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PrintablePricelessHo said: your cousin's idea is wicked, if only she made that two roofs though.
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i'm all for some space when the mood strikes, but not sharing a bed? no way.  | |
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I don't see myself sharing a bed just for sex and then leave. I could pay a prostitute to have that.
sharing a life together means more than that. If I like the girl enough to share life with her, then I SHARE LIFE with her. Not just meet up for sex once in a while. She seems to want it all and just use the guy for sex. She doesn't sound ready to have a full partnership/relatioship. But that's my opinion, as someone who never had a relationship  [Edited 1/30/08 9:50am] | |
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DexMSR said: I was having a conversation with my cousin here in Atlanta and she told me how she would have the perfect relationship if the man in her life could be on the other side of her home. I mean doing his thing on his own and they would come together only when they "wanted" to be in each other's space. Call each other to see if they wish to go out or have dinner together and not be all up in each other's space all the time.
She went on to say that he also could not sleep in the same bed with her. Not because of him, but she doesn't like sharing her bed. He may snore, hog the blankets, whatever, but she is really down for a non-intrusive relationship but would like to live under the same roof. I know how hard it is sharing space with ANYONE especially in tight quarters like an apartment and such. What is your perfect situation in sharing space? Sounds perfect to me. | |
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ArielB said: I don't see myself sharing a bed just for sex and then leave. I could pay a prostitute to have that.
sharing a life together means more than that. If I like the girl enough to share life with her, then I SHARE LIFE with her. Not just meet up for sex once in a while. She seems to want it all and just use the guy for sex. She doesn't sound ready to have a full partnership/relatioship. But that's my opinion, as someone who never had a relationship
[Edited 1/30/08 9:50am] I totally disagree. She sounds more than ready to me. | |
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Ive been on my own for 7 years so I think I am real solid about the space thing. Ive been called a distancer for it recently..... I really don't think I am I just like decompression space here and there and as extroverted as i am I like silence and alone time too. | |
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JustErin said: ArielB said: I don't see myself sharing a bed just for sex and then leave. I could pay a prostitute to have that.
sharing a life together means more than that. If I like the girl enough to share life with her, then I SHARE LIFE with her. Not just meet up for sex once in a while. She seems to want it all and just use the guy for sex. She doesn't sound ready to have a full partnership/relatioship. But that's my opinion, as someone who never had a relationship
[Edited 1/30/08 9:50am] I totally disagree. She sounds more than ready to me. And she's a step ahead, she knows what she wants, even if it's inconventional by whoever's standards. |
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CarrieMpls said: JustErin said: I totally disagree. She sounds more than ready to me. And she's a step ahead, she knows what she wants, even if it's inconventional by whoever's standards. For me it's a dream situation. I mean, it doesn't mean that I never wanna be around the person, it just means that I dont have to be. | |
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DanceWme said: jami0mckay said: yeah then you watched Dr Doolittle 3 
shut up  it's a fucking conspiracy with chilibeans...i just know it THE B EST BE YOURSELF AS LONG AS YOUR SELF ISNT A DYCK[/r]
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ArielB said: I don't see myself sharing a bed just for sex and then leave. I could pay a prostitute to have that.
sharing a life together means more than that. If I like the girl enough to share life with her, then I SHARE LIFE with her. Not just meet up for sex once in a while. She seems to want it all and just use the guy for sex. She doesn't sound ready to have a full partnership/relatioship. But that's my opinion, as someone who never had a relationship
[Edited 1/30/08 9:50am] They will share their lives. Go on vacations, to plays, out to eat just as any other couple would. I think what she means is during the downtime she'd like to be left alone unless one of them has an idea to be together for whatever reason. I guess you could summize this as dating the man/woman you live with...leaving him be when he's not around and coming together when you want it....but married....or not. The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them. -- Mark Twain.
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JustErin said: CarrieMpls said: And she's a step ahead, she knows what she wants, even if it's inconventional by whoever's standards. For me it's a dream situation. I mean, it doesn't mean that I never wanna be around the person, it just means that I dont have to be. 
And Whap whap for you both...btw The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them. -- Mark Twain.
