I was never good at letting go . I know my life would be a lot easier if I would just accept certain things the way they are .


That thread reminds me of this song:

Letting Go:
The knife's edge pierces Autumn
And stabs the wind we fear
But we must find ourselves
Before we disappear
By knowing when to move on
We keep the peace with our pride
We seldom live our moments
Before the leaves have dried

But it's a peaceful feeling when
We surrender
And there is healing power in
Letting go

Alone, confused, and naked
Is when we are most sacred
Fear is the enemy
That strikes out at our sanity
By keeping faith in our promise
We drink from Eros fountains
We confirm that we are here
Moving up on higher mountains...

And it's a peaceful feeling when...
We surrender
And there is healing power in...
Letting go

And it's a peaceful feeling when...
We surrender
There is healing power in...
Letting go

Letting go
Hush, hush I hear music
Falling down like rain
Hush, I feel mercy
And forgiveness

I see Golden Light...
Shining ever-bright
Into the light I'll go...

And it's a peaceful feeling when
We surrender
And there is healing power in
Letting go

And it's a peaceful feeling when
We surrender
There is healing power in...
In letting go

Letting go...

MoniGram said:

no.

No support system. And no close freinds in the same town anymore.

It's been a tough , long, hard road


You know something? Just cause it hurts, doesn't mean you shouldn't go through with it.
Like circumcision.





I keed. I keed.

I am not good at letting go. It takes me a very long time and it is only usually after someone has let me go. I find that having no explanation "why" makes it worse for me. In some instances, I find it is best not to even ask. People are shitty like that. Their happiness is the most important and fuck who gets hurt in the process.

Yes, I'm bitter.

In your case though: the best thing you can do for YOU is to let go. By holding on you are only hurting yourself more and letting that person win. Be happy Moni. You are a beautiful woman and other men can't see that when you don't show it.

I wish you every happiness.

Serious said:

Thank you hun

I broke up permemnaately

Imago said:

Is that Dutch?

Imago said:

I am scared of the hurt Dan! Real scared!

Circumcision

Imago said:

Is that Dutch?

MoniGram said:

I know love. I know.

Me too

Just cause I'm a grownup doesn't mean I'm fearless you know?


Sometimes you just have to go where you never imagined you could? you know?
Like anal.

INSATIABLE said:

Imago said:

anal

Thanks Dan!!! How I org crush all over you!!!

MoniGram said:

no.

No support system. And no close freinds in the same town anymore.

It's been a tough , long, hard road


You know something? Just cause it hurts, doesn't mean you shouldn't go through with it.
Like circumcision.





I keed. I keed.

Imago said:

You don't. You don't.

jess555ja said:

Were you ever afraid of doing this??

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Stop it!

lawd.

INSATIABLE said:

CarrieMpls said:

Can it be candy coated?

Usually, whenever I need to let go of a person, habit, group of people, etc. I do it really gradually until it seems as though I just drifted away.

I hate change and letting go, so that's why I do it this way. When people let go of me suddenly, I find it very traumatizing.

MoniGram said:

(Ocean, don't eeeeeven go there! )


Seriously though Moni.
What you're feeling is normal. Very painful yes, but life is wrought with pain.
As a buddhist I believe that sooooo much that it permeates everything in my life. We can't avoid pain. We can't avoid suffering. What we can do is learn from it. See, just the act of staying with someone you should not be with, may feel gratifying at the time, but it adds to the eventual suffering you will undergo. Be strong love

It feels weird at first. A bit unfamiliar maybe? But from all this, you will become enraptured, and elated, and completely overcome with a new sense of joy.
Like cunnilingus.

MoniGram said:

Yep. I thought about it a lot before I went ahead and cut those people out of my life. I was sad, worried, afraid, confused..... I could go on and on. I felt like shit. Me feeling like that was what helped me build up my courage and just say what I needed to say and get rid of these people. I couldn't keep going on feeling like that. I was holding on to a few toxic relationships for a long time, but I decided that enough was enough.

MoniGram said:

The bitter shell is quite harmless, the poison's in the sugary center.


Or something like that. It's a quote from something and I can never remember it.


In any case, letting go is a necessary evil. Ripping off the band-aid is the best solution in these cases. It's not easy, but rarely is anything that's worth it, really.

But I've also turned into quite a cynical bastard lately. So I may not always know what I'm talking about.

I let go of a job a little over a year ago. Under the circumstances surrounding it, I knew it was best for me to leave and start over again. But, there were some things that were left unsaid, things that I should have said that I didn't. I'm still dealing with the emotions of all of that.

Usually, whenever I need to let go of a person, habit, group of people, etc. I do it really gradually until it seems as though I just drifted away.

I hate change and letting go, so that's why I do it this way. When people let go of me suddenly, I find it very traumatizing.

psychodelicide said:

I am afraid of the things that might be left unsaid...I don't want to harp on things. But I feel I need to get everything out. I just think to much, which then causes me pain.