I am writing this letter because of a current situation in my life. Theres this man in my life and hes actually in the military as of now. I really care about him, i can actually say i love him & i'm pretty sure he feels/felt the same. See, the real drama to the story is HE's MARRiED! Now i'm no homewrecker or anything like that. I've actually never been involved with a married man until now. The story i have from him is basically in order to enter his unnamed branch of military he would have to sign over his immediate rights to their child unless he either A.) didn't join that branch of military, or B.) married the mother of the child. This man has been straight out honest with me from day one on everything so i have no reason to doubt that someone really told him this. They married toward the end of last year and he says he wasn't happy before the marriage and isn't happy now. Then get this, he says that i am too good for this situation, that i'm not made to be a side girl, that i'm made to be somebodys wife and he can't give me that at the moment, so he's gonna remove me from the situation. I argued with him and we resolved it and continued or "relationship". A few days later he tried a more dominate approach to get me out of the situation and basically told me he hated me, he didn't wanna ever hear my voice again, etc. but at that time he stayed on the phone with me for 3 hrs in the early a.m. just listening to me talk & cry. I kept hearing him pause as if he wanted to say i don't mean these things, i just don't want you to get hurt, but he didn't. So we stopped talking. He's coming home soon and we were supposed to spend the holidays together but now thats been crushed. I really love this man, and am debating if i should contact him before he leaves to come home, even though he told me not to contact him anymore. I feel that he's putting up a front because he doesn't want me to be crushed if he eventually decides to stay with his wife, which he actually vocalized in the past. I told him plenty times before that i'm a big girl, i can handle it, and that he is worth the wait, but he refuses to put me through it. In a way i think thats one of the sweetest things i've ever seen done, but at the same time i feel that he's deserted me and given up on our probable chance at real love. I'm going to pray about it and actually just take some time to think deeply and no later than tonight i'm making my decision because he leaves tomorrow. I know this seems dumb, but i really love this man. The reason i'm in such a rush is because after hes home for two weeks, he's moving to a base clear across from our origin. On the opposite coast of the united states




How stupid does one have to be????

NOW thats the type of chick that will hide in bushes and what not

Brutal.

she must be a really sad person.

What keeps otherwise rational adults clinging to people so clearly wrong for them in every way?

CarrieMpls said:

good sex

sweet said:

that and an irrational mind

This woman is headed for heartache galore

sweet said:

I don't believe it. And good sex is so not worth losing all self-respect for.

CarrieMpls said:

You aint never been plowed the right way then

CarrieMpls said:

past trauma with someone close who didn't love them. I think that people like that are always searching and trying to make the wrong people love them.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

CarrieMpls said:

This situation is not about sex...it's about no self esteem.

JustErin said:

pretty much.

Where is this letter from, anyway?

JustErin said:

Exactly. You have to wonder what happened to a person to cause them to fall so low.

CarrieMpls said:

A shitty life. It happens I made all kinds of wrong man choices and I did some really dumb things "for love" and it all stemmed from my lack of self esteem and self worth The more I work on myself personally, the more I know those days are over for me

JasmineFire said:

It's an advice-letter segment of the Steve Harvey morning radio show. He called her crazy

Janfriend said:

This part made me hear Chris Rock saying, "What do you want, a cookie?! You're not SUPPOSED to date a married man!"

Efan said:

Okay!!

CarrieMpls said:

children

is she an orger?