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PrintableMoniGram said: Well hopefully all will work out in the end...for me and him. I think sometimes I am to damn nice!
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You're not alone! 
ALL of us are here for you  "Nobody makes me bleed my own blood...NOBODY!"
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ThreadCula said: You're not alone!
ALL of us are here for you Thank you hun! Proud Memaw to Seyhan Olivia Christine ,Zoey Cirilo Jaylee & Ellie Abigail Lillian | |
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MoniGram said: What do they say..time heals all wounds! Well right now mine have salt and lemon juicein them!
Add some liquor and good friends and its all good! | |
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MoniGram said: Well..today my Sweetie Andy, broke up with me. He had gone away to Texas this past weekend, and he came home a different man. At first I thought it was nothing...but it turns out it was a HUGE something.
My Sweetie (I can't help not call him that) is Vietnamese, and he is the only and oldest son of his family. Well pressure got to him, and he broke down and decided to do what his family wanted. He went to Texas to meet a Vietnamese girl his parents wanted him to meet. Well I guess he decided to date her, and today he finally told me. So my heart is breaking, because after 1 yr and 9 months I have to let go of the man I love with all my heart, because I am not Asian. Because I can't give him children, and I can't be the woman his parents would want me to be. I also knew in my heart this could happen, and I would tell him all the time that he needed to think about things like that. But he would always say.."Babe, you make me happy, and that is all that matters' The last time I saw my Sweetie was last Tuesday, I never thought that would be the last time I heard him say he loved me. So..if I could get a hug, and a punch or two for being so stupid, and a bit of love from my org friends because right now I feel like my life is ending. That would be great! Awwww Moni First of all, you are not stupid. Only stupid people never give it a go or try for love. You will never know how things can be unless you try and you did try honey. Nothing wrong with that. Most of us have tried and ended up in the same situation. You are spectacular and should not make this thing about you. You are dealing with racial attitudes that go very deep. Deep enough for your boyfriend to betray you and turn his life upside down to please his family.
My Mexican Grandmother resented my mother greatly because she was not a Mexican girl. She was prejudiced againgst my mom and treated her horribly. Eventually my dad left us to marry a nice Mexican girl. Exactly what my grandmother wanted. And that woman ruined his life. My grandmother eventually came to terms with the fact that she was prejudiced against my mother and years later tearfully apologized and admitted she was wrong. These cultural things are really hard for people to get over and or deal with. You can't change his parents attitude towards their culture so again, don't make this about you. This is about them and their ignorance. You are a wonderful and vibrant woman and this period is going to suck MASSIVELY. But I think you already know that. Just know there are tons of friends here you can turn to who care about your wellbeing. If you need to vent or talk, you know where to find me 
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paintedlady said: MoniGram said: What do they say..time heals all wounds! Well right now mine have salt and lemon juicein them!
Add some liquor and good friends and its all good! See Moni! you just need beer!
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MoniGram said: retina said: Wow!
So do you think he's in love with this other woman, or was the pressure from his parents the only reason he hooked up with her? It was the pressure from his parents..and his friend Tommy, who is very successfull. He doesn't love her, the man loves me. But he has to do what is best...for his family. But that doesn't make this hurt any less. That shows you what a weak person he is. A strong man would have stood up to his family. They aren't living their life for him and yet he is going to live his life for them? Makes no sense. He's a weak man Moni. You don't need that. 2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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MoniGram said: PaisleyPark5083 said: Feel free to do what you need to do, just remember you are hottest future baby Meemaw, I have ever seen! Thank you hun! I told myself..it's time to focus all my energy into that baby.  And you don't even have to carry the baggage of a weak man into her life Be strong Moni But cry if you need to! Don't even try and not cry Tears are the release of poison. Get it out! 2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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FarrahMoan said: This makes my blood run cold. I don't even...."MY GOD!!!!" I was seriously hoping that it might be something less stressful like you're dog possibly having rabies or your fish died. But, it was cupid, ruthlessly detaching his arrow with slow precision of a thrust from your heart. I want to cry with you. I want us to lie a head on each other's shoulder. This makes me feel transgression of a numb emotion that hides, curdling under my murky subconscious. I want to give you the blessing of better love. Of a heart, shining and new. I wish I could rejuvenate you. Why does the sky's blue steer clear when there's rain? Just so God can trade turquoise traps of giant, pappy cream cheese puddles to hazel strips of Maine? From gray to the grain. Whole wheat on the ryes. Heartfelt chlorine giggles and tactless goodbyes. He still died for the tears in your eyes. But, I'm just surprised. Why do some have to have a palpable center? Can't we all share a weakness with Moni only for the Winter. Peace will coincide. Your love will subside. It's never too late to fight for what help and held your golden deep pride. Please live for me, now. Moni. Please hold onto a spirit that won't let go. Hold onto your heart, and you never know.....
