"freedom from deceit, hypocrisy, or duplicity; probity in intention or in communicating; earnestness."


Is it rare? Do you assume everyone is out for some kind of gain? Or is it a given, that most are sincere until proven otherwise?

Personally, I happen to take most things at face value... I like to assume that most are genuine, unless I can feel the fake or whatever oozing off of them, or if someone has proven to me otherwise.

CarrieMpls said:

And do you view it that way because of how often you, yourself are sincere?

Girl, I grew up in a conservative household, with a military father, steeped in the traditions of the American South.


I was raised to be very polite.... not sincere




a relatively polite but not sincere edit
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CarrieMpls said:

thats the way I see it too, and I think as I've got older I've learnt to sense the fake people more.

Imago said:

I know you're half joking, but it's very possible to be both sincere and polite.

Imago said:

we're going to run out of posts again.

jami0mckay said:

CarrieMpls said:

Of course.

I know somebody like that now.



But that means you're a very good person. How many very good people do you know?

I tend to think that most are sincere but I also like to follow my gut feeling. I listen to my instincts and if I feel like someone is being insincere I proceed with caution.
I do initially make the mistake sometimes and think that everyone is treating me as they wish to be treated themselves.
Occasionally I am reminded that not everyone was taught that as a child.
That was a huge lesson that my great grandmother insisted that I learned.
"Treat others as you wish to be treated yourself".

It seems pretty simple.

Imago said:

I know a lot of people who are both polite and sincere. I don't think that's the only quality that makes someone a "very good" person, but it's a start.

shanti0608 said:

The easiest rule that if everyone followed it would change the world for the better forever and yet somehow it becomes nearly impossible for many in practice...

A tthese moments I love to quote my favourite guru;

I sincerely wanna fuck the taste outta your mouth.
I'm not sayin' this just 2 be nasty

HamsterHuey said:

CarrieMpls said:

I don't think you're sincere in those sentiments. You're just being difficult again.


It's cute though. (ok, my olive branch of a compliment was kind of "see-through-polite" wasn't it? )

CarrieMpls said:

It would make such a difference.

Imago said:

I'm serious about this.

CarrieMpls said:

I'm only joking. You know I love you





Oh my god, I can't stop being polite. It's like a sickness

I have never thought about it.
Sincerity is hard. It's hard to be sincere.
Sincerity can be confronting to some, I suppose.
If you can not be sincere, be polite, as Dan says. Tell little white lies.
Like, "Dan, I love your use of the boff emoticon."

I was taught that if you had nothing nice to say then do not say anything at all.
Some times I make my tongue bleed doing that but it works.

I never give compliments if I do not mean them.

HamsterHuey said:

I don't think it's hard to be sincere at all... I genuinely mean what I say most of the time, lest when I'm joking around. I get the impression that a lot of people think people who are nice and polite are somehow inseincere in their sentiments. Though that may just be my own perception, I kind of take personal offense to that. I don't say things JUST to be nice. And I don' expect anything in return from my kindness and manners. I'm that way cause it's the way I am.

Carrie, wherever you're planning on taking this thread, I sincerely wish that you just wouldn't.

CarrieMpls said:

I agree. I do know ppl that feel like they have to compliment or seem sincere when they are not. I cannot do that. Forced sincerity is just fake if you ask me.

Imago said:

CarrieMpls said:

That wasn't very polite

Is it rare? Not rare though I thinK it is not the norm either


Do you assume everyone is out for some kind of gain? Not really - I do try really had not to make sweeping assumptions. If I wonder I simply ask or just wait and see, it usually comes out on it's own given time


Or is it a given, that most are sincere until proven otherwise? I try very hard to be sincere and I feel most of the people I speak with are as well

Imago said:

No, but it was sincere.

CarrieMpls said:

cheeky




I wonder if you can be sincere, polite, Annnnnd cheeky/edgy a the same tie . I know Brad Pitt has tried desperately on some of his roles, but it never panned out

Sincerity is something that can bite you in the arse.

I mean, if someone asks for my opinion, I always give it, even when it is negative. I was sincere in saying that Dan's highlights make him look like a pansie, for instance. Something he did not want to hear cuz he wanted me to tell him it looked good on him. But I can't lie.

HamsterHuey said:

You could have pulled the highlights off my head and spanked me until I promised never to get them again.