oh Moni I'm so sorry but please don't call yourself stupid becuase we can not control what are hearts feel. You will get through this and you definitely have your org friends, hang in there my friend (lots of them )

Oh Moni, I'm so sorry to hear this.




You're better off without him if he's gonna end it like this. I understand that he is doing this because of his family, but it's still shitty.

ack

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How utterly rude his parents are, and how foolish he seems to be.

Good riddance is hard to say right now, but you'll be glad later when you don't have to deal with idiot in-laws who treat you like shit because you're not the same race as they are.

Mach said:

I saw it. Such kinky filth, Mach... He's barely just broken up with her and you're already trying to get in her pants.

Mach said:

I saw it. Such kinky filth, Mach... He's barely just broken up with her and you're already trying to get in her pants.

If he didn't fight to keep you, then he isn't worth it in the end. Moni, I know all too well about the pressures that men receive when they date outside their race. I had a child with a Haitian and his mother made him feel so bad, he denied our child and his family labeled me a whore esp. since I am Puerto Rican. 18 years later he is still coming around (3-4xs a week),spending all kinds of money on me, begs to be at my dinner table during holidays and never tells his girlfriends about me, and acts like a downright cunt with any boyfriend I introduce him to. I am glad now we didn't stay together...he is a coward. God wanted more for me, God wants more for you too.


Love, Painted Lady

Well..today my Sweetie Andy, broke up with me. He had gone away to Texas this past weekend, and he came home a different man. At first I thought it was nothing...but it turns out it was a HUGE something.

My Sweetie (I can't help not call him that) is Vietnamese, and he is the only and oldest son of his family. Well pressure got to him, and he broke down and decided to do what his family wanted. He went to Texas to meet a Vietnamese girl his parents wanted him to meet. Well I guess he decided to date her, and today he finally told me.

So my heart is breaking, because after 1 yr and 9 months I have to let go of the man I love with all my heart, because I am not Asian. Because I can't give him children, and I can't be the woman his parents would want me to be.

I also knew in my heart this could happen, and I would tell him all the time that he needed to think about things like that. But he would always say.."Babe, you make me happy, and that is all that matters'

The last time I saw my Sweetie was last Tuesday, I never thought that would be the last time I heard him say he loved me.

So..if I could get a hug, and a punch or two for being so stupid, and a bit of love from my org friends because right now I feel like my life is ending. That would be great!

If he didn't fight to keep you, then he isn't worth it in the end. Moni, I know all too well about the pressures that men receive when they date outside their race. I had a child with a Haitian and his mother made him feel so bad, he denied our child and his family labeled me a whore esp. since I am Puerto Rican. 18 years later he is still coming around (3-4xs a week),spending all kinds of money on me, begs to be at my dinner table during holidays and never tells his girlfriends about me, and acts like a downright cunt with any boyfriend I introduce him to. I am glad now we didn't stay together...he is a coward. God wanted more for me, God wants more for you too.


Love, Painted Lady

jess555ja said:

Thanks Jess ...to make it worse..he couldn't even tell me on the phone or in person..he did this all via email. Well..at least my stress will be gone..and I won't be having nights of drunken talk on the org because he upset me.

But I am thinking the next few nights will be filled with much drunken talk.

It is his loss and their loss too.

Damn... sorry, Moni


1) Good thing you didn't 'waste' more than one year and nine months on this relationship. It would've sucked even more balls if your man had walked away from, say a ten year relationship.

2) That dude is a dick. Yes, I said it, a dick. What grown man does what his parents tell him to do? He will never have a happy life as long as he does what other people tell him to do. Live for yourself and do stuff you wanna do. Your parents don't want you dating a non-Asian even though you want to? Fuck 'em.

MoniGram said:

OMG . . . . what an asshole



Moni, you are a beautiful, wonderful woman. I know that there is someone better for you out there. I know it's gonna hurt for a while, but you keep your head up. You don't need him

FuNkeNsteiN said:

I think someday he will miss me. I loved him thru many mistakes..and put up with alot of his crap. But I loved him for who he was. But..I do hope this new woman treats him well, and gives him the babies I know he wants so badly..even when he would say..don't worry babe, we will find away to have our babies.

FuNkeNsteiN said:

I think someday he will miss me. I loved him thru many mistakes..and put up with alot of his crap. But I loved him for who he was. But..I do hope this new woman treats him well, and gives him the babies I know he wants so badly..even when he would say..don't worry babe, we will find away to have our babies.

MoniGram said:

I am truly sorry...Damn it and I am pissed too!

I truly do not get ppl some times and why they cannot mind their own business and let ppl be happy.



It is his loss and their loss too.

Mach said:

I saw it. Such kinky filth, Mach... He's barely just broken up with her and you're already trying to get in her pants.

Damn... sorry, Moni


1) Good thing you didn't 'waste' more than one year and nine months on this relationship. It would've sucked even more balls if your man had walked away from, say a ten year relationship.

2) That dude is a dick. Yes, I said it, a dick. What grown man does what his parents tell him to do? He will never have a happy life as long as he does what other people tell him to do. Live for yourself and do stuff you wanna do. Your parents don't want you dating a non-Asian even though you want to? Fuck 'em.

shanti0608 said:

I agree..but what can you do.

MoniGram said:

I keep my in-laws at a distance, and I basically dump anyone when I feel I'm going to have problems controlling my own destiny with meddling people who are not my blood relatives. I'm not politically correct, so my option would be to wish him constant and unwavering misery for the rest of his life.

FuNkeNsteiN said:

AGREED!