SCNDLS said:

thats what I was thinking

thekidsgirl said:

No it doesn't, but for some people shyness can be paralyzing.

JustErin said:

yeah, now that would be my brother, he actually has socialphobia
but I'm not quite that bad

thekidsgirl said:

Your poor brother. I'm glad it's not like that for you.

JustErin said:

I'm glad too. His life is a difficukt one

JasmineFire said:

I didn't make the decision. I made a suggestion
[Edited 7/14/08 22:05pm]

SCNDLS said:

Therapy is not a bad thing

uh, neeeeevermiiiiind.



[Edited 7/14/08 22:17pm]

Janfriend said:

I didn't say it was. But assuming that someone needs therapy just cuz they say they long for a relationship and are shy seems like a presumptively huge leap on your part IMO.

ThreadBare said:

I really get fired up when I'm called 'selfish' for not wanting to share myself with another. The reason I'm single4life is because I'm honest with myself and know my personality - I like being alone, doing whatever the f-ck I want with no responsibility to anyone but me. F-cking morons, that includes family too.


But I still believe single women catch more grief than single guys because of the 'motherhood' thing.

SCNDLS said:

Just like justerin said shyness can be paralyzing. Daydreaming about someone can be a very "now" desire. There's nothing wrong with talking to someone about it. It's not that serious of a thing. I guess people still stigmatize therapy

uPtoWnNY said:

I'm painfully aware my eggs are getting old

Janfriend said:

There you go ASSuming again. How much clearer can I be when I say I'm not "stigmatizing" anything. I'm just saying that it was a big freakin' leap. Geez!
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SCNDLS said:

Well, that's how I interpreted what you said

Janfriend said:

How do you think someone would interpret YOUR comment of "Seek a therapist to help you with this, especially the shyness, before you get depressed"????

SCNDLS said:

Did you read what that was in response to?

Janfriend said:

Yes I did and your response made it seem like homegirl was suicidal or some shit. What she expressed seemed pretty normal to me and not like someone who's crying out for help or even remotely depressed or in need of therapy.

SCNDLS said:

Well you and I have different opinions on what therapy is for and when to seek it out. Like I said before, you don't have to be on the edge of a cliff. You don't have to be suicidal or deeply depressed. IMO, It's wise not to wait until there is a dire need. That kind of attitude is what I classify as stigmatizing

Janfriend said:

Okay, whatever.

Janfriend said:

you just sounded pretty forceful. i thought it was an over the top response to a pretty normal post.

i think that therapy is wonderful and can be a great help but it can only help if someone wants it.

you're right, you don't have to be on the edge of a cliff to seek therapy but you also have to want it for it to make any difference.

JasmineFire said:

Absolutely