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PrintableI like these kinds of threads.
It always reveals to me just what a buncha of deep motherfuckers you guys are. 
And to think.... someone tried to start a thread implying that those of us who hang around here might be a pack of losers... 
It's posts like these that I feel, will some day, help me to break my habit of blowing off my entire 2 week's paycheck in just one weekend on hookers. And speaking of which, I better log off now. It's Friday & someone's on the clock right now. And it ain't me, yo. | |
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paintedlady said: Too lazy to read the entire thread, but yes, love does last, infatuation does not.
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Neither does physical attraction, lust, escape from insecurities, need fulfillment, validation or safety...all of which we tend to define as "love". | |
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Stymie said: shanti0608 said: It is important to know what you want before entering. I cannot understand ppl that get married then have big troubles because one wants to have kids and the other one doesn't... HELLOOOOO! Shouldn't that have come up before you made the commitment to get married? Wow!  It is important to know what you want, but understand that one has the right to change his/her mind. This is where the work will come in. You are forced to deal with change, and in doing so you have to question your real reasons for getting involved initially.  [Edited 2/15/08 10:55am] I'm sick and tired of the Prince fans being sick and tired of the Prince fans that are sick and tired! | |
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Adisa said: Stymie said: It is important to know what you want, but understand that one has the right to change his/her mind. This is where the work will come in. You are forced to deal with change, and in doing so you have to question your real reasons for getting involved initially.
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Byron said: paintedlady said: Too lazy to read the entire thread, but yes, love does last, infatuation does not.
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Neither does physical attraction, lust, escape from insecurities, need fulfillment, validation or safety...all of which we tend to define as "love". Agreed. And, contrary to popular belief, you don't have to love yourself first in order to be able to love someone else. But maybe that's a different thread topic. I'm sick and tired of the Prince fans being sick and tired of the Prince fans that are sick and tired! | |
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Adisa said: Byron said: ...
Neither does physical attraction, lust, escape from insecurities, need fulfillment, validation or safety...all of which we tend to define as "love". Agreed. And, contrary to popular belief, you don't have to love yourself first in order to be able to love someone else. But maybe that's a different thread topic. | |
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Only until I can get a towel. Studies have shown the ass crack of the average Prince fan to be abnormally large. This explains the ease and frequency of their panties bunching up in it. |
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moderatorByron said: paintedlady said: Too lazy to read the entire thread, but yes, love does last, infatuation does not.
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Neither does physical attraction, lust, escape from insecurities, need fulfillment, validation or safety...all of which we tend to define as "love". I consider all those things to be "romantic love" and I do not believe romantic love lasts. | |
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paintedlady said: Too lazy to read the entire thread, but yes, love does last, infatuation does not.
If you love someone, then you enjoy them, and the relationship does not feel like work. Love should never feel like work, love is a need we all share, and we can never have too much of it. Whap!! Love that!!  The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them. -- Mark Twain.
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Speaking from my own experience, I think not only lasts, it grows. I can say with all honesty in the world, I love my husband more now then when we first got married 24 years ago. I only had a 2 year history before our marriage, now we have 26 years of history. We have been through all the ups and downs, deaths in the family, the poor years, that bratty kids years, the dysfunctional family members years, and all that goes with it. I love him more as each year goes by. | |
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Adisa said: It is important to know what you want, but understand that one has the right to change his/her mind. we all change on different levels - what we thought and felt 6 months ago may have grown into a totally different direction - let alone yr after yr
When I was 20 I DID NOT WANT KIDS EVER When I was 21 I fell deeply in love with a man that had 2 When I was 24 I married into an increbile family unit When I was 28 I had had 2 children of my own to add and a family of 4 CHILDREN I swore at 20 I would NEVER have Children - never - never | |
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Byron said: paintedlady said: Too lazy to read the entire thread, but yes, love does last, infatuation does not.
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Neither does physical attraction, lust, escape from insecurities, need fulfillment, validation or safety...all of which we tend to define as "love". Amen. | |
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Adisa said: Stymie said: It is important to know what you want, but understand that one has the right to change his/her mind. This is where the work will come in. You are forced to deal with change, and in doing so you have to question your real reasons for getting involved initially.
[Edited 2/15/08 10:55am] That's also where compromise comes in...the main killer of love and relationships is the prevalence of "Me First" thinking....while I definitely believe that you shouldn't always place your wants and needs in limbo, there are times when you have to be selfless and deal with your sig-other's changing mind....or heart.... He was like a cock who thought the sun had risen to hear him crow.
(George Eliot) the video for the above... 
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Mach said: Adisa said: It is important to know what you want, but understand that one has the right to change his/her mind. we all change on different levels - what we thought and felt 6 months ago may have grown into a totally different direction - let alone yr after yr
When I was 20 I DID NOT WANT KIDS EVER When I was 21 I fell deeply in love with a man that had 2 When I was 24 I married into an increbile family unit When I was 28 I had had 2 children of my own to add and a family of 4 CHILDREN I swore at 20 I would NEVER have Children - never - never At 20, I couldn't even SAY marriage....me and my bud referred to it as "the M word"....when I got married, I momentarily imagined what someone in a plane wreck would feel as the plane was going down....when my son was born (I was 24), I momentarily saw my plans for my social life crash and burn....  10 months later, when my daughter was born, I momentarily viewed my rapidly approaching grave... 
...but now, after many trials and tribs, those three significant events in my life have assumed their proper places as the happiest of my life...and I wouldn't trade them for anything in the world.... He was like a cock who thought the sun had risen to hear him crow.
