Me and the girlfriend got in an enormous fight. Basically, we were relaxing and we started talking about the future and I mentioned that some days, I felt like she could be the mother of my children, and some days, I felt like just living in the moment. She got really pissed and started yelling at me asking me "What the fuck are we doing then??" and I just said something to the effect of "We've only been dating for a couple months and I wasn't completely sure where our relationship was going." Well she pretty much said if I didn't know where it was going, neither did she, and she told me to fuck off and slammed the door and left. I was so dumbfounded, shocked and confused at what happened, I didn't bother chasing after her. Hopefully, maybe, she'll call me tomorrow and she'll be over it, because I care a lot about her and everything. There are so many great things about her, I'd be kinda lost if we broke up. She's an awesome human being (usually), and is by far the most gorgeous girl I've ever seen in my life. Plus, there are so many things (songs, smells, places, foods, etc) that remind me of her, I would never be able to look at those things the same again. Wish me luck folks

so is she angry because you weren't totally sure that your future was rock-solid? maybe it's just the way you've described it, but for her to react so dramatically makes her seem pretty unstable.

i hope it works out for the best, though.

sorry this happened to you. Hope it works out for you, I honestly do!

Sorry to hear that ...hope things level out tomorrow, this type of thing can be so damn rough emotionally . Although I do have to say, if you guys have only been involved for a couple of months, her reaction was overboard in my opinion. I don't know if that's a sign or anything...but seriously, nobody should be freaking out over something like this after two months.

Thanks guys. I thought she over reacted too. Maybe she loves me more than I love her?? If that's the case, I feel like an asshole. Maybe she saw me as her knight in shining armor, and she thinks I didn't see her the same way. I thought we'd last forever you know. I've never had much money, but that didn't stop us from being together. That, to me, was the sign that she might be the one. She didn't give a damn about money and just wanted to be with me. I guess she thought I was too wishy-washy about our relationship. Which is true, I guess. I'm young, don't have job, or any idea what I wanna do with my life, let alone who I wanna spend it with. That's not so unreasonable is it??? I mean, aside from that we had the perfect relationship. I got along great with her friends and family, she got along great with mine, we never had a fight besides this one. I seriously thought it was gonna last a lot longer than this
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Volitan said:

it's definitely not unreasonable, especially since you're young and haven't been together that long. but is one fight really the end of the relationship?? give it some time and talk to her about it later, i think.

evenstar said:

Maybe. But the tone in her voice, shew sounded a bit surprised that I didn't feel it was permanent. Almost as if she assumed this entire time that I was 100% sure me and her were gonna get married and have little babies and live in a nice house, etc, etc. Sometimes I really felt like that's what I wanted, but other days it was just like, let's take it slow and see what happens. I guess she didn't expect that I wasn't always sure I wanted to marry her and spend my life with her.

are you guys the same age... or is your gf a bit older than you?

I turned 18 on October 26....she turns 19 on Nov. 22.....so we are the same age, but she's very slightly older than me.....

I'm going to sleep this whole thing off now guys. I'll cal her tomorrow and see how it goes. Wish me luck

sorry

take care

Volitan said:

OMG WAYYYYY too young for that kind of reaction. Your comment was totally fine & honest, you shouldn't be CERTAIN about your future @ 18. If she stays mad, let her go. I know it's hard & seems like the end of the fucking world right now but the last thing you wanna do is be obligated to craziness before you've even decided on a major in college

I am sorry that happened to you last night...I hope things will be better for you today.

So did she call you or what?

Yeah, she called. She's basically questioning whether or not it's even worth it to go on since I don't know what I want. But I can't sit around waiting for her to make up her mind, and I don't expect her to wait around for me to make up my mind. It basically boils down to, neither of us knew what we wanted. I knew something was just too good to be true. I'm not taking it as bad as I thought I was going to though. Obviously, I'm not happy about it, but I'm not gonna kill myself or go on a rampage, or hold a grudge with her or anything like that. It's sucks it had to end, but it did, and there's nothing you can really do in these situations but to move on.

I'm not sweating it too badly, I guess

Volitan said:

MoniGram said:

Thanks. All my friends have had two reactions so far

either

"Dude, you gotta go over there and work it out, man, blah, blah"

or

"Wow man, you seem to be taken this whole thing awfully well. Just don't go postal on us"

Volitan said:

Awww man.....

I'm sorry!

CalhounSq said:

Agreed.

Volitan said:

Consider it a bullet dodged, seriously. Find out who you are first & what you want out of life. Don't ever let someone pressure you into a future w/ them. Once you know what you want, you'll know when to go for it.