ZombieKitten said:

That's what almost killed my coworker!!

No thanks!!

JustErin said:

how?

meow85 said:

Just another reason to not use the ring. I'm afraid of it falling out or bothering me/him during sex...sex that is not all soft and sweet, if you know what I mean.

I think u have said no to every method now....so that's it ...No more sex for u .....or lots of babies

ZombieKitten said:

Caused severe migraines and also gave her a uterus infection.

Ocean said:

Nooooo!!!!!

JustErin said:

Exactly ...now keep practicing that

JustErin said:

normal pills give me migranies

I don't want anyone EVER poking around in my cervix again, which is why I told my doc a firm NOOOOO FUCKING WAYYYYY when she suggested an IUD

I'm waiting for the master to make his V-day appointment

BabyGirl said:

awww damn babyg... really? i mean, he's cute and everything but there goes that plan. i was thinking this would be better than the pill too.

JustErin said:

Yeah, that'd be a fright. In the middle of all sorts of fun, and your fella pulls out to switch positions or something and he's wearing a new accessory.

got no nanny, try a tranny ?

Ocean said:

Guess it's safer to org than to "look" at home....

Have your man du jour try the rhythm method...worked for me...ermmm... oh shit... nevamind....

pardonme4livin said:

Ya, that's what I do now. I know I shouldn't but because I spent my entire adult life not having to worry about getting pregnant (as was told by my doctor at 19 and that's how it was until I was 30) it's really hard for me to get into the 'you must be really careful' mindset.

I really have no idea if getting pregnant was just some weird one time thing with me or if I am all fertile now.

JustErin said:

You frighten me....

Can I ask you a serious question....you seem to take a lot of chances (by your admission) when it comes to sex....why so cavalier about it? I mean are you seriously not fearful of an STD or unplanned pregnancies? You are old enough to know better than that...not trying to be all preachy...but you NEED to be more careful young lady...

That is all....

pardonme4livin said:

1) I don't have to worry about STDs because I am not sleeping with people who have them. It's that simple. If I was meeting new people then I would be careful but with these two it's all good.

2) I already explained why my attitude about the pregnancy risk is so cavalier eariler and this thread represents me trying to get into a more responsable mindset.

3) Other than a pregnanct risk...I don't see how I am taking a chance with sex at all.

JustErin said:

Well you are not monogomous.....who's to say they are? If they are not monogomous with you then perhaps their other partners are not either....you see what I mean? Best case scenario...you are right and your TWO partners are clean...worst case...you are sleeping with numerous people by osmosis...people you may not know or have any idea about their sexual practices...

Again... you are a grown ass woman and certainly do not need me telling you how it is...I say it because you should want better for yourself...that's all I mean...

pardonme4livin said:

I can't see how this has anything to do with 'bettering myself'. Maybe in terms of me wanting to have people think better of me...but I really don't care what people think of me in regards to my sexual practices.

I'm with two people. Both know about each other and I know what's going on with them. Both are clean, both take percautions to stay that way with others (well, one - the one that I am with the most - is not with anyone else at all). And both know that with me, it's all good. We're all good to go.

I know it's really hard for some people to grasp the idea that there actually are some that are just really honest with each other and are not hiding anything. Some of us are straight forward when it comes to sex.

Like I said, if I was out there meeting new people, sleeping around with everyone (which is not my style) I'd be practicing safe sex...but it's not like that at all.

JustErin said:

how are you so sure these 2 men aren't also sleeping with other women? even if say...one might be married...doesn't mean he's not cheating with someone else too...
be carefull
oops..I see it was said already....
anyway...good luck with all that "honesty"
[Edited 7/15/08 7:50am]

Shorty said:

I am sure of what's going on. One isn't...one is.

Again, everything is upfront and no one is hiding anything from anyone.

It's very interesting to me that people automatically assume that the men are just being dishonest...or that there is this huge risk of them lying to me.

JustErin said:

I just don't trust men. Even if one is saying that he is only with me and no others, I wouldn't 100% trust that. They may be faithful to me 98% of the time but I feel like there is always that temptation that a man will succumb to.

I've known too many women in monogamous relationships who ended up with some STD or STI because they thought that their partner was honest and only with them, etc, etc,


But those are my issues, I guess.

However, being that you don't want to get preggers again, using a condom along with another form of birth control isn't a bad idea. Especially after reading all these posts about babies conceived on various methods of hormonal birth control.

As far as the ring goes, I have a few friends who are on it and they love it. So far none of them are pregnant. Personally, I loved being on the pill but couldn't be on it because of my headaches. So I basically stay away from hormonal methods of birth control. I figure I'll get my tubes tied after I'm done having kids.

JustErin said:

I think it's mostly a "better safe than sorry" approach.

Of course, I generally don't trust men in those situations either.

JustErin said:

I personally didn't say "huge" risk but...lying is indeed a risk that should not be ignored no matter how sure you think you are....right?
people seem to be generally worried about you...it's a good thing

JasmineFire said:

The thing is, I'm not saying that these guys won't be interested in others. I'm saying that they are honest about it. So if they come to me and tell me what's up...I can then decide what I want to do...or not do.

I'm really not sure what to do about birth control. Everything seems so complicated and I worry about things that change your hormones and whatnot.

I dunno, maybe I should just take the pill.

CarrieMpls said:

Yes, I totally understand the 'better safe than sorry' mindset. It's a good one to have. I'm not knocking it.

Shorty said:

It's nice that people (basically strangers) are worried.

I'm very comfortable with the situation I am in. If something comes up to make me doubt anything, I'll deal with it at that time.

But for now...it's all good.

Except I'm concerned that I'll get pregnant (but only by one since the other has had a vasectomy and even then, I don't really see the other one that much at all anymore).

I can't just comfortably take that risk anymore.

JustErin said:

the thing with the pill is that if you're not taking it at the same time everyday, then you may as well flush the pills down the toilet.

birth control is such a pain in the ass. I do have to say that even though I loved the pill, I'm probably much happier now that I'm not on it. I'm much more laid back and relaxed, which is an interesting change.

Would a spermacidal cream or a diaphragm work for you at all?

JasmineFire said:

I don't think a diaphragm would work, but maybe spermacidal cream is a good idea.

Anyone have any experience with that??

JustErin said:

I've used it - it worked great for me.