(George Eliot) the video for the above...
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JustErin said: Byron said: ...
Neither does physical attraction, lust, escape from insecurities, need fulfillment, validation or safety...all of which we tend to define as "love". I consider all those things to be "romantic love" and I do not believe romantic love lasts. Well, I'm hoping that whoever tells me they're in love with me isn't doing so out of fear of being alone or because I make them horny lol  ... | |
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reneGade20 said: Mach said: we all change on different levels - what we thought and felt 6 months ago may have grown into a totally different direction - let alone yr after yr
When I was 20 I DID NOT WANT KIDS EVER When I was 21 I fell deeply in love with a man that had 2 When I was 24 I married into an increbile family unit When I was 28 I had had 2 children of my own to add and a family of 4 CHILDREN I swore at 20 I would NEVER have Children - never - never At 20, I couldn't even SAY marriage....me and my bud referred to it as "the M word"....when I got married, I momentarily imagined what someone in a plane wreck would feel as the plane was going down....when my son was born (I was 24), I momentarily saw my plans for my social life crash and burn.... 10 months later, when my daughter was born, I momentarily viewed my rapidly approaching grave...
...but now, after many trials and tribs, those three significant events in my life have assumed their proper places as the happiest of my life...and I wouldn't trade them for anything in the world.... OK, this made me laugh.  I'm sick and tired of the Prince fans being sick and tired of the Prince fans that are sick and tired! | |
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Adisa said: Stymie said: It is important to know what you want, but understand that one has the right to change his/her mind. This is where the work will come in. You are forced to deal with change, and in doing so you have to question your real reasons for getting involved initially.
[Edited 2/15/08 10:55am] I was not refering to someone who has changed their minds mid-stream. I am talking about someone that already knew that they wanted kids but ended up with someone who never does but neglected to discuss this before marriage. Just bringing up the fact that ppl do not discuss important things like children before getting married. Changing your mind is a different story. I had never ever ever ever wanted or considered having children my entire life until I was about 34 almost 35 yrs old. I had been married before and never considered it. It was not until I was going through a separation that it hit me that I might someday consider it if it should happen and if I was with the right person to be the father of my child. I have been open and honest with my partner about it since the moment hit me. | |
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shanti0608 said: Adisa said: It is important to know what you want, but understand that one has the right to change his/her mind. This is where the work will come in. You are forced to deal with change, and in doing so you have to question your real reasons for getting involved initially.
[Edited 2/15/08 10:55am] I was not refering to someone who has changed their minds mid-stream. I am talking about someone that already knew that they wanted kids but ended up with someone who never does but neglected to discuss this before marriage. Just bringing up the fact that ppl do not discuss important things like children before getting married. Changing your mind is a different story. I had never ever ever ever wanted or considered having children my entire life until I was about 34 almost 35 yrs old. I had been married before and never considered it. It was not until I was going through a separation that it hit me that I might someday consider it if it should happen and if I was with the right person to be the father of my child. I have been open and honest with my partner about it since the moment hit me. 
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mdiver said: shanti0608 said: I was not refering to someone who has changed their minds mid-stream. I am talking about someone that already knew that they wanted kids but ended up with someone who never does but neglected to discuss this before marriage. Just bringing up the fact that ppl do not discuss important things like children before getting married. Changing your mind is a different story. I had never ever ever ever wanted or considered having children my entire life until I was about 34 almost 35 yrs old. I had been married before and never considered it. It was not until I was going through a separation that it hit me that I might someday consider it if it should happen and if I was with the right person to be the father of my child. I have been open and honest with my partner about it since the moment hit me.
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shanti0608 said: mdiver said:
Its gonna be twins yanno? I can't wait!!! He was like a cock who thought the sun had risen to hear him crow.
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shanti0608 said: mdiver said:
Its gonna be twins yanno? hey, at least he doesn't want to name them something like xerxes and ariadne. | |
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Adisa said: The eternal question: Does love last?  dont worry baby, aint nuthin new, thats just love sneakin up on you ~ bonnie rait | |
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God, I hope so.  I made a lot of sacrifices for this! | |
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Love lasts but for the smallest increment of time yet lends itself to the next. In so doing, love can last forever.
This is what I came up when I was 18 when I experienced my first broken heart. | |
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evenstar said: shanti0608 said: hey, at least he doesn't want to name them something like xerxes and ariadne. I could be in for a surprise. The only time we have discussed names it has been me throwing some out and him saying NO!!! So I am not sure if his choices are any better than Ben's.  | |
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shanti0608 said: evenstar said: hey, at least he doesn't want to name them something like xerxes and ariadne. I could be in for a surprise. The only time we have discussed names it has been me throwing some out and him saying NO!!! So I am not sure if his choices are any better than Ben's. Francesca and Joseph (Joey)  | |
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mdiver said: shanti0608 said: I could be in for a surprise. The only time we have discussed names it has been me throwing some out and him saying NO!!! So I am not sure if his choices are any better than Ben's. Francesca and Joseph (Joey) We are NOT naming our girl after a former lover...and Joey?? Ummm No!!!!  | |
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shanti0608 said: mdiver said: Francesca and Joseph (Joey) We are NOT naming our girl after a former lover...and Joey?? Ummm No!!!! Joey Dunlop was the greatest road racer of all time!  | |
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mdiver said: shanti0608 said: We are NOT naming our girl after a former lover...and Joey?? Ummm No!!!! Joey Dunlop was the greatest road racer of all time! so. | |
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shanti0608 said: mdiver said: Joey Dunlop was the greatest road racer of all time! so.  | |
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