"Looking for unconditional love in a world of conditions must inevitably fail. Since all your brothers and sisters are acting our of shame-based patterns, they cannot offer you the love you know that you deserve, nor can you offer it to them. The best that you can do is raise each other's awareness of the love that is necessary and begin taking responsibility for giving it to yourself.

If you do not take responsibility for bringing love to your own wounds, you will not move out of the vicious cycle of attack/defense, guilt and blame. Your feelings of rage, hurt and betrayal, all of which seem justified, will just fuel the fire of interpersonal conflict and continue to reinforce your unconscious belief that you are unloveable and incapable of loving.

You must learn to see the extent of your own self-hatred. Until you look in the mirror and see your own beliefs reflected there, you will be using every brother or sister in your experience as a mirror to show you what you believe about yourself. While there is nothing wrong with this practice, it is not the shortest or the easiest way home, since there is always the tendency to think that what you see is somebody else's lesson".

--Paul Ferrini, 'Love Without Conditions: Reflections of the ChristMind'

**This is what I'm off to work on. And that's all I've got to say about that!

Good luck on your adventures Anotherlover.

AnotherLoverHolenYoHead said:

I'm here baby

Yes, good luck on your adventures, AnotherLover...