I guess my deal breakers would be that he's a smoker, drug user, excessive drinker, bad hygiene, not open-minded, unintelligent, too possessive and jealous (), mocks my personal beliefs, physically and/or mentally abusive, and many more that I can't think of at the moment

These come off the top of my head:

Atheists/faithless/anti-Christian types
Liars
Abusive types (all forms)
People-haters
Bigots
Unaware/apathetic people
Extremely ignorant
Smelly
Non-handwashers
Drug users
Closeted or D/L women
Republicans...

Non physical deal-breakers:

shy
passive
indecisive
dislikes animals
dislikes children
suffers from depression,
battling addiction to whatever
whiner - me against the world types
lacking ambition/drive
uneducated
bigot
fundamentalist/extreme conservatism

JustErin said:

wow thats just about everything I agree on especially that 'me against the world' crap-code for professional victim. Except shy, I like shy guys

Brownsugar said:

I don't mind a guy that's a bit shy - it can be kinda endearing but anything more than a little shy in certain circumstances drives me nutters...I guess cuz I'm just so not shy at all.

JustErin said:

i can't deal with guys who are awkaward and shy at social gatherings. There was this one guy who liked me but would totally isolate himself in certain social situations. it was rough.

JustErin said:

You know, your list would have been a lot shorter if you just would have wrote down my name.

Bringing sex into the conversation

Hairy back.....he would be booked in for a wax job before he knew what hit him.....

Ocean said:

Bears are a big no-no in my book.

JessieJ said:

I'm none of the things you listed

I was listening to an extremely intelligent friend of mine tell me how he dressed down his own mother over childrearing issues. Suddenly I saw a whole side of him capable of bullying. Any sign of that threatening shit would send me packing - it makes me wonder how he and his wife relate behind closed doors

If I fall in love with somebody I might be able to overlook things I find totally annoying or unaccepatable. It would probably depend on the situation with the special person and I would try to change certain things instead of saying that's a nono from the very beginning. So the only definite deal-breaker right from the start would be that I don't feel totally attracted to the person.

smoking
smoking
smoking

i dont mind weed tho lol but ciggys are out!

I'll be echoing Serious here:

I'm not sure I get this thread's question: how could you possibly be attracted in the first place to someone displaying all the negative traits cited here??..

The only way imo is if you've fallen in love.

But where is Love in all this? [this discussion]
Love is Blind. Once in love, I close my eyes on everything. [Mind you that's just me, I'm not claiming it's the key recipe.]

Judging by the exhaustive lists of relationship requirements displayed here, I will dare assume that a lot of people here would support genetic tinkering to design 'perfect' people/partners and select their qualities, etc....

I might be wrong though...

Flo6 said:

I expected to be totally alone with my opinion. Good to see I am not .

Serious said:

OK, some things might come out later
I had already fallen in love with my husband to be before I saw his hairy back it was too late.

Flo6 said:

Exactly. Once people have fallen in love all the bad traits are either forgotten, or people move into a phase of wanting to "change" the other person's bad habits or traits. I have just came out of such a relationship and I can tell you, it's bad and gets worse as time passes by. When I got to know her she seemed so lovely, but as soon as my heart had committed itself to her and we were in a 'serious' relationship, the real her showed up. "Falling in Love" really sucks then.

Tremolina said:

the chemicals you get subjected to by your own body when you are in love cloud your judgement - otherwise how would people ever get together EVER!!!
I read about research done by a professor who interviewed 100 singles, then interviewed them again once they had met "the one" and their list of a potential mate's desirable traits and dealbreakers CHANGED to to suit whoever they happened to be with! Like for example those who said smoking was a dealbreaker before they fell in love with a smoker, now did not list smoking as a dealbreaker anymore!!

ZombieKitten said:

I usually fall in love with someone at first sight.

Serious said:

yeah me too, but what if they wore a t-shirt

ZombieKitten said:

For example I hate to be around smokers. But there are so few men I have fallen in love with in my life if I have a long lists of qualities they have to have or are not allowed to have I would never find anybody in my life .

ZombieKitten said:

That's scary that you say that as the last person I fell in love with didn't wear one.

Serious said:

I went out with a guy who I didn't know smoked until a party once I had not spent THAT much time with him and in the end it didn't work out because he was just not that into me, so it was just as well

Serious said:

EVER?

ZombieKitten said:

Not when I met him and fell in love with him and not 99% of the time I spent with him, but that's a long story....

Serious said:

I think being undressed for the first few weeks is more normal than the other way around

ZombieKitten said:

It wasn't for the reasons you think it was and there were no first few weeks .

Serious said:

you bumped into him at a nudist colony but you had no future because he was gay?

ZombieKitten said:

Very close. I met him on a beach at the other side of the world and I thought we had no future because of various circumstances . And he sure isn't gay.