honestly...i've been looking over my own habits myself (i can be honest... i could play it a lil safer), and when i think about it, MOST people i've talked to about sex in general (friends, associates, relatives) don't use protection...or if they do..they only use it for a while (kinda like the no kiss on the first date thing) then find excuses 2 ditch it...with all we know about STD's and the like, people are going raw like AIDS dont exist..or unplanned pregnancies can't happen to people who are less than prepared...i mean I DONT KNOW ANYBODY...(anybody)...WHO EVEN LIKES THE IDEA OF DENTAL DAM or BLOWJOBS WITH CONDOMS (including me)...but these things are very necessary... aren't they?....many people won't even get tested because they'd rather not know...

so we have "wrap it up" commercials every five minutes, but does anyone really REALLY practice safe sex who isn't abstinant?


if your brave enough to admit your own habits please do (if only saying "i could do better")...if not, then think of the stories you've heard...do your friends?

i'm just curious to know what the concensus is...

discussion is how we change these things right?

I can count on one hand the number of times I've fucked without a condom, maybe 2 or 3 times in LIFE. But I have yet to adopt any of that dental dam/condom shit when it comes to oral I'd probably sooner skip it, which would be a drag. BUT it's not like I'm going around w/ random mf's either. I dunno, who the fuck uses that w/ oral??

CalhounSq said:

one of my boys was always promoting it in high school, but i doubt he uses it (like a relative i have who gives me all his condoms, but never uses any)

i feel you with the "not w/ random mf's", but we never TRULY know what our partner's up to...(sorry to "take you there" or put any notions about your partner in your head...i just felt like that was an important point to make for the life of this thread)...
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After the baby boom that has happened around me, within my family of seventeen-nineteen-year-old cousins that have disregarded the condom, I think it's safe to say that, as painful as it is to use, it can be even "MORE" painful spare it. It's kind of like setting a cattle prod to your nuts until they explode.....and not in the way one would like to imagine, either.

FarrahMoan said:

sssss...ouch

SirPsycho said:

I totally hear you on that, believe me. My current situation is w/ a blast from the past, but we were apart for many years & I have no idea what he's been up to (or what he was up to when we were together, for that matter )... but I don't ask b/c I frankly don't care right now. I assume he's fucking at least one other person, but I also assume he uses some degree of protection w/ them as he does w/ me. I know I'm taking my chances but it's difficult when you have a history w/ somebody & certain things (like him diving face-first into my bare crotch) are long established But I'd probably still skip the precautions with a new guy (only on oral!!), I'd just wait until I felt like I knew him before he got any head from me

It's an issue, man. If I ever get married I'll be looking @ my husband sideways & shit I'm so used to being protected w/ intercourse...


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"HOWEVER", being as stubborn as I am, I'm probably going to be all hypocritical and whatnot, one day. But, it probably won't be anytime soon. Hell, I barely get any action as it is. I'm now learning how much of a blessing in disguise it tends to be.

CalhounSq said:

i knew i liked you for a reason other than your avatar choice....(hope that doesn't sound as sex-related to you as it does when i type it)

but yeah...i realized more often than not we dont care to know for that moment ESPECIALLY due to our history romantically or sexually...and i do say we cuz "thats how it be tho" (this is what made me think of it today) ...[and @ the husband line] poor guy

FarrahMoan said:

yeah well if you dont know already..certain sensations can be very addictive...

just adds hardness 2 already hard heads(lawd)
[Edited 12/21/07 23:25pm]

no. i've been with the same man for 5.5 years, and before that, i wasn't doing much that required it.

what about your friends?


(TLC flashback)


do your friends tales of coitus include protection?
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SirPsycho said:

I'm sure I'll get over that "oh shit, this mf could give me a disease!" feeling someday I hope so, it'd be a shame if I couldn't feel comfortable with my husband

SirPsycho said:

Well most of my friends are married so they don't have to deal with it... a good friend uses it all the time, another good friend has had so many slip ups I'm surprised she hasn't caught anything (that she's admitted to). Seems like she's responsible those first few weeks/months & then it's just whateva - I don't get that

CalhounSq said:

yeah i got ALOT of exes like that, like dayum...i always get the "i think im pregnant"...and i'm like "what happened did the condom break?"...and they're like "yeah...about that..."

SirPsycho said:

Yea, people are on some bullshit. Having/raising/giving up/aborting a baby is not to be taken lightly, I don't know why people risk it Let alone HIV. I'd be much more into the thought of oral protection if I knew it was easy to get that way. There's other stuff of course, but I just pray... & open wide

CalhounSq said:

okay...this time when i say i like your style it's cuz you a freak like my nasty ass

three cheers for prince fans!

Hey, isn't this already posted in the P&R section? Did you post twice to be on the safe side?

wildgoldenhoney said:

Sorry, I know, corny joke!

SirPsycho said:

wildgoldenhoney said:

yea...honestly i didnt know which "group" would be more responsive

I will not have sex unless either/or is using protection. Just not worth the risk and I don't want children right now.

thanks everyone for the comments, but FRIENDS people...are all your FRIENDS as wise?


when u look around to those close to you, do you see a "safe" world sexually (in practice....we all know sex initself is no longer safe)? or do you see a world that can care less?

SirPsycho said:

I don't know. It's not something we discuss. It's up to them and anyone else for that matter what they do sexually anyway.

JDInteractive said:

Same for me. I can't even think of one time that protection was not used.

No, they're not. A lot of people say they are but many of them seem to slip up a lot time and time again.

I´ve been tested, I always use protection ( until I know 100% that it isn´t necessary) and I´m not to keen on having a couple of kids here and there with women that I don´t want to spend a long time with.
That being said, rubbers are really annoying and, when you like it a bit rough, tend to break. Happened to me lots of times so I always check if the rubber is still in good condition while I´m doing it, without letting her know and without spoiling the fun for the current sex partner. It is a huge stress factor for me and sometimes I envy those generations before us for the sexually carefree time they grew up in .
It is indeed very frustrating to use condoms, but hey, what else can you do if you´re not sure whether she´s tested or not or whether she´s on the pill or not.

i live in the chlamydia capital of canada!

this is also the city where the pro footballer was a)married b)knew he was hiv pos c)conducting three simultaneous long term relationships with women in the area. he was charged and convicted for that mess.

i've not used protection for oral but had i taken that cutie home while on vacation i had intended to. i took many more risks when i was younger but in the
end it's your body and your responsibility to be knowledgeable and protect yourself.

emm said:

That's what I find funny about most people who go on and on about safe sex...most of them are having/giving unprotected oral which is just as bad.

SirPsycho said:

So true, at least for oral.