Yes. I like physical affection. Sometimes I prefer that to sex.

INSATIABLE said:

You were so gonna get it.

Stymie said:

DesertEskimo said:

You have to gauge your partner. I know when someone wants to fuck. I'm just saying that it doesn't have to happen for me to show physical affection.

Stymie said:

God damn it.

I was too damn drunk. I couldn't even kiss you back properly.

INSATIABLE said:

Your kiss was fine. I just caught you off guard.

violator said:

I've got a partner who waits for me to show a sign. The thing with that is, that HIM showing his desire for me is what turns me on. We could both be waiting for a very very long time

Stymie said:

The next one will be much better*.





*if you're single at that time.

INSATIABLE said:

DesertEskimo said:

Then tell him. Tonight.

violator said:

I've told him lots of times already.

Stymie said:

INSATIABLE said:

DesertEskimo said:

Then it isn't likely to happen.

I once dated a girl who never made the first move. It bruised my ego so badly. I told her how it made me feel and she basically said that she'll never come on to me. That it just wasn't her way. I learned to live with it for the time that we were together. But in a marriage, he should love you enough to do the things that make you feel wanted.

Some people are difficult... wish I knew why...

violator said:

I had a girlfriend like that once, too. Frustrating as hell. I mean, what man doesn't like to be seduced?

violator said:

Some people are tired and distracted.

DesertEskimo said:

Well for your circumstance, you would know better than I. But I do hope things change....

SnakePeel said:

For me it was just needing to feel wanted. Or to be made to feel desirable. Our sex was wonderful, but it just didn't happen unless I initiated it.

DesertEskimo said:

Aren't you the one taking care of the kids?!! That is not a good enough answer from him!

Easily. There's a reason I'm so good at giving body rubs lol...

Stymie said:

Love ya.

Byron said:

You have the uncanny ability to be incredibly attractive without any effort whatsoever.

Byron said:

Your poor wiener!

INSATIABLE said:

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

...well, more times than not those body rubs end up leading to lovemaking, yes lol...but it doesn't have to. I enjoy...lingering...and appreciating my lover's body, and really appreciate when she allows me to do both. And watching her completely melt and relax beneath my touch?...Heaven.

It's all very intimate...

Usually, yes. I mean, sometimes I'll be getting a massage or she'll be just touching my back while we lie down and watch TV and it's understood it's not a precursor to sex. Normally we're on the same page when kissing and cuddling about whether it's foreplay or just a nice little moment of affection, but I know sometimes I get to her when kissing her neck and nibbling her ears when I know darn well I don't intend for it to end up in having sex.

DesertEskimo said:

omg...me too. I'll just pout and go to bed.

sure I'm capable of it. but 99% of the time I end up wanting more or its on my mind.

violator said:

that is exactly how it is for me too!
except initiating it actually turns me off, so I usually end up having this kind of half-hearted sex, just for the sake of having it.

DesertEskimo said:

Out of spite? Disappointment?

I often wanted to do the same. In time though, I realized it was her hangup and nothing more. She did want me, but just felt it was my role to initiate it.

But, again, in a marriage it would get old. And my expectations would be completely different.