JustErin said:

Well, that's a whole different issue. But it's of no interest to me.

RodeoSchro said:

That depends on what porn one is watching

That being said, not much unlike Erin there are some times when the last 3 words I want to hear in the heat of the moment are "I love you"

...but different strokes for different folks, right?

...even so...I do somehow feel inexplicably inclined to give you "cool guy" points for being man enough to demonstrate your sensitivity to the topic and share that you don't find porn appealing. Even though we have different views on why porn is or is not a good thing, I really dig your honesty and consistency in this discussion. By the way, I think you've posted that sentence the on another thread before

Empress said:

Sounds like an on again off again voyeur you are!

DexMSR said:

the scenes in Original Sin, omg

Ottensen said:

Thanks. I have a strong view but I try not to be judgmental about it. God knows I have enough faults of my own. I used to be big into porn and I didn't like what it did to me, so I try to help others who might be feeling what I felt.

And I have posted that sentence before. You really pay attention!

I'm a lesbian, and I love porn!!!

I watch a bit of porn here and there, probably 3-4 times a week. I don't give it a lot of thought in between though, and I don't feel guilty for it, it serves a purpose, to get off quickly when I am alone
early exposure to porn makes it my sexual activity of choice real sex doesn't turn me on as much. Sometimes I wish that was different, I am sure therapy could help me, but I care less and less about it these days.

Lammastide said:

This reeks of an assumption

Janfriend said:

Do tell.

Lammastide said:

can you explain EXACTLY how men enjoy it? and then we will be able to answer better

DexMSR said:

No!

Lammastide said:

Humans who enjoy it get the same thing out of it

Humanist, I see.

ZombieKitten said:

Ah, I see!

Well, conventional wisdom suggests that porn to men is primarily a visual cue that appeals directly to a carnal drive to sexually dominate (or, I suppose for some men, to be dominated by) a woman not "their own". In that sense -- and if you buy that notion -- porn is as much about a fantasized power or ownership differential as sex per se... and that gets a guy off.

Same (or similar) for women?
[Edited 12/1/07 1:29am]

Janfriend said:

Hmm... I don't assume that. And yet I can't disprove it because I'm not a woman. And so I ask.

Lammastide said:

I thought your question was an assumption that women could not be the same as men in that regard, so you wanted to know how women felt because of the assumption they don't get off to porn the way men do

Rhondab said:

well hello RHONDA!!!!

looks like we're all here 'cept ivy

Janfriend said:

Not at all. I make no assessments either way. I'd suppose some women might enjoy it for the same reason as many males; others for entirely different reasons. I want to hear it from the horses' mouths.

Lammastide said:

Well, I always assumed everybody watched it to get aroused. Now, I'm to the point where I watch it just to watch it. Most of the time, my general goal is to get aroused

Janfriend said:

That's interesting. So the goal is arousal. But when you "watch it just to watch it," I take it there is no arousal in those instances. In those cases, what do you get out of it?
[Edited 12/1/07 1:44am]

Lammastide said:

I don't know, I don't think I can really speak on behalf of other women but to me for sure, visually YES, but I certainly don't imagine myself involved in the scenes unfolding in front of me, and I don't particularly care to get to know the participants, for me they are just bodies copulating. These scenes I refer to in my fantasies later to get off also, are pretty much anonymous, totally voyeuristic, totally detached.

Lammastide said:

Simple entertainment and to see naked bodies

I also like to analyze the animalistic nature of it and what these people don't realize what it is they are really doing

Interesting stuff. Thanks, all.

I'm not judging anyone, BTW. Just wanted to hear your individual takes on this.

Carry on.
[Edited 12/1/07 1:52am]

heybaby said:

I was just thinking about her absence here! She's always a GREAT contributor to the porn threads

Lammastide said:

I would like it more if it weren't so male orientated. Huge boobs, lots of close ups on the women, stupidly LOUD moaning. I know there's hardly a venue for porn for women because we've been programmed to be disgusted at it but I really wish there were more options for women. It's a huge double standard if you ask me.
[Edited 12/1/07 4:48am]

heybaby said:

see

can't take you

anywhere

I'd rather watch porn than sports.

My question is: do the straight female porn fans enjoy the gay porn as much as many (many) straight male porn fans really (really) enjoy the lesbian porn??