The things you have learned from children

both positive and negitive

and most important, what you have learned about yourself from a child

Okay ?

Go !



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[Edited 8/1/08 9:06am]

More than anything, I've learned patience from my kids. My daughter Aja has taught me to speak my mind more.

From my children I have learned that my parents were right most of the time.

What I have learned about myself is how far I am willing to go and what I am willing to sacrifice to make their lives better.

RenHoek said:

this is very true!!!!

I remember being in high school and my sociology teacher talking about how she took care of her dad when he took ill. She spoke of things I said I could never do. You don't know what sacrifice is until you have to brush someone's teeth for them.

Patience is a big thing for me also . I have a 3.5 yr old that tries my patience daily !

Some of the negative things about myself i have learned - are quite genetic i fear ! (my mom to this day doesnt like kids around that are too "noisy" etc ... and i worry that i will NEVER get like that ... altho i do see it coming in some ways .... but ... who knows ... even at work - i miss my kids all the time !

i try to be much more "POSITIVE" to my kids than i think my parents were to me ... at the same time - i am very thankful for alot of things my parents did do for me ...

Positive:

That it's amazing to give yourself to another and not have it be all about 'me'.

Negative:

That sometimes you just want to punch them in the face....hard.

(of course, I never hit my kid, not even spank him...but shit, I get so frustrated every now and then that think it sometimes!)
[Edited 8/1/08 10:36am]

I can only say what I've learned from my nephews ....and they're very odd children cause they have no fear of adults and see themselves as equals to adults



A few things:


1) I've learned that I am a hypocrite much more often than I think. And the kids were CONSTANTLY calling me out for it (like cursing, etc. ).

2) I've learned that I come up with all manner of complicated reasons why I can't do something, and sometimes the solution is very simple. Kids tend to see the simple solution to things (Tired of being fat? Well, then lose weight, Uncle Dan! .)

3) I've learned that grownups can't learn for shit. The speed with wich kids retain information is astounding.

Until I had my first child, I really didnt know what pure unconditional
love was.
Since then, Ive learned...it is damn hard being a parent.

RenHoek said:

I should also add that caring for my kids has given me a greater sense of compassion towards others.

Recently a good friend of mine fell two stories off a roof. Drunk fucker that he was he was lucky to have survived but now he's pretty laid up with a broken back,two broken heels, broken knee and hand. I spent the day with him at the county hospital (I have now witnessed the NEED for universal health care!) and he is helpless. While they ran their tests I did what I could to make him comfortable and I helped move his broken body around so they could take the x-rays they needed. He has no one at home to help him when they release him so I felt obligated to be there for him when the time comes. When the doctor said he'd need help using the toilet he kinda looked at me funny but considering I clean my kids butts all the time I stepped up and in doing so I really surprised myself. My friend was all "no, no I can't ask you..." and I looked at him and said "Dude, you don't need to ask, I got your back."

That's something my kids taught me without even trying...

Thank you for sharing


I have learned to laugh at myself more and more
I have learned that even when I am feeling 100% unlovable - I am still loved
I have learned that sometimes I am not a nice person
I have learned that even when you really dislike someone you can still love them
I have learned to let go gently while my heart is screaming to hold on tight
I have learned that no matter how much positive intention you have to protect another from harm - it still happens to them
I have learned that there is no more beautiful woman in the world then your daughter as she walks down the isle or glows from pregnancy
I have learned to more deeply love my husband by watching his sons become incredible men themselves
I have learned that I AM a good Mom even through my imperfections

I'm sure parents learn a lot from their children because you would have to live your life for someone else, and they're dependent upon you for everything.

As a big child myself, I haven't learned much.

I have learned to never ask if an outfit makes me look fat unless I really want an honest answer. Kids are horrible liars.

To go with the flow

JuliePurplehead said:

I admire their honesty like that

we should all strive to be much more like the children

Positive...that things aren't nearly as complicated as adults makes them...

Negative...that my buttons can be pushed fairly easily...