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PrintableFunkMistress said: Imago said: 13) Bad dancers who think they're good. This is about me, isn't it?  No, its me. | |
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minneapolisgenius said: My God after reading everyone's responses, no one here would ever date me!
I do have good hygiene though.  but your saving grace is that you're so beautiful. men tend to overlook anything if you're beautiful enough lol. and true love lives on lollipops and crisps | |
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IstenSzek said: minneapolisgenius said: My God after reading everyone's responses, no one here would ever date me!
I do have good hygiene though. but your saving grace is that you're so beautiful. men tend to overlook anything if you're beautiful enough lol.  maybe I'm not too bad looking then! if they are willing to overlook my little problem! | |
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IstenSzek said: minneapolisgenius said: My God after reading everyone's responses, no one here would ever date me!
I do have good hygiene though. but your saving grace is that you're so beautiful. men tend to overlook anything if you're beautiful enough lol.  Aw you're so sweet.  
Yeah, just ask my husband. Hell, I would have left me LONG ago if I were him.  "I saw a woman with major Hammer pants on the subway a few weeks ago and totally thought of you." - sextonseven | |
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mdiver said: But if you love them despite that.....when you are pissed and you still cant stop loving them...when they infuriate you and you still smile.....that is love
Man, I was pissed so many times and I still couldn't kick her out and KEEP her out. She kept coming back and back, apologising again, lying again, seducing me again and I kept on forgiving and forgetting, pretending nothing happened. Uuntill it all blew up. If you ask me that was not "love". | |
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JustErin said: Serious said: IMO it is. It may or may not stand the test of time, but it is. Even if I find out that somebody isn't the right person for me I may still love that person, maybe a lot more than someone who is in a 20 year marriage loves his husband. Like I said for everyone love is different. Every guy I have had a serious relationship with is someone that I will love forever. Actually, I get along with them and even keep in touch. To me, love does stand the test of time. It's not fleeting...lust, infatuation and obsession are. That could get you in trouble with a new partner, if your ex still wants you. It was one of the things I "found out" AFTER I had already "fallen in love". It made me crazy, because he would call her all the time. I let her know soon that I couldn't deal with that, we talked about it, she "understood" and actually promised to limit the contact with her ex to an absolute minimum, but the didn't, broke her promises and lied about it. It became the first and foremost deal breaker. | |
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Tremolina said: JustErin said: Every guy I have had a serious relationship with is someone that I will love forever. Actually, I get along with them and even keep in touch. To me, love does stand the test of time. It's not fleeting...lust, infatuation and obsession are. That could get you in trouble with a new partner, if your ex still wants you. It was one of the things I "found out" AFTER I had already "fallen in love". It made me crazy, because he would call her all the time. I let her know soon that I couldn't deal with that, we talked about it, she "understood" and actually promised to limit the contact with her ex to an absolute minimum, but the didn't, broke her promises and lied about it. It became the first and foremost deal breaker. darn it  that would suck so bad | |
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ZombieKitten said: Tremolina said: That could get you in trouble with a new partner, if your ex still wants you. It was one of the things I "found out" AFTER I had already "fallen in love". It made me crazy, because he would call her all the time. I let her know soon that I couldn't deal with that, we talked about it, she "understood" and actually promised to limit the contact with her ex to an absolute minimum, but the didn't, broke her promises and lied about it. It became the first and foremost deal breaker. darn it that would suck so badYou bet. | |
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Tremolina said: ZombieKitten said: darn it that would suck so badYou bet. I remember on the second "date" with my husband to be, he grilled me about my ex to make sure it was over good and proper  I had forgotten about that until now. Very practical, in hindsight | |
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ZombieKitten said: Tremolina said: You bet. I remember on the second "date" with my husband to be, he grilled me about my ex to make sure it was over good and proper I had forgotten about that until now. Very practical, in hindsight Glad it worked it for the both of you then. It didn't for us. Her ex actually was sort of her ex-husband; they had been together for 10 years! So, it wasn't easy for her to let go of him. She said tho' that it was really over and they were "just friends", untill I found out she was still seeing him, after being promised that wouldn't happen anymore. Then she was like: "I am sorry, but do you know how hard it is to let go off somebody you have been with for 10 years? That's like being married to eachother!" Exactly. | |
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Tremolina said: JustErin said: Every guy I have had a serious relationship with is someone that I will love forever. Actually, I get along with them and even keep in touch. To me, love does stand the test of time. It's not fleeting...lust, infatuation and obsession are. That could get you in trouble with a new partner, if your ex still wants you. It was one of the things I "found out" AFTER I had already "fallen in love". It made me crazy, because he would call her all the time. I let her know soon that I couldn't deal with that, we talked about it, she "understood" and actually promised to limit the contact with her ex to an absolute minimum, but the didn't, broke her promises and lied about it. It became the first and foremost deal breaker. We still love each other, we don't want to be with each other romantically. There is nothing to worry about. | |
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JustErin said: Tremolina said: That could get you in trouble with a new partner, if your ex still wants you. It was one of the things I "found out" AFTER I had already "fallen in love". It made me crazy, because he would call her all the time. I let her know soon that I couldn't deal with that, we talked about it, she "understood" and actually promised to limit the contact with her ex to an absolute minimum, but the didn't, broke her promises and lied about it. It became the first and foremost deal breaker. We still love each other, we don't want to be with each other romantically. There is nothing to worry about. Problem in my case was that HE did want to be with her romantically and she didn't keep her promise. BTW. Does your ex call you daily? Never had a problem with a new partner about that? | |
