Because everybody is different...complicated to a person like you might be simple to a person like me.

I'm having a very good long distance relationship at the moment.

In fact, it's the most easy-going relationship ever.

I prefer a good guy who's living too far away over a complicated boyfriend that lives in the same house.

mdiver said:

I agree, but there is someone I work with who constantly moans and yet takes on everyone's problems and more, then cannot cope with her own life alone and then moans. We tell her to stop, but it seems that is the way she is, and wouldn't have her life any other way.
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MarieLouise said:

Sounds good to me.

MissMe said:

I think some people thrive on drama, there is an orger i know that is constantly in a mess in her life, everything is always a state and the cure is always just around the corner and yet..in the 5 years i have known her it never changes and the drama goes on and on...some people are just like that because they can't run their own lives. That is not to say she has a complicated life...she just makes it so

Having a pet or a real relationship (near or far) is something you cannot put a value on. It is something unconditional so no matter what it takes you do it because of the love you give & receive.
I think when ppl start to fill their lives with material things like expensive clothes and shoes they are filling a void that something like a pet or a relationship can fill but we look to material things because it is "easier" or less complicated

But to each their own really. Whatever makes you happy.

mdiver said:

I guess some people are just like that. I don't have an answer for it, like my colleague, there isn't much you can do, she takes more and more on. Some are martyr-like and others cannot see an easy way out.

MissMe said:

It's poverty.

Justin1972UK said:

I agree and disagree with what you are saying.
Yes money can be a great factor in how one lives ones life, but again it can be too much disposable money, just as it can be lack of money.

I did mention debts in my opening thread, but that isn't the be all and end all. Children, pets, social outings or groups, etc etc. Some people have a hectic lifestyle and it seems they do not have time to sit down and reflect and have quality time alone, on their own, or with their families, as they are constantly trying to please others or to be "seen" as being a great contributer to society.

Because it's fun.

JustErin said:

A good answer, and a positive answer.

I'm sure people don't strive to make their lives difficult or complicated. It just happens to be a common side effect when they try to enrich their lives. You have to take the good with the bad, or else settle for nothing.

retina said:

Yes, a good point to make. Some can "enrich" their lives with too many activities, which take over the value of each, and becomes a real headache.

retina said:

agreed

Because with some people you have such great sex that you put up with a lot of shit .,...that´s why...

That, or the sad truth that some mofos can´t get no pussy so they stick with what they know and what they can get.
Money, on the other hand, gives you a whole new range of options...

MissMe said:

Money makes things "less complicated"... Whether or not it's good to be complicated or bad to be complicated is an entirely different subject.

If a disposable income doesn't make things less complicated, then I don't know what does.

money just changes the problems, it in no way uncomplicates life

obviously many different reasons

I do believe in many people it is a personality trait. I have a friend, who by another friend, has been called "over-obligated". I asked for an explanation for that, and got "you know, she just can't say no to anything" Which explains why she is ALWAYS in a frantic state, rushing from obligation to obligation. We are talking a highly professional woman here, with numerous degrees and quals. She travels the country giving workshops and stuff. Her poor kids don't see much of her, and yet when they do, she is chauffering them to all their activities, sitting on the committees for their schools, preparing sadwiches for the PTA luncheon

I know a few people like this, mainly women, who have this need to be "needed" and appreciated, and expect gratitute. I think they thrive on the busy-ness, yet are always complaining how they have so much to do it drives them mental.



I just say "no"

I think complaining is a nasty affliction especially if you keep digging the hole that you're complaing about deeper.

Or maybe I mean a nasty habit. We're all guilty but it's a nasty disposition that should be avoided.

Is this a Gold319 appreciation thread?

Honestly, some people can't help themselves. They're so used to acting on some level other than logic (i.e. my life will be easier if I do A instead of B) & they're not even aware that they can change course - they're used to chaos, stress, having something to bitch about. Some people just LIKE drama.

My life is pretty simple, I intentionally try to keep it that way. But I do torture myself in little ways so I have something to bitch about & something negative to overcome, that way I feel like I've accomplished something when I come out on the other side of it (when really all I've done is CREATE a circumstance for myself to work through, a circumstance that wasn't even necessary in the first place).

It's a process of awareness imo. Some folks can't look @ themselves honestly enough to admit what their shit is all about & why they do what they do, they just act & think on a level that keeps them "complicated".

Some things are most definitely out of our control, but some things we wholeheartedly contribute to.


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