this gal who i use to work with at the pharmacy i thought we were close and its been 5 months (since ive worked there) and even though i told her repeatedly to ring and well go out etc, nothing

i went in to say hi 2 the pharmacist (awesome dude) and ask if shed like 2 help with the film i was making, she said no, im not mad at that, no big deal, she has a right 2 say no, that was like 3 weeks ago or so

now out of the blue she rings, and leave a msg on my phone saying she wants a favor, so i go back 2 work, and we have lunch, and she asks if i can drive her 2 the airport and pick her up..... i stupidly said yes

but when we chat later 2nite, im telling her no way.

people come into ur life 4 a reason.....

anyways just wanted 2 vent, love u all M
[Edited 4/22/08 23:13pm]

honestly don't even tell her, just ignore her!

PricelessHo said:

i wish i could be that mean sweetie, it isn't in me.

who knows why she didn't do the film thing, maybe she's camera or film shy, but don't hold it up as she's a bad person...I know too many folks that don't hold up to their side of the bargain. I'm included in that. If you really think it's important to communicate to her how if affected you, then do it. Maybe she's taking for granted how you felt or the importance of it? All I know is, the more honest people are with each other, the more able you have the ability to move past it. Take it from someone who's done what she's done

take her to the airport man!

dancinggyrl said:

no no honey im not mad at the film thing i said that

jonylawson said:

U do it

I will!

jonylawson said:

Good! Dont dive too fast

chillichocaholic said:

thats what all the girls say.....

missmad said:

I know, but it seemed to me that she was supposed to give back to you, somehow, when you asked for something from her & she didn't respond. That's all...

Okay, I could give in & say "send her to the airport", but obviously you guys had a good relationship up to that point. Just as long as SHE KNOWS how you felt. You wouldn't have blogged about it if you weren't upset about her actions (or lack of), right?

dancinggyrl said:

for me honest relationships aren't about, i do you a favor, now u have 2 return it, at least not 2 me

dancinggyrl said:

right.

actually I dont think u really did have much of a friendship if u were wanting to continue the friendship with her and go out and so on after u stopped working there and she didnt bother to call u
her saying no to the film thing aside...
I dont call some of my firneds every week either, but we still manage to say in some contact even if its one call or an email every once in a while
ANd I actually think it was a bit rude of her to then call u out of the blue and ask u to take her to the airport
If u want to take her, go ahead, if not be honest and say that u dont

I probably would have said yes to her too, I have a hard time saying no to people

then i'd say text her saying you won't be able to drop her at the airport because something's come up (don't aplogize though!).

then start distancing yourself from her.

seriously people like that don't deserve people like you.

PricelessHo said:

i was thinking about telling her the reasons why i am not taking her when we chat later tonight, should i not do that?

missmad said:

sure if you could confront her about it then i'd say more power to you

though if she's the type that never owns up to her mistakes and always tries to find a way to turn it on people to make them feel guilty then i'd say you're better off saving your energy.

PricelessHo said:

i will when we chat later, i suppose i will find out when we chat

thanks though honey for the sweet compliment ( seriously people like that don't deserve people like you.) if u meant it that way.....

sure thing luv

PricelessHo said:

missmad said:

people, should give back, what one puts in2 them. end of story, No we shouldn't do things 4people because we R excepting something back. However, truth is no one wants 2, be the one always doing, or always being called on, but never having someone 2 lean on in their time of need. A oned side, relationships won't last in the end. If just one person is always the willing, giving, party & feeling all, heavy, from time invest'd in2 the other person, & the other walking away lite, not having a care about what's important, 2 the other person, & give back 2 them. Friendship relationships Rn't much different, from lovers, relationship, one puts in one returns & put out, however in this case, could, be just that she didn't really, want 2 do a film, thingy not feeling comfortable. People tend to shy away from things they don't have much knowledge on. However, most times, people, find out, they need U, for something. Right after they have not, been there 4 U. But then agin, a film, project could, have not been her, thing- if U want 2 see if she, will be there 4 u ask, her 4 a little, favor & if she is willing to help out, then it maybe just she wasn't up 4the film, yet if she then says no, 2 something, small. then it maybe a use issue.of one side'd relationship. & judge from there.


thats my opinion & take on it , Take 2 !!!1- click-

redpumps said:

thanks sweetie

Take her to the airport.
If she's not a good fried, that reflects on her. But you, if you are a good friend and a good person, act like one.
If you feel used, just distant yourself from her. But cancelling on her for the reasons you mentioned, to me doesn't sound too good. It's a favour you agreed to do already. Consider it a last favour. If she doesn't act nicer, that would be her parting gift/favour

ArielB said:

thanks hun

missmad said:

Did u do it?

chillichocaholic said:

no she logged on last nite and i told her i changed my mind and the reasons why, and she said she was sorry, and didn't mean 2 make me feel offended, and that next time she wont ask me ( told her it wasn't about that)

she also posed a question: who from work have i kept in touch with, i answered her and she said "expect me 2"


and that she hopes 2 here from me soon