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PrintableFreeSpirit said: Give up celebrating or... stressing=celebrating.
Either celebrate the true meaning, that should not entail $$$... but family time (if local). Work on the holidays, which I am tomorrow and usually do Christmas Day... and working with patients in the hospital usually gives me a sense of... STOP COMPLAINING, there are people who have it way worse.  This is true.
I do enjoy celebrating time, whether it be the actual day, the next day... or every chance I get with my parents. But I have stopped buying presents for every tom dick and harry. But I do buy my parents some of meaning, they deserve all that is good, even if the token is small. My present to them is usually quality time, all year.  Next Christmas I will most likely be working through the holiday and I'm pretty excited as this is something I've wanted to do for a long while. I hope to continue to work through Christmas and then visit my family the day after. For some reason they are all so hung up on the actual day that they all turn into hellions. Once (if!) I ever get married and have children, my ideal Christmas would be to spend it doing some kind of charity work during the day and then have a family celebration in the evening. | |
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JasmineFire said: FreeSpirit said: Give up celebrating or... stressing=celebrating.
Either celebrate the true meaning, that should not entail $$$... but family time (if local). Work on the holidays, which I am tomorrow and usually do Christmas Day... and working with patients in the hospital usually gives me a sense of... STOP COMPLAINING, there are people who have it way worse. This is true.
I do enjoy celebrating time, whether it be the actual day, the next day... or every chance I get with my parents. But I have stopped buying presents for every tom dick and harry. But I do buy my parents some of meaning, they deserve all that is good, even if the token is small. My present to them is usually quality time, all year. Next Christmas I will most likely be working through the holiday and I'm pretty excited as this is something I've wanted to do for a long while. I hope to continue to work through Christmas and then visit my family the day after. For some reason they are all so hung up on the actual day that they all turn into hellions. Once (if!) I ever get married and have children, my ideal Christmas would be to spend it doing some kind of charity work during the day and then have a family celebration in the evening.  You seem to be living your life accordingly. ~Hugs. I believe that once will come. ~Smile. | |
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FreeSpirit said: JasmineFire said: Next Christmas I will most likely be working through the holiday and I'm pretty excited as this is something I've wanted to do for a long while. I hope to continue to work through Christmas and then visit my family the day after. For some reason they are all so hung up on the actual day that they all turn into hellions. Once (if!) I ever get married and have children, my ideal Christmas would be to spend it doing some kind of charity work during the day and then have a family celebration in the evening. You seem to be living your life accordingly. ~Hugs. I believe that once will come. ~Smile.Thanks! I'm trying to do my best...this Christmas I'm going to go through the traditional hell of competeing families but next Christmas should be bliss. | |
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RIP, mom. I will forever miss and love you. | |
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FreeSpirit said: Give up celebrating or... stressing=celebrating.
Either celebrate the true meaning, that should not entail $$$... but family time (if local). Work on the holidays, which I am tomorrow and usually do Christmas Day... and working with patients in the hospital usually gives me a sense of... STOP COMPLAINING, there are people who have it way worse. This is true.
I do enjoy celebrating time, whether it be the actual day, the next day... or every chance I get with my parents. But I have stopped buying presents for every tom dick and harry. But I do buy my parents some of meaning, they deserve all that is good, even if the token is small. My present to them is usually quality time, all year. See, that's the problem, NONE of my family (besides my parents) are local. So celebrating the holidays is a big deal in my family. But you are right, there are people who have it way worse than I do. Guess I just have to accept things the way the are, and to try to not let them bug me so much. Take a deep breath, and exhale s-l-o-w-l-y. RIP, mom. I will forever miss and love you. | |
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DevotedPuppy said: psychodelicide said:  I admire you for being able to do this. I tried to back out of Thanksgiving this year, and my family knew I didn't have enough money to buy a plane ticket to travel to my brother's house in North Carolina. Well, it did not work, because my brother, who is having everybody over, bought me a plane ticket so that I could attend. How can I say no to that without looking like a total jerk?  Thanks...Thanksgiving was the easy one--the first one I missed was because I was in France studying so I couldn't just fly home for the weekend. After that, it was easier to get out of. And I always used the excuse that with 8+ hours of travel it wasn't worth it to travel all that time for just 3 days....
