roodboi said:

heybaby said:

This really struck something inside me. I look back, on the last 2 yrs, heck this last week. And some of the actions, and things that have been done to me, would show that I don't love myself very much right now, because if I did, I would have NEVER let someone/something treat me in such a manner.

And because of these actions, I am now at this fork in the road, to walk away, and cut all ties. Or continue to be treated in the manner that shows me zero respect.

But each time I try to walk away, cut those ties, someone or something sucks me right back in, and I am right back where I started from.

MoniGram said:

ThreadBare said:

I am afraid to take such steps. I am not sure if I have the strength to do so. It's hard to cut off ties to someone or something that has been apart of your life for so long.

MoniGram said:

I know. Particularly when that someone has become a support system of sorts for you.

I'm making such a break. And, the process of going through all the emotions -- resentment, anger, surrender, forgiveness (rinse and repeat) is detoxifying.

I hope. Hang in there. You're far stronger than you give yourself credit for being.

MoniGram said:

Yes m'am.

It happened with my first husband.

He was the man that brought me into womanhood...I loved him ragefully (though not regretfully) for 7 years.

I could not see either of us thriving or reaching our fullest potential if we remained together, so I forcefully split. Chile, our marriage resembled a poorer man's version of "A Star Is Born", so if you know how THAT story ends clearly we HAD to part. Thankfully, we're both doing much better as human beings as a result. You know you were in a bad space together if you happily celebrate the anniversary of your break-up more than you can the actual marriage .So letting go, while forcing you into new nd unfamiliar territory, can lead to truly enriching your life

MoniGram said:

Ahhhh the truth is out..what you need is a damn good rogering

ThreadBare said:

heybaby said:

That's very true .

All can say Moni is let go and let God decide whats best 4 ya !
Wish ya all the best love

IrrisistableRich said:

Thanks

Not really. I hold onto everything and everybody for dear life and strangle it until it's dead or they get away.

minneapolisgenius said:

Letting go may truely only happen when you are reaching forward to grasp something new


maybe




and your way hun


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Imago said:

this is the best advice ever! I have never seen the words put in my face like this. just in my head and it didn't work so I kept slipping in my situation. man I am gonna try this. NO COMFORT FOODS, NO COMFORT BLANKETS. JUST OUT IN THE COLD ROUGHING IT OUT. I LOVE THIS ONE. and you are right. when you give into that stuff you are saying that the other person still has a part of you. I think that that is why people cheat on their former partner, for example, that they are trying to move on from. To get that high and then that crash to feel like they have forgotten them. I don't know if that is a comfort tactic too, but hey.I had to let go of some people too, and it was difficult. it is more difficult when the shoe is on the other foot too. when they are gonna dump you and you didn't know it was gonna happen. but this asshole that I knew went too far and decided to include people I knew and manage to make it work. so I lost that person plus the friends. I let that person their asses have it too and they shut down like the hood of a car-SLAM!-- cause they didn't know that I found out. I played their game.for a minute. That started part of my heeling process. I heeled from it because I always kept plan b's in case I ran into some shit like that. I didn't know who to be mad at--that person or the friends I thought were my friends that that person knew how to influence. I went through the comfort thing for a minute and then went cold turkey to move on. I changed where I hung out for a minute, I did different things I mean changed my lifestyle for a minute to let things settle and it helped me a lot. I really like what this person poste up above. that was pretty life challenging.
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CarrieMpls said:

Mach said:

Grasp something new!

Today I tried to let go again, and they wouldn't let me. I wish I had everyone here behind me, as my back up, pushing me along the way.

chewwsey said:

Are you hot?

gyro34 said:

I have dealt with this too, and really had to make the decision to take a break from them. hell they did it to me and I was the dummy who wasn't paying attention to it fast enough. I started having repeated dreams about them. bad ones and I think that was what the breaking point for me. now all of a sudden my mom wonders where I am. I wasn't favored although my kinfolk acted like it for some reason. I don't deal with excessive godly people because they don't hear anyone or trust anyone but god and everyone else is evil. they lose sight of what god is about, which is love. good luck to you

Man, there is so much potential ass to be had on this thread

Imago said:

Imago said:

Imago said:

Slut

I am looking for a change - make thread on your RAW thingy you are on - post lots of info

what you eat where you shop how you prepare it - all that shit

thanx

Imago said:

this thread is really interesting. I am a buddhist also. I chant and I like the belief system associated with the practice.

Mach said:

I'll make one today I promise.

working on a lovenote right now

Imago said:

welllll, I don't know about the hot part, I have never viewed myself like that. but if I take heed to your hot ass advice I will certainly be stronger and healthier and eventually hot. thanks for asking and feel free to send an org note to me.


hey you aren't one of them fine ones who tries to help a person when they are at their lowest just to get some are ya? (just kidding)

I think that monigram has a good chance of not getting sucked back in if she finds some cool things to do. why not dig up some of your other first loves and hobbies and don't go to the same places for a minute. get back on track. good luck.

Imago said:

Guys still do that?

MoniGram said:

He is probably making a video.

To “Let Go” Takes Love

To “let go” does not mean to stop caring,
It means I can’t do it for someone else.

To “let go” does not mean to cut myself off, it is
The realization I can’t control another.

To “let go” is not to enable, but to allow
Learning from natural consequences.

To “let go” is to admit powerlessness, which
Means the outcome is not in my hands.

To “let go” is not to try to change or blame
Another, it is to make the most of myself.

To “let go” is not to care for, but to care about.

To “let go” is not to fix, but to be supportive.

To "let go" is not to judge, but to allow another
To be a human being.

To “let go” is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes
But to allow others to affect their own destinies.

To “let go” is not to be protective; it is to permit another to face reality.

To “let go” is not to deny but to accept.

To “let go” is not to nag, scold, or argue, but instead to search
Out my own shortcomings and to correct them.

To “let go” is not to adjust everything to my desires but to take each day as it comes, and to cherish myself in it.

To “let go” is not to criticize and regulate anybody
But to try to become what I dream I can be.

To “let go” is to not regret the past, but to grow and to live for the future.

To “let go” is to fear less and to LOVE more.


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chewwsey said:

Cool things will be happening next month. My granddaughter will be born! I just have some thinking to do. I think I already know what I need and should do, it's just getting that strength. Ask anyone here on the org that knows me, this has been my struggle for 3 months now.