I was watching the bachelor last night and one of the girls didn't get a rose because the bachelor wasn't sure about the connection they had. Meanwhile in private she's head over heels, telling how she feels and all that but can't say it to the person she loves. She was telling her family, and millions of the American audience, how she was afraid to open up because of her fear of rejection. This ended up being a self fulfilling prophecy because of the fact that he had no idea where she was coming from or what she wanted and therefore thought she didn't care.

Now I know some women are conditioned to play this stupid ass game where they feel like they need to draw out who they are, like they are being demure and reserved and will reveal themselves at the right time. How about just being who you are always and spare the games? And I realize this is a young thing as I wasted SO MANY OPPORTUNITIES in my youth because I was afraid of being rejected or embarrassed or whatever.

Now that I am older I will straight out tell someone I'm attracted to them and that I don't even need their validation in order for me to feel validated! If I express myself and it isn't returned, I have lost nothing as I didn't have it to begin with. What I gained though is the confidence to do it again and to be true to myself!

My word of advice to anyone who is young, or to people who are still playing this game at a seasoned age. GET OVER YOURSELF! I can't stand that I wasted so much time and so many opportunities and it is better to say what you feel, go for what you want, at least try than to wonder about what could have been. You will never win if you don't play! I've always been opininated and stuff and now I'm downright annoying about it and I love it that way

we can't, we get snipped/banned if we do.

but yeah, you're right.

You watch the Bachelor!


In all seriousness, good words of advice. I wish I would have known to do this in a couple of instances earlier on.

evenstar3 said:

evenstar3 said:

I'm talking about IRL. You can always cut the motherfuckers up in orgnotes

JuliePurplehead said:

I am 15 years behind the game Trying to make up for it now

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

I watch Rock of Love.

I'm in the same boat with you on making up for lost time.

JuliePurplehead said:

I have even walked up to guys and said:

Hi, my name is Richard. I just wanted to come over and tell you that I think you are hot as hell and I don't care whether or not you find me attractive. I just wanted to say what I feel and that's all

and then I run away quickly before they can reject me

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

I didn't get past that first sentence.

I know what you're saying, but this is the Bachelor! Not real reality.

Most people never say how they feel.

Let me add though. Life's too short to pass up on the good things in life. If you want something SAY SO!

superspaceboy said:

And most people are ridiculous! I've moved past that into semi-ridiculous

And just because this happened on TV doesn't mean it doesn't happen IRL! This is such a phenomena IRL I won't do it anymore.

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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

in other words your finally saying how you feel?

I do try to do this even though I have a terrible fear of rejection It's worked well a few times and not so well some other times. At the end of the day, it does make me feel better that I can say how I feel, no matter how afraid I am. That way, whoever I'm dealing with knows what I feel and think 'cause I sho nuff don't like games.

The Twins from Flavor of Love 3 are FUCKIN UGLY!!!!


EWWWWW

bboy87 said:

Thank you! Especially Thing 1.

bboy87 said:

They're more than ugly, they're FUGLY!!!!

uPtoWnNY said:

Thing 1 looks like somebody hit her in the mouth with a 40oz bottle....twice

The Bachelor has so much to teach!

JessieJ said:

OK, you can't expect it to always give you returns. Just like the stock market, the shit's gonna crash once in a while. But you just might cash in that Enron stock before shit goes wrong

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NDRU said:

Say what you feel!

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bboy87 said:

Ok...I don't like my daughter at this moment.

She texts me to see if I could pick her up from school. I called her immediately back but she didn't answer. So I'm like WTF. About an hour later she calls and I asked her why she didn't pick up the phone. This heffa gets defensive and tries to out talk me. She was like "I was at conditioning. Why are you mad?" IN a VERY UGLY stank ass tone. I'm like...excuse YOU...who are you talking to...this child KEPT TALKING...

I told her to find a way home and hung up.

yeah. yeah...call child protective services. I don't like her right now.

Rhondab said:

Next time she'll listen won't she?

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Yep....

I know she doesn't even want to come home...lol

you want to know what i feel right now?

i just bought a package of the new skittles chocolate mix and it tastes like a bag of rabbit droppings.

Anxiety said:

Do you think the chocolate Dr. Pepper will be liquid rabit droppings?

Anxiety said:

ewwwww

I'm watching Erykah Badu on Vh-1 Soul

I think God wants me to calm down before that child gets home

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

that cherry chocolate flavor??? i tried that shit and i'm not allowing it in my home ever again.

though i DO want to try the dr. pepper freezer pops. i have a good feeling about them and my success rating with weird frozen treats is much better than my success rate with weird candy.

I hate Hillary Clinton and her ugly daughter.