Christmas wasn't quite as easy...I've actually been trying to get out of it for a couple years now and last year a bunch of stuff happened that was just the last straw for me. I used to go back for 5-7 days to make it worthwhile, but I moved to New York 4 years ago, which added at least $200 to the ticket price & an extra 3-4 hours of travel. It used to be easy: xmas eve at my mom's parents, xmas day at my dad's parents. But then my brother & cousins all got married and now everyone's schedules are all jacked so when I go back it's like 4 days of Christmas in a row and I get a guilt trip if I want to cut out early and hang with my friends (which I only see once a year). So, last year I told my mom when I went back that was it. No more. She didn't like it, but she could tell I was serious. She'll have to tell my grandparents and aunts/cousins next month, when they ask when I'll be back, so I'm kind of getting off easy in that regard but whatever. None of them (except my parents) ever came to visit me--not once--in the 6 years I lived in Chicago or since I've lived in New York so why should I be the only making the effort? They are welcome to come to NYC for the holidays, but surprise surprise, they don't want to.  I don't blame you for not wanting to spend the holidays with your family. It sounds chaotic celebrating 4 days of Christmas in a row, and then getting a guilt trip if you don't want to do something with the family. My family used to try to do that guilt trip thing with me too, and I just told them I had things that I had to do that day, but I would see them the next day. NYC during the Christmas holidays sounds pretty. I imagine the light displays would be gorgeous to see. RIP, mom. I will forever miss and love you. | |
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babooshleeky said: Sweeny79 said: Cuz seriously it's eating my ass alive.
Family issues, health issues, work issues, kid issues, money issues..... jeez.... I wish it was January! All this holiday hupla just gets more annoying each year. Bah Humbug!  
this works for me 
  Proud Memaw to Seyhan Olivia Christine ,Zoey Cirilo Jaylee & Ellie Abigail Lillian  | |
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MoniGram said: babooshleeky said:
this works for me
It's chilling as i type 
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I don't get involved. [Edited 11/22/07 10:13am] | |
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^^^^^
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I use to drink from Thanksgiving till New years day (Honestly) but I've seen the light. But I still don't know how to handle the stress. | |
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babooshleeky said: MoniGram said: It's chilling as i type
That's a girl! Proud Memaw to Seyhan Olivia Christine ,Zoey Cirilo Jaylee & Ellie Abigail Lillian | |
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Sweeny79 said: Cuz seriously it's eating my ass alive.
Family issues, health issues, work issues, kid issues, money issues..... jeez.... I wish it was January! All this holiday hupla just gets more annoying each year. Bah Humbug!
A few bottles of something strong, lots of meds, ciggs, and sleep. Ill wake you up in Jan. Say it's just a dream...
U open up ur eyes and come 2 realize u simply imagined this So u lean over and give her a kiss Here on earth, here on earth, with u it's not so bad Here on earth, here on earth eye don't feel so sad Stay right here | |
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Sweeny79 said: PEJ said: Eat a lot! So much so that you pass the fuck out. Then when you wake up eat more.
Sadly, it seems, that's what I do all year long.   me too..... Say it's just a dream...
U open up ur eyes and come 2 realize u simply imagined this So u lean over and give her a kiss Here on earth, here on earth, with u it's not so bad Here on earth, here on earth eye don't feel so sad Stay right here | |
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Sweeny79 said: Cuz seriously it's eating my ass alive.
Family issues, health issues, work issues, kid issues, money issues..... jeez.... I wish it was January! All this holiday hupla just gets more annoying each year. Bah Humbug! | |
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me get high pon me chronic
till me eye dem a bleed | |
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It's more of an option, I'm finding, of standing by your own definition of how the holiday should go. Making time for yourself. Doing for the less fortunate, to especially keep your own life in perspective. | |
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