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If I ever get married my husband would get sick of me bcuz i'm gonna need my own bed. I'm sorry but I haven't had to live with a person and share a bed since I was about 9. The last time I shared a bed it was with my cousin when I stayed at her house and one hot summer morning I couldn't breathe.....I thought I was dying  I turn around just to find her big ass hamhock thigh all in my back {I wanted to kill her  }.I need my space to roam in bed when I sleep, I don't like being curled up on one side!  surviving on the thought of loving you, it's just like the water
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DexMSR said: ArielB said: I don't see myself sharing a bed just for sex and then leave. I could pay a prostitute to have that.
sharing a life together means more than that. If I like the girl enough to share life with her, then I SHARE LIFE with her. Not just meet up for sex once in a while. She seems to want it all and just use the guy for sex. She doesn't sound ready to have a full partnership/relatioship. But that's my opinion, as someone who never had a relationship
[Edited 1/30/08 9:50am] They will share their lives. Go on vacations, to plays, out to eat just as any other couple would. I think what she means is during the downtime she'd like to be left alone unless one of them has an idea to be together for whatever reason. I guess you could summize this as dating the man/woman you live with...leaving him be when he's not around and coming together when you want it....but married....or not. Yes, it does sound like just dating your roommate. Sure there are times you'd want to be left alone, but I don't see it as that distant as to live in other sides of the house. I think it's too extreme for my taste. If I find someone that I feel should be my partner in life, it's someone I feel comfortable around, not someone who I'd just want to have activities with. Their presense has to make me feel good. If not, then I think it's just a date with no serious intentions. | |
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ArielB said: DexMSR said: They will share their lives. Go on vacations, to plays, out to eat just as any other couple would. I think what she means is during the downtime she'd like to be left alone unless one of them has an idea to be together for whatever reason. I guess you could summize this as dating the man/woman you live with...leaving him be when he's not around and coming together when you want it....but married....or not. Yes, it does sound like just dating your roommate. Sure there are times you'd want to be left alone, but I don't see it as that distant as to live in other sides of the house. I think it's too extreme for my taste. If I find someone that I feel should be my partner in life, it's someone I feel comfortable around, not someone who I'd just want to have activities with. Their presense has to make me feel good. If not, then I think it's just a date with no serious intentions. Ariel, no one wants to be involved with someone that makes them uncomfortable. That's not what we are saying.
But I understand what you're trying to say and based on what I know about you, it makes complete sense that you'd feel this way. That's awesome, whatever works for you is what you should do...but don't think that people who want that extra space are not as in love with their partner as you would be with yours. | |
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It sounds like she'll be single for awhile because she should just date because is seems that she's only comfortable with a "just friends" type situation anyway.
What is your perfect situation in sharing space? I enjoyed sharing my space but I've learned I do need my own space in there somewhere. I can't not have that, I need my own to regroup and recharge as long as I have that then I'm great. hashed it out in my head a bit more. [Edited 1/30/08 14:02pm] | |
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evenstar said: i'm all for some space when the mood strikes, but not sharing a bed? no way.
Agreed. | |
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I would love 2 separate living quarters. No messing up allowed on my side I could have my minimalist designer apartment and my severe geometric hair  and he can have his hovel.[Edited 1/30/08 15:00pm] | |
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I used to think exactly the same way as your cousin Dex, & for the longest I thought it would work. Now I'm down w/ the same bedroom stuff, however we need to have enough $ to have a big place so we don't feel smothered. Separate bathrooms & closets would be nice, & enough space so we don't feel like we're right on top of each other all the time. I definitely wanna sleep in the same bed though, I'm a snuggly mf...   I never met you, but I LOVE you & I will forever!! Thank you for being YOU - my little Princey, the best to EVER do it | |
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DexMSR said: I was having a conversation with my cousin here in Atlanta and she told me how she would have the perfect relationship if the man in her life could be on the other side of her home. I mean doing his thing on his own and they would come together only when they "wanted" to be in each other's space. Call each other to see if they wish to go out or have dinner together and not be all up in each other's space all the time.
She went on to say that he also could not sleep in the same bed with her. Not because of him, but she doesn't like sharing her bed. He may snore, hog the blankets, whatever, but she is really down for a non-intrusive relationship but would like to live under the same roof. I know how hard it is sharing space with ANYONE especially in tight quarters like an apartment and such. What is your perfect situation in sharing space? Your cousin has the right idea, but I'd take it a step further. Instead of the other side of the house, we live in seperate homes, and see each other whenever. |
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ZombieKitten said: I would love 2 separate living quarters. No messing up allowed on my side
I could have my minimalist designer apartment and my severe geometric hair and he can have his hovel.
[Edited 1/30/08 15:00pm] why can't you at least cut your hair that way if you want to? | |
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evenstar said: ZombieKitten said: I would love 2 separate living quarters. No messing up allowed on my side
I could have my minimalist designer apartment and my severe geometric hair and he can have his hovel.
