why your partner is no longer interested in sex is the key. This makes me also agree with ZombieKitten as well, we use the "no time" reason as a blanket to cover up what's really going on in the relationship. From my own personal experience, sex is a mental thing first for me. Shit waaaay outside foreplay made it or broke it for me sexually. Especially after the kids came along. I had to learn get over that in my marraige, and he had to learn foreplay was more than just a kiss on my lips, tits, and clit. Once, we had a chance to talk about things and understand what did it for us both we were much more responsive to each others needs without letting outside factors get in the way. Then it's was never a problem again. That made all the difference, didn't save the marriage though that's right
sex and life can't be so separate you have to keep the sexiness alive despite being in each other's face all the time it needs to be there even during mundane activities.
I like when he grabs my ass while I'm making the school lunches, with a look that says "wait til I get you alone later", there just needs to be more of it What does he say when you tell him you want/need more sex? Surely you've told him, what's his excuse??   I never met you, but I LOVE you & I will forever!! Thank you for being YOU - my little Princey, the best to EVER do it | |
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You're the guy that lives literally 2 minutes walking distance from me in my neighborhood, right? Copper Ridge?  | |
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CalhounSq said: ZombieKitten said: that's right
sex and life can't be so separate you have to keep the sexiness alive despite being in each other's face all the time it needs to be there even during mundane activities.
I like when he grabs my ass while I'm making the school lunches, with a look that says "wait til I get you alone later", there just needs to be more of it What does he say when you tell him you want/need more sex? Surely you've told him, what's his excuse?? he says, "we have 3 kids Charlotte, it's not LIKE before any more "
he's a tired old fart! | |
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ZombieKitten said: CalhounSq said: What does he say when you tell him you want/need more sex? Surely you've told him, what's his excuse?? he says, "we have 3 kids Charlotte, it's not LIKE before any more "
he's a tired old fart! Do you ever initiate?  I never met you, but I LOVE you & I will forever!! Thank you for being YOU - my little Princey, the best to EVER do it | |
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CalhounSq said: ZombieKitten said: he says, "we have 3 kids Charlotte, it's not LIKE before any more "
he's a tired old fart! Do you ever initiate? sure
BUT if I do, I don't like it as much, since what turns me ON is his desire for me. If I make a move I get wham bam thank you man  and I'm left wondering was that ever worth it?
I COULD go and watch porn or something first I suppose, but I don't like naked strangers in my thoughts 
If he is looking at me that way, and I know what's on his mind, and there's the whole anticipation thing first, then it works out for both of us, but that's rare  | |
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ZombieKitten said: CalhounSq said: Do you ever initiate? sure
BUT if I do, I don't like it as much, since what turns me ON is his desire for me. If I make a move I get wham bam thank you man and I'm left wondering was that ever worth it?
I COULD go and watch porn or something first I suppose, but I don't like naked strangers in my thoughts
If he is looking at me that way, and I know what's on his mind, and there's the whole anticipation thing first, then it works out for both of us, but that's rare Well damn, that blows I thought if you initiated, it would turn him on & make him want it more @ other times, balancing out the equation. Counseling?? I never met you, but I LOVE you & I will forever!! Thank you for being YOU - my little Princey, the best to EVER do it | |
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ZombieKitten said: JustErin said:
Well, it's no bullshit from what I have seen. And I will never understand or buy the 'don't have time for sex' excuse. Man, I do it all (and all by myself) and I never and will never not have time for sex - because I love it. People don't just stop doing things they really enjoy. Sex is an escape from all that other madness. And from what I've seen and heard (even from my own married female friends), many women look at having sex with their husband as just another chore. That doesn't indicate that they just don't have the time, that makes it look like it's just not something they actually enjoy. It's funny that men who are crazy busy and really tired never seem to lose interest because of a lack of time or because they are tired. you know my reply to this one
you have the perfect set-up you are not trying to live with your guys. you do it your own way all day long and then invite one over for hot sex, a breath of fresh air, a chance to forget your whole day's events and get down to it. After spending the day in disagreements over household/child-rearing issues with your partner, it's very hard to switch off from all that to fuck his brains out at night. If I could have someone else at that point, someone nice to come over that I didn't actually have to talk to about bills and what's for dinner, sure I would have time for sex Have U got my Number?????  | |
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ZombieKitten said: CalhounSq said: What does he say when you tell him you want/need more sex? Surely you've told him, what's his excuse?? he says, "we have 3 kids Charlotte, it's not LIKE before any more "
he's a tired old fart! He shoulda Married my Missus! They would've been very happy! (sexually) | |
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Amaxx said: ZombieKitten said: he says, "we have 3 kids Charlotte, it's not LIKE before any more "
he's a tired old fart! He shoulda Married my Missus! They would've been very happy! (sexually)I think so!!!!  | |
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CalhounSq said: ZombieKitten said: sure
BUT if I do, I don't like it as much, since what turns me ON is his desire for me. If I make a move I get wham bam thank you man and I'm left wondering was that ever worth it?
I COULD go and watch porn or something first I suppose, but I don't like naked strangers in my thoughts
If he is looking at me that way, and I know what's on his mind, and there's the whole anticipation thing first, then it works out for both of us, but that's rare Well damn, that blows I thought if you initiated, it would turn him on & make him want it more @ other times, balancing out the equation. Counseling?? yeah it turns him on TOOO much, and then that's it for another fortnight 
I need more than a quickie twice a month  | |
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ZombieKitten said: CalhounSq said: Well damn, that blows I thought if you initiated, it would turn him on & make him want it more @ other times, balancing out the equation. Counseling?? yeah it turns him on TOOO much, and then that's it for another fortnight
I need more than a quickie twice a month "I am here 2 clean ze phool!"  | |
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