I tihnk I'm falling for my best friend's girlfriend. Now, I would never do anything with her for 2 reasons. 1) The dude is my best friend and we're almost like brothers; 2) I have a girlfriend and I could never cheat on her (cheating is one of the most despicable thing in the world to me)

The thing is, I've known this girl since 3rd grade and we've been friends for that long, and she knows that in elementary school, I had a crush on her, but I've been hanging out with her a lot and realize more often that she's an awesome girl...We have really similar personalities and all that. It just kinda sucks because I have these feelings but her and my best friend have been dating for 3 years and are so committed to each other, blah, blah, blah, and I feel like an asshole for having feelings for his girlfriend. And I feel even worse because I have a girlfriend as well, and I'm feeling this other girl. It just really sucks ass because I don't WANT to feel this way because I feel like I'm betraying everyone involved.

I just had to get this outta my system....I've been sitting on this for a while.

Volitan said:

could you perhaps try and distance yourself from her at all?

Volitan said:

I don't know, dude. You're "WAAAAY" past my level as far as this whole social circle is concerned. I don't even have friends that are.....well, truly friends. Just associates from high school that didn't even develop a relationship with me while we were attending school together, let alone leave me there telephone number and vice versa. But, alls I can tell you is try and either distance yourself or maybe even open up to "SOMEONE" that you know and love, about it that you just "KNOW" that within all of your heart, you can trust so maybe they can give you a better idea of what would be the best way in handling this situation. I don't know it all. But, nonetheless, I will wish you the best of luck, my friend.....

I remember, when it started to get cold outside & I first began putting the heat up.
While the rest of the house was quite comfortable,
my bedroom tended to get a bit too warm & exceptionally dry ( thus affecting my nasal passages whilst sleeping).
Then one day, I looked at the hole at the bottom of the wall where the heat came in from & the solution hit me.
"I just need to vent this.", I said to myself.
Next thing you know,
problem solved.


Hope that helps.

Volitan said:

Just give it time. If it's a crush, it will run its course before too long.

Volitan said:

Can't say I've ever experienced this one, yet one thing strikes me: A professor once said that in a statement, when you use the construction "..., but..." everything that comes before it is seriously mitigated. Your post above is rendered similarly -- just imagine the word "but" stuck inbetween the first and second paragraphs.

Your feelings aren't abnormal, and neither is the disgust they leave you with. The question becomes, though, with which inclinations are you most aligned? If verbosity is any indicator, I'll only point out you use considerably more words and energy to express that second paragraph than the first.

I think jami0mckay suggests a great point. These feelings will lead to somewhere -- either infidelity or continued angst on your part. Maybe it's good form to separate yourself from this for awhile so as to save all parties involved (yourself included) the grief, mate.
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Dude.
There's NO WAY this is going to end well for you.

One solution, and one solution only.



STAY AWAY FROM HER.

Otherwise, it's just going to be a world of drama and pain for you.


Good luck. You'll need it.