[Edited 1/30/08 15:00pm] why can't you at least cut your hair that way if you want to? Oh, I can do what I like, but that haircut would not macth my current lifestyle | |
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DexMSR said: I was having a conversation with my cousin here in Atlanta and she told me how she would have the perfect relationship if the man in her life could be on the other side of her home. I mean doing his thing on his own and they would come together only when they "wanted" to be in each other's space. Call each other to see if they wish to go out or have dinner together and not be all up in each other's space all the time.
She went on to say that he also could not sleep in the same bed with her. Not because of him, but she doesn't like sharing her bed. He may snore, hog the blankets, whatever, but she is really down for a non-intrusive relationship but would like to live under the same roof. I know how hard it is sharing space with ANYONE especially in tight quarters like an apartment and such. What is your perfect situation in sharing space? If she can regularly give me a quick lay, a sandwich & keep her mouth shut, I'll live however the way she wants me to. Give it, serve it up & shut up, & the house will be her castle. Or maybe she prefers the term palace. Hopefully, if she follows the 3rd part of that mantra, I'll never really know. // [Edited 1/30/08 15:55pm] | |
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uPtoWnNY said: DexMSR said: I was having a conversation with my cousin here in Atlanta and she told me how she would have the perfect relationship if the man in her life could be on the other side of her home. I mean doing his thing on his own and they would come together only when they "wanted" to be in each other's space. Call each other to see if they wish to go out or have dinner together and not be all up in each other's space all the time.
She went on to say that he also could not sleep in the same bed with her. Not because of him, but she doesn't like sharing her bed. He may snore, hog the blankets, whatever, but she is really down for a non-intrusive relationship but would like to live under the same roof. I know how hard it is sharing space with ANYONE especially in tight quarters like an apartment and such. What is your perfect situation in sharing space? Your cousin has the right idea, but I'd take it a step further. Instead of the other side of the house, we live in seperate homes, and see each other whenever. The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them. -- Mark Twain.
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CalhounSq said: I used to think exactly the same way as your cousin Dex, & for the longest I thought it would work. Now I'm down w/ the same bedroom stuff, however we need to have enough $ to have a big place so we don't feel smothered. Separate bathrooms & closets would be nice, & enough space so we don't feel like we're right on top of each other all the time. I definitely wanna sleep in the same bed though, I'm a snuggly mf...
Yes...I like sleeping with my partner. When she gets into my nooks I do feel like a Lion King with my Lioness near purrrrring..... The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them. -- Mark Twain.
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uPtoWnNY said: DexMSR said: I was having a conversation with my cousin here in Atlanta and she told me how she would have the perfect relationship if the man in her life could be on the other side of her home. I mean doing his thing on his own and they would come together only when they "wanted" to be in each other's space. Call each other to see if they wish to go out or have dinner together and not be all up in each other's space all the time.
She went on to say that he also could not sleep in the same bed with her. Not because of him, but she doesn't like sharing her bed. He may snore, hog the blankets, whatever, but she is really down for a non-intrusive relationship but would like to live under the same roof. I know how hard it is sharing space with ANYONE especially in tight quarters like an apartment and such. What is your perfect situation in sharing space? Your cousin has the right idea, but I'd take it a step further. Instead of the other side of the house, we live in seperate homes, and see each other whenever. my gracious.. ... new meaning to 'distance' relationship lol | |
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Sounds good to me too. Either that or a fully loaded 10,000 sq ft home. Perfect. | |
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I don't know about all that, but living with 9 other people in one small house, as I do, can get a bit much. I still wouldn't change it though, all in all, else I wouldn't still be here. There will come a time pretty soon though. | |
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DexMSR said: I was having a conversation with my cousin here in Atlanta and she told me how she would have the perfect relationship if the man in her life could be on the other side of her home. I mean doing his thing on his own and they would come together only when they "wanted" to be in each other's space. Call each other to see if they wish to go out or have dinner together and not be all up in each other's space all the time.
She went on to say that he also could not sleep in the same bed with her. Not because of him, but she doesn't like sharing her bed. He may snore, hog the blankets, whatever, but she is really down for a non-intrusive relationship but would like to live under the same roof. I know how hard it is sharing space with ANYONE especially in tight quarters like an apartment and such. What is your perfect situation in sharing space? I agree with everything else except sleeping in separate beds. I find that hard to do. | |
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Rhondab said: I believe in silence.
I don't have to be up under anyone and will gladly give anyone space so I can have some space myself. | |
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DanceWme said: Prince and I do this.
He's always in the studio and Im always in the kitchen. With our huge house, we run into each other every once in awhile. I try not to invade his space and he doesnt invade mine. Sorry about the Planet Earth album.
Its my fault because I constantly bugged him while he was in the studio. | |
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