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Tremolina said: JustErin said: We still love each other, we don't want to be with each other romantically. There is nothing to worry about. Problem in my case was that HE did want to be with her romantically and she didn't keep her promise. BTW. Does your ex call you daily? Never had a problem with a new partner about that? We don't talk as often now but there was a time that we talked a lot. Yes, he's actually gone through a few relationships since me. One forbid him from talking to me - and he did as was asked for almost 3 years. Another complained about it but after giving in to the last gf he refused to cut me out again - that relationship ended. He's married now and his wife has never told him not to talk to me but she has admitted that she is not too fond of it. I would never make a promise to his partner that I would stop talking to him. But if he chooses to cut me out, that's fine I'll respect that - just as I did the last time he did it. | |
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JustErin said: Tremolina said: Problem in my case was that HE did want to be with her romantically and she didn't keep her promise. BTW. Does your ex call you daily? Never had a problem with a new partner about that? We don't talk as often now but there was a time that we talked a lot. Yes, he's actually gone through a few relationships since me. One forbid him from talking to me - and he did as was asked for almost 3 years. Another complained about it but after giving in to the last gf he refused to cut me out again - that relationship ended. He's married now and his wife has never told him not to talk to me but she has admitted that she is not too fond of it. I would never make a promise to his partner that I would stop talking to him. But if he chooses to cut me out, that's fine I'll respect that - just as I did the last time he did it. Why did that one end? because of him talking to you? I would have actually been more ok with it if she hadn't promised me that. If there is one thing I hate in a relationship it's broken promises. It's like a lie but then worse, takes away all the trust you need. - [Edited 6/9/08 8:17am] | |
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Tremolina said: JustErin said: We don't talk as often now but there was a time that we talked a lot. Yes, he's actually gone through a few relationships since me. One forbid him from talking to me - and he did as was asked for almost 3 years. Another complained about it but after giving in to the last gf he refused to cut me out again - that relationship ended. He's married now and his wife has never told him not to talk to me but she has admitted that she is not too fond of it. I would never make a promise to his partner that I would stop talking to him. But if he chooses to cut me out, that's fine I'll respect that - just as I did the last time he did it. Why did that one end? because of him talking to you? I would have actually been more ok with it if she hadn't promised me that. If there is one thing I hate in a relationship it's broken promises. It's like a lie but then worse, takes away all the trust you need. - [Edited 6/9/08 8:17am] Oh God, no. It wasn't because of me. They had lots of issues. Again, I think most people have no business making promises they simply just can't keep. I also think it's silly to think that because someone gives you their word they won't do just as they said they wouldn't do. I'm not saying that it's wrong to trust people, but hey...at least realize that it's all just lip service. | |
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IstenSzek said: after a consecutive strain of losers with a capital L i'm in a self imposed
dating lull right now and i've decided that i will no longer put up with any of the following if i ever run into someone i'll consider dating: * guys with an uber-ego (always finding fault with everyone xcept themselves) * guys that can't talk about their feeling
* guys that can't express themselves in an argument other then acting like 5 yr old 
* guys that play mind games, no matter how insignificant they may seem * guys that, when watching tv can't stop saying "oh that boy is soooo cute/hot" * guys that were never taught how to fucking clean up after themselves. * guys that cheat (duh) 
* guys that make off hand racial slurs and act like they're just jokes 
* guys that are rude to women in general and waitresses in particular * guys that are not out. like 30 yr olds that say "my mom would just die" 
* guys that are divorced (with children) * guys that say "i'm 100% top". puhlease i'm not your vessel to be filled bitch * guys that try to change you 360 into some insane ideal they have. jeez, just go out and find someone who's a better fit 
* guys that try to shove their c*ck up you at 6 am in the morning
* guys that drive tractors * guys that think the crotch does not deserve any attention whilst bathing oh i could go on and on but i think we've already established here that i will never go out on another date for the rest of my life with these criteria  These are pretty much the same as mine, except I don't mind dating divorced guys or guys with kids and the tractor thing - although, I don't know that I've ever known any guy who drives a tractor  | |
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Substance/Qualities/other concerns:
Hyper Narcissistic - the type that acts they are perfect, their own gods and have no faults yet will point out yours LIARS - it's never just one little one, it's usually a series unapologetic lack of ambition and goals smokers/druggies excessive cussing non-believers/atheist/agnostic Republican too focused on keeping up with The Joneses/not focused on own uniqueness Not being upfront with feelings and thoughts can't kill bugs bad hygiene abusive/controlling limited taste in music D/L lifestyle or other secret experiments - please figure out who you are and claim it Physically: thuggish/thuggish-wannabe look pimp/pimp-wannabe look "Funkyslsistah… you ain't funky at all, you just a little ol' prude"!
"It's just my imagination, once again running away with me." | |
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If he reminds me of my parents and my sister, I'll run for the nearest exit. | |
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uPtoWnNY said: smoking
kids too much of a drinker drug user nagging/too talkative too possessive always late bad hygeine out of shape lack of common sense too religious no sense of humor Co-sign on all those especially the ones I highlighted | |
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