I told my mother a few days that I was gay. She had the worst reaction ever. If my family environment was bad, now it became even worst.

Has anyone experienced this situation?

MikeMatronik said:

You told her!

I am so sorry to hear about her reaction, and hope it's just shock that's making her behave so badly. Really, it makes me want to vomit when I hear about these reactions.
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If I told my mom that I messed around with guys before, she'd probably, honest to god, roll her eyes, but a few others in my family would take it pretty badly.



But then again, I've had the same reaction with sharing my women with them, so I just pretty much to share ANYTHING with them anymore.



Families are so fucked up.

MikeMatronik said:

That was very brave thing to do.

She said stuff like:

- I would die with a disease
- that I should get a girl and pretend that I was straight
- that I was gay because she failed as a parent.

My mom is a very open-minded woman...but I never expected her to be like this.

I told my parents I wish I was a lesbian, they had an awful reaction too.

Be happy and she'll surrender.
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beret1022 said:

...and I'm sorry your mother had a bad reaction. I'm sure she will learn to accept it in time.

MikeMatronik said:

That is why I'll never tell my folks...

I think she'll freak out when she knows that my boyfriend is 5 years younger than her...

I'm sorry about that. If my sons told me they were gay it wouldn't change how I felt about them one bit.

It's a shame that it's so hard for some parents. Maybe your mom will come around. I think all parents get ideas of what they wish for there kids. Hopefully in time she will be able to realize that just because what she thought won't be that that doesn't mean things will be terrible.

Good luck and you're very brave to tell her.

MikeMatronik said:

One of mine was 3 years older than my mum.


She would die.


But congrats to you. It's a big step. You're very brave.
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This probably won't make things any easier for you but...


I think you're hot.

MikeMatronik said:

Actually my boyfriend has been my saviour in this whole situation. He has told me to be calm, to be caring towards my mother. To let time pass...
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my mother you can't even imply those kind of things..last time.she almost had a heart attack or so she said..

MikeMatronik said:

What's the big problem....if you were gay only a few days, wouldn't you be straight the rest?????

Just kidding, I really hope your Mom can get past this and understand and accept you for who you are unconditionally.

You're very brave. I hope your mother takes a step back and realizes that she's not as open minded as she think she might be.

Reminds me of the character in the "For Better or Worse" comic strip that ran a few years ago. The following doesn't have the one I was looking for, but his father ended up throwing him out of the house.

Stay strong, I wish you my best

MikeMatronik said:

I'm sorry.

My hope for you is that you take the reaction with a grain of salt. Don't feel bad about yourself.

If you wree my boy I'd hold you and tell you I love you.

X a billion.

God, now I can't stop thinkiong about you.

I'm really really sorry that your going through this with your family.

If it were my kids...gay i could deal with..if any child of mine came home and said "I am an Arsenal or Chelsea fan" they can get the fuck out of my house and never darken my door again.

Aww that sucks, Miguel . It's such a shame that she reacts like that , but maybe when a little bit time passes she will get used to the situation. Stay strong and don't feel too hurt .

First. Congratulations on taking control of your life!

Second, I'd say most of us have had very hard experiences when it came to telling our family and most of us have the same outcome....acceptance and love from our families. There are those who do not have that and that's what makes me believe that friendships can be just as important as family because I have those kinds of friends in my life. what was your relationship with your mom like before? If it was good, it'll likely get back to where it was before. Just might take a little time but hang in there.

mdiver said:

That's like my kids coming to me and telling me that they are going to go the University of Virginia.



Blasphemy!

I would like to thank everyone who posted so much positive input in the thread. Thank you.

mdiver said:

I would do the same if I had a son who was a fan of 50 Cent.

MikeMatronik said:

You're welcome and if you were my son I'd give you a huge hug and tell you that there isn't anything you could do that would make me love you less.

That's how I feel about my sons.

There is a bond there that will never be broken.

I am sorry that your mom had to react that way.

If your mom is like my mom she talks before she thinks.

I think she will come around in time.

My mom freaked when I told her that I had a girlfriend several years ago.

Parents can be close minded some times.
I hope it gets better soon.

MikeMatronik said:

1 - Straights die from disease every damn day.

2 - Did you ever see this thread!:
http://www.prince.org/msg...sg_1114030

3 - That must be the stock answer because my mom said the same thing. Probably most moms do. She'll come to realize that before you told her there was a reason she loved you and she will realize that again. It takes some people time to deal with it.

As for being open minded, look at how big a cunt Cher acted about her own daughter and she's like a gay goddess I'm sure your mom will come around. You are too goddamn fantastic for her not to

Well my Mum kinda outed me and then we discussed it. She seemed pretty ok about it at first but then I got a similar sounding archetypal 'shocked parent' lecture.

I think Mums tend to have this grand dream of wanting to be grandparents and assume that it will never happen if their son is gay...

My Dad doesn't know but that's because I don't talk to him.

In time, I'm sure she'll calm down a hell of a lot - I know mine did.
Most daft thing ever though is that she once told me she'd be more than ok if I brought my best mate back and had sex all night but any other guy - no way!