Why don't some men have any shame or at the very least, subtley? I just got back from Central Park--it is a beautiful day in NYC: sunny, low humidity, not too hot, and nice breeze, so I went to work on my tan. (Yes I know it's bad for me but back to the topic.) I am wearing zero make-up, a bikini top, and black shorts. I'm not in that great of shape and I'm way too pale for my liking...in other words, I'm nothing to get all worked up about. So I'm laying there trying to read a super boring article on Louise Bourgeois, Eva Hesse, anthropomorphism as anti-Minimalism, and the destruction of the father () and some creepster decides to sit on a rock about 10 feet from me. I'm all because I know how this works (at least 3 other creepster guys had already walked a little to close for comfort, pretending to look at the nature when they were really gawking at me and this other girl. ) so I keep my eye on this dude--through my sunglasses.

Sure enough after about 20 minutes of sitting, smoking, shifting positions, (and I got up and moved so I was lying parallel to him, with my beach chair in between me and him), dude stands up and I can tell he's, shall we say, 'excited'. He sits back down and starts to put his hand down his pants. I was like, "You are SICK! You need to stop with that." He stands up and starts walking away and I said, "You better walk away because I'm calling the police, fucking sicko!" I pulled out my cell phone and dialed 311 but didn't press 'call' because he scurried away. Asshole.



Honestly, why are guys so skeevy? Do they think girls aren't smart enough to know what the fuck they are up to? Trying to masturbate in a park when there are people all around?!? And they stick out like sore thumbs because it's a nice day and they are wearing long pants and long sleeved shirts with t-shirts underneath. It's hot--why would you be wearing that in this weather? (To use the long sleeved shirt to lay over your crotch while you jerk off.) They're so not clever.

Ugh.

something similar happened to me one time. I was on the train going up to the east side to get some vaccinations for vet school (we're required to be vaccinated against rabies). Anyway, it was my off day so I was just wearing jeans, a t-shirt, and sneakers and had my hair pulled back.

So I'm sitting on the train and this guy runs in at the last minute and sits down with this huge suitcase on his knee at this weird angle. After a few minutes I notice that he looks like he's going to pass out. I'm all like, "what's wrong with this dude" and then i notice that he has his penis out and he's going at it with no shame at all!

I screamed, got up and ran to the other end of the car and at the next stop I got off and went to the next car.

Disgusting nasty pervert.

Ewwwww that's just not right.

Well for starters, we're not ALL that skeevy... but sure there are some who cross the line. This guy was a line-crosser and I'm sorry you had this run-in with our ne'erdowell brethren.

Is "311" what you call for masturbating pervs?

Unfortunately, this has happened to me a couple of times. Once when I was about 12/13 years old and another time a couple of years ago.

DevotedPuppy said:

Who's number is 311?

311 is a general help line they have in large US cities. It's like 911 for non-emergencies. If you have a question about when your trash gets picked up, or no heat in your building, or to complain about the car alarm going off incessantly at 4am, you call 311.

RenHoek said:

I know not all guys are skeevy. You'll note that my first sentence asked why some men had no shame. Thanks for apologizing though. I hope the dude was embarassed---I bet he wasn't expecting me to yell at him, but I was not about to let him jack off while looking at me, while I was just laying there. And I was there first, and I was not going to let him intimidate me into moving. I still had 40 minutes of good sun.

Oh cool.

I had no idea about 311. I wonder if we have something like that here.

I called 911 on the dudes that pulled it out on me. They even caught one of them.

JustErin said:

I bet if they had a big one, you wouldn't have called 911.

ArielB said:

Shut up.

...sorry you had to deal with that toehead.

And, if you are a straight male, never walk past a gay bar..lol

DevotedPuppy said:

How tight were the shorts....

Things like this never happen to me.....

DevotedPuppy said:

probably in all the porno scenarios he has watched, the object of his lust gets up and gives him a hand/mouth etc

Sorry that happened Joni.

And I disagree you're not much to look at. You're beautiful.

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

me either

ZombieKitten said:

I know right? It's like when guys catcall or whistle when you walk by... Do they actually think that works? Are they expecting the woman to go over and say, "Hey I really like how you sexually objectified me, wanna fuck?"

ThirdandFinal said:

Stymie said:

Thanks dear. Without sounding conceited, I didn't mean that I think I'm never nice to look at---I just meant that sans make-up and in gym shorts I wasn't looking my best; I'm sure there were much better looking options in the park.

yikes! What happened to peeping in private?

Honestly, I don't see anything wrong with staring at you if you're sunbathing in public, but I can't quite defend masturbating in public! that's just plain weird.

And yes he was a man, but that's not a normal man.

NDRU said:

It's something about New York...I guess it's hard to do anything in private with so many people. On Monday my friend & I were in the park and she was telling me about how last year that happened to her at least 3 times. It came up b/c on Monday, this dude walked over near where we were and was sitting against a tree looking at us for a long time, we both kept giving him the evil eye and he finally left. She was saying how there are all sorts of pervy guys that just walk around the park, gawking at girls and jacking off; so to be careful about not going to parts that are too secluded. I picked a spot that had another girl and some gay guys on the other side, but unfortunately after creepster sat down they eventually all packed up and left. But there was still a homeless dude sleeping on the other side of my little cliff, a couple making out on the other side of creepster, and a girl behind me about 25 feet.

Luckily my friend had sort of warned me, otherwise I may not have really paid as much attention until it was way too late.

DevotedPuppy said:

My new sig for a day!

I have a story to share....

I was at the beach, (across the street from my home) and I was laying there enjoying the sunshine with my kids. This old guy walks up behind me and lays his towel down like 20ft away.
I notice him remove his shirt with one arm, his left arm is down looks like his hand is in his crotch, but his right side is facing me so I can't see exactly what he is doing. He is doing this for at least five minutes, I turned and saw his left arm jerking slightly,

I said... "What the hell do you think you are doing?! Can't you see my kids can see you?"

He replied... "Can you help me?"

Just then I noticed that his arm was jerking because he couldn't move it.... he was a stroke victim, and still partially paralyzed on his left side.

I felt like such a heel I quickly got up and helped the guy (finish helping him take off his shirt that was half way off him). Helped him to his car with his stuff later as well.

clarification edit.
[Edited 5/30/08 9:17am]

DevotedPuppy said:

Oh wow, that's strange. I think I just stumbled upon this same guy's profile @ xtube last night.

Ewwwww! Sorry that happened to you Joni. I have heard to many stories like this in NYC.If this happens to you again, snap a picture of him with your cell phone and call 911. I don't think there is a city service other than the NYPD that can handle creeps like these.

paintedlady said:

LOLLLL, i didnt know stuff like this was real

paintedlady said:

I could laugh yet I could cry

DevotedPuppy said:

Definitely a problem of big cities. Hard to find privacy, even in your home, as people can se in your windows.

The real problem is that these guys scare women from ever being scantily clad in public.

NDRU said:

and that would be a tragedy on a world wide scale