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MoniGram said: Thank you everyone! I know that some might see this place as a goofy site, with a goofy forum. But I think all of you are some awesome people. And we always seem to be there for one another. So thank you...I know with your help, and a few bottles of wine, I will make it. Will take some time...because there is sooo much I will miss. But it will happen.
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FuNkeNsteiN said: Damn... sorry, Moni
1) Good thing you didn't 'waste' more than one year and nine months on this relationship. It would've sucked even more balls if your man had walked away from, say a ten year relationship. 2) That dude is a dick. Yes, I said it, a dick. What grown man does what his parents tell him to do? He will never have a happy life as long as he does what other people tell him to do. Live for yourself and do stuff you wanna do. Your parents don't want you dating a non-Asian even though you want to? Fuck 'em. Agreed. This guy was a dick. I'm so sorry Moni. | |
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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: FarrahMoan said: This makes my blood run cold. I don't even...."MY GOD!!!!" I was seriously hoping that it might be something less stressful like you're dog possibly having rabies or your fish died. But, it was cupid, ruthlessly detaching his arrow with slow precision of a thrust from your heart. I want to cry with you. I want us to lie a head on each other's shoulder. This makes me feel transgression of a numb emotion that hides, curdling under my murky subconscious. I want to give you the blessing of better love. Of a heart, shining and new. I wish I could rejuvenate you. Why does the sky's blue steer clear when there's rain? Just so God can trade turquoise traps of giant, pappy cream cheese puddles to hazel strips of Maine? From gray to the grain. Whole wheat on the ryes. Heartfelt chlorine giggles and tactless goodbyes. He still died for the tears in your eyes. But, I'm just surprised. Why do some have to have a palpable center? Can't we all share a weakness with Moni only for the Winter. Peace will coincide. Your love will subside. It's never too late to fight for what help and held your golden deep pride. Please live for me, now. Moni. Please hold onto a spirit that won't let go. Hold onto your heart, and you never know.....
WTF?! What he said Moni .....,,, | |
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MoniGram said: Well hopefully all will work out in the end...for me and him. I think sometimes I am to damn nice!
Naw...he's just an IDIOT 
Don't ever change Moni | |
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ugh, fucking families.  fuck him, moni, you're much better off now. | |
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Moni, you beautiful woman. You deserve so much better.  | |
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evenstar said: ugh, fucking families.
fuck him, moni, you're much better off now.my sentiments exactly. | |
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I'm sorry to hear that. I'm not gonna punch ya though.  Shake it til ya make it  | |
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My balls itch! This shit sucks ass! He's not cool! Fuck him! I suck..... | |
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| Moni ... I know from personal experience (my wife is Asian) that pressure can be VERY high and some people succumb. However they will not live a happy life and he should know that already. However I know you'll be just allright and the sun will start shining again soon ... | |
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I'm sorry
You will feel better in time, and you will find someone with a family that will love you! | |
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moni, I'm sorry you're going thru this...
you deserve better and no doubt will do better, in time... | |
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I'm so sorry Moni | |
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Moni ..I am so very sorry ...u are truely the most beautiful lady.....it is indeed a huge loss for him but u deserve so much better | |
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Awww....
Break ups suck.
Things will get better with time. | |
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This can't be true.... Can it?
I can't believe what I've just read... seriously! ...I'm so sorry Moni...You are a far far better person than to have this! ...Big
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On to better things girl. No More Haters on the Internet. |
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I'm so sorry Moni...
I know this hurts really bad. It will hurt and unfortunately you just have to get through the hurt to get to the other side. You are a beautiful, smart, funny, and caring woman. There is someone out there for you that will go beyond what you ever thought you could have had with this one. Although, I know it doesn't seem like it right now. Seriously though, if he is a grown man and still letting his parents tell him what to do then something just isn't right with that. I fear with his lack of a backbone then if the two of you would have worked out in the short term his parents' constant butting in would have made your relationship hell. I know you're hurting and I hope that you will get through it as soon as possible. | |
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WTF!!!!
you need more than just a little punch 
 that is just SOOOOO unfair! | |
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