CoolTarik1 said:

Well there's no doubt in my mind that women should be looked upon in the same way as men when it comes to promiscuity, but I'd agree with others here that that's simply not how it is.

Personally I have a few female friends in their 20s who I know have slept with 50-100 guys but I don't consider them sluts or look upon them negatively because of it. Everyone has a different story and I'm hesistant about using the fact that someone's slept with a lot of people to make any assumptions about them being unfaithful in a relationship, incapable of commitment or plainly a bad person, or anything like that. I know women who have slept with a lot of guys but are faithful when in a long-term relationship. I know women who just don't want to settle down yet, but rather want to have fun now until they feel they want to be with one special person. I think when you start to generalise on this it's a slippery slope towards being close-minded.

You could find a woman having fun but being careful and then the only probably might be some insecurity issues with the guy feeling less special or just another notch or whatever, even when the woman he's with is now faithful to him.

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[Edited 4/25/08 23:37pm]

Fauxie said:

Yeah, no one's said that there isn't a double standard, but rather that perpetuating it is wrong regardless.

evenstar3 said:

True.

Fauxie said:

I really do not get the double standards.

MuthaFunka said:

Your baseball bat is allowed in my field exclusively.
[Edited 4/26/08 1:20am]

misslilly said:

A person only needs to have sex once (or with one person several times for that matter) to catch an STI. Of course the risks go up the more partners someone has had but if he/she was safe, you're having conversations and both you and your partner are tested you've really got little to worry about. Those are conversations you should be having anyway, regardless of how many partners someone has had.

MsLegs said:

I better be his first...

MuthaFunka said:

The double standard exists. It will be a while before it will ever go away. Men are considered studs while women are hoes. How many fathers do you read about taking their sons to a prostitute for their "first time?" How many fathers take their daughters to a gigolo? What do you think would happen if one did?

How many countries still practice that "virgin" bride crap, while the man doesn't have to prove a thing? How many men have I read right on this forum say things having to do with "evolutionary psychology" to explain the gender differences in sexual behaviors? IOW "it is considered beneficial for them to inseminate as many females as possible to maximize the survival of their offspring." And how many women actually call other women sluts if they think they are sleeping with many or multiple partners? I hear that all the time.

I also hear guys say they won't be going out again with the women from the night before because she slept with him on the first date.

Your son has girls calling him at home at all hours. Father says, "Yeah, my son is a playa. Can you handle all those girls, son?" Daughter has lots of guys calling at all hours. Father says, "Who the hell is calling you at this time of night??? Give me that phone!"

No, it isn't right. Yes, it STILL exists. If it didn't, all those women in rap videos wouldn't be getting the shit they get just for dancing half-naked, when the male rappers in the same video have probably slept with more underage girls than you can count. And females fawn all over the rap star, while looking down on the women.

Whenever you meet a guy that thinks one set of standards applies to him and another set applies to you, the only right and appropriate thing to do is to run for the hills! Get as far away from him as possible.

noimageatall said:

Wasn't there supposed to be a caveat in that?

CarrieMpls said:

Exactly. This is the point I've been stating all along. Its all about the Communicating between the partner and by making love to the what's behind the ears first before making love to loins between the legs. Meeting of the minds body and souls. That's a real a bond that will last. Haters keep speculating. Case Closed

MuthaFunka said:

It could have at that time yes

Now, Naa



we're old fuckers

Mach said:

Aw damn.

MuthaFunka said:

no i dont care how many sexual partners a new interest has had before me because he's only ever been having sex with me inside all of them.

superkiss said:

Um. Ok. What?

MuthaFunka said:

to quote a fellow orger...

"i love it when people scratch their heads"

there's only 1 boy and 1 girl in the whole entire universe

u, and the 1 for u

all the others are him/her introducing themselves in different ways

Mach said:

MuthaFunka said:

Co- sign!

scroll up mutha funkers! lol all that head scratchin is givin me nits.

no

[Edited 4/27/08 20:09pm]

superkiss said:

Oh nonsense . I trip when people claim there's only ONE person for them and I'm like "How do YOU know? Did you meet every single possible mate for you on the planet? There are several "soulmates" for you, you just won't ever meet them." I just simply don't believe that there's just one soulmate per person. The law of averages says otherwise.

MuthaFunka said:

Fate is chance meeting. So Meeting a soulmate is the easy part. But being fully in tune(Bonding) with a soulmate mind, body, and soul is another. Now, that's rare and when it happen one will know unless he/she is a fool to pass it by. And a so call lost becomes anothers gain in the lessons of love.
[Edited 4/27/08 21:51pm]

i always tend to be painfully honest

if the girl im seeing asks-ill tell her

unless i havent slept with her first then ill lie-but after-im an open book!