Okay, so I posted a while ago about me wanting to be with this girl I know. Well, I DIDN'T write her a message like I was told (by you guys ). But she's somewhat of a MySpace fiend and she does those silly little survey things and one of the questions was if she was available or not and her response was basically "I don't know". And she mentions she's been getting close to this kid I know (and hate) and she said she's dedicating a lot of time to this dude. Now as far as I was concerned she was just friends with him, but she didn't want me to be mad at her for being friends with this kid. And I'm not but what I'm worried about is, she's wanting to start dating this kid, which would SUCK because that means I waited to long to make my move, and not only that, but she's gonna be with someone I HATE (long story). Plus, if she's gonna be spending all her time with him, chances are, I won't wanna be around because I can't stand to be around this fool. So I just asked her flat out if she was feeling this dude or not (via MySpace), and if she says yes, I'm gonna tell her how I feel about her and how this dude is ALL wrong for her (or any woman really. He's a really shitty guy). If she says no, I'll just play it cool and ask her out to dinner or something next time we're hanging out.

Wish me luck, cuz it ain't lookin too good for me right now and Thanks for putting up with my childish, pointless rants
[Edited 7/27/08 0:53am]

Wishing you luck but obviously you should've at least written.

good luck dude!!!!

Everyone on here told me a message/email would be a bad idea because it was too impersonal and I should just be upfront with her in person

Orgnote.

Volitan said:

upfront and personal would be so much better

Why wait and let her and that other dude control the situation? Just go see her and tell her what's up.

If you wait and then pull out the he's all wrong for you shit, you're gonna come off like a Julia Robert's movie.


SO, you gonna sac up or are you making "My Best Friend's Wedding II"?

Yeah, she does like the other dude. I don't know why. I'm gonna go do some stuff and try to figure out what to say when I call her, lol

Ok, I called her and she DOES like this guy. Now, in the past she dated one of my firends (the 4 of us are like CORE friends, since elementary school), and she said that ruined their friendship and she wouldn't date one of her best friends again because she doesn't want that to be ruined too. Basically the conversation went like this.

Me: Well I don't like this guy. He really doesn't seem like you type (she agrees here, but says he's different now). I mean, why would you date him instead of me or ****
Her: Well, I dated **** and it ruined out friendship. He's totally different around me now. I wouldn't do that again.
Me: But a strong friendship is the foundation of a good relationship
Her: But if I dated you or ****, and it didn't work out you guys would change. At least if I date this guy and it doesn't work out, I'm not that goodf of friends with him anyway.

So, there it is. She values our friendship and doesn't want to spoil that. I'm not pissed at her for dating someone else but why does it have to be THIS guy. I hate this guy. He's a piece of scum. Oh well. There are other fish, etc, etc.