INow I know some women are conditioned to play this stupid ass game where they feel like they need to draw out who they are, like they are being demure and reserved and will reveal themselves at the right time. How about just being who you are always and spare the games?

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

It's hard to do, Supa. Hard to do. Especially for women (like me) who were raised to believe that shooting from the hip is unladylike.

I was watching the bachelor last night and one of the girls didn't get a rose because the bachelor wasn't sure about the connection they had. Meanwhile in private she's head over heels, telling how she feels and all that but can't say it to the person she loves. She was telling her family, and millions of the American audience, how she was afraid to open up because of her fear of rejection. This ended up being a self fulfilling prophecy because of the fact that he had no idea where she was coming from or what she wanted and therefore thought she didn't care.

Now I know some women are conditioned to play this stupid ass game where they feel like they need to draw out who they are, like they are being demure and reserved and will reveal themselves at the right time. How about just being who you are always and spare the games? And I realize this is a young thing as I wasted SO MANY OPPORTUNITIES in my youth because I was afraid of being rejected or embarrassed or whatever.

Now that I am older I will straight out tell someone I'm attracted to them and that I don't even need their validation in order for me to feel validated! If I express myself and it isn't returned, I have lost nothing as I didn't have it to begin with. What I gained though is the confidence to do it again and to be true to myself!

My word of advice to anyone who is young, or to people who are still playing this game at a seasoned age. GET OVER YOURSELF! I can't stand that I wasted so much time and so many opportunities and it is better to say what you feel, go for what you want, at least try than to wonder about what could have been. You will never win if you don't play! I've always been opininated and stuff and now I'm downright annoying about it and I love it that way

I was watching the bachelor last night and one of the girls didn't get a rose because the bachelor wasn't sure about the connection they had. Meanwhile in private she's head over heels, telling how she feels and all that but can't say it to the person she loves. She was telling her family, and millions of the American audience, how she was afraid to open up because of her fear of rejection. This ended up being a self fulfilling prophecy because of the fact that he had no idea where she was coming from or what she wanted and therefore thought she didn't care.

Now I know some women are conditioned to play this stupid ass game where they feel like they need to draw out who they are, like they are being demure and reserved and will reveal themselves at the right time. How about just being who you are always and spare the games? And I realize this is a young thing as I wasted SO MANY OPPORTUNITIES in my youth because I was afraid of being rejected or embarrassed or whatever.

Now that I am older I will straight out tell someone I'm attracted to them and that I don't even need their validation in order for me to feel validated! If I express myself and it isn't returned, I have lost nothing as I didn't have it to begin with. What I gained though is the confidence to do it again and to be true to myself!

My word of advice to anyone who is young, or to people who are still playing this game at a seasoned age. GET OVER YOURSELF! I can't stand that I wasted so much time and so many opportunities and it is better to say what you feel, go for what you want, at least try than to wonder about what could have been. You will never win if you don't play! I've always been opininated and stuff and now I'm downright annoying about it and I love it that way

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

I'm glad you were inspired to say this, but disappointed that a show where a bunch of skanks fuck a guy to be on TV was the inspiration.

This thread is full of cowards

A couple of shots of tequila and I have no shame.



(Thanks Martina)

noimageatall said:

Serious said:

bboy87 said:

Ok...I don't like my daughter at this moment.

She texts me to see if I could pick her up from school. I called her immediately back but she didn't answer. So I'm like WTF. About an hour later she calls and I asked her why she didn't pick up the phone. This heffa gets defensive and tries to out talk me. She was like "I was at conditioning. Why are you mad?" IN a VERY UGLY stank ass tone. I'm like...excuse YOU...who are you talking to...this child KEPT TALKING...

I told her to find a way home and hung up.

yeah. yeah...call child protective services. I don't like her right now.

I FREAKIN Feel AMAZING

Rested and deeper in love

Blessed and honoured

AMAZED with life and all the gifts she gives



yeah that's how I feel


s in gives edit
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I was watching the bachelor last night and one of the girls didn't get a rose because the bachelor wasn't sure about the connection they had. Meanwhile in private she's head over heels, telling how she feels and all that but can't say it to the person she loves. She was telling her family, and millions of the American audience, how she was afraid to open up because of her fear of rejection. This ended up being a self fulfilling prophecy because of the fact that he had no idea where she was coming from or what she wanted and therefore thought she didn't care.

Now I know some women are conditioned to play this stupid ass game where they feel like they need to draw out who they are, like they are being demure and reserved and will reveal themselves at the right time. How about just being who you are always and spare the games? And I realize this is a young thing as I wasted SO MANY OPPORTUNITIES in my youth because I was afraid of being rejected or embarrassed or whatever.

Now that I am older I will straight out tell someone I'm attracted to them and that I don't even need their validation in order for me to feel validated! If I express myself and it isn't returned, I have lost nothing as I didn't have it to begin with. What I gained though is the confidence to do it again and to be true to myself!

My word of advice to anyone who is young, or to people who are still playing this game at a seasoned age. GET OVER YOURSELF! I can't stand that I wasted so much time and so many opportunities and it is better to say what you feel, go for what you want, at least try than to wonder about what could have been. You will never win if you don't play! I've always been opininated and stuff and now I'm downright annoying about it and I love it that way

I know it's supposed to make ya feel better to express your feelings but sometimes it's SO damn hard!

For the past few months I've had a crush on a girl from work. I had never seen her with anyone so I assumed she was still single. I never opened up to her though, maybe because I was hoping either something would happen or that. my feelings for her would fade away. Many of my co-workers noticed my crush and mentioned it to me but I never wanted to make a move because it would be kinda embarrasing working with her in the future after being rejected.

For some reason I keep meeting her unexpectedly at clubs I frequent when I'm downtown with my friends. Last night was no exception. After talking to her for a few minutes she finally said: "Look, I know you're attracted to me." I just said "yes" and nodded. Then she said: " I really care for you and I love working with you, but my heart belongs to my ex-boyfriend I just started dating again. I want to be with him for the rest of my life."

After chatting a bit more, we hugged and I took a taxi home, all by myself. Since then I've for the most part, felt like shit. Listening to some great Prince vinyl I just bought did lift my spirits for a while, but now I'm back on the downward spiral.

purplehippieonthe1 said:

You seem to be a great guy and deserve a girl that is free and available to love you. You do not want to be messed up with a girl that loves someone else.
You deserve better.



I know what you mean about expressing your feelings...it does not come natural for me especially if it may make someone else uncomfortable.

This thread is full of cowards

MrsMdiver said:

Thanks for caring Val.
For me, getting to know a girl my age that I'm attracted to is hard, let alone someone who is even vaguely interested in me. The problem is I keep meeting and getting crushes on girls that aren't interested, sometimes because they have a boyfriend and if they're single they usually hook up with someone soon after I get to know them a little bit better.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Word to Africa.