evenstar3 said:

Yeah, I know that, too.

Everytime I've said it, I've always been first.

I don't think it is wise to use the L word unless you really mean it from deep down in your soul.

Otherwise, it is just another word. That I believe is used to losely.

Rhondab said:

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@ you.


















Me too.

it's not just guys! girls can be wusses and hold back feelings too

I'm not afraid to say it when I mean it. I DID say it once without meaning it though.

sag10 said:

“Love is too strong a word to say it too early, but it has too beautiful a meaning to say it too late”

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

Same here and never again. In fairness, I was a lot younger, inexperienced and, at the time, I honestly did think I loved him. We're still friends - so everything's cool - but I would never use those words lightly again.

A guy that I was seeing did declare it to me over dinner once... I liked him a lot but it was never going to be anything serious. So when I got that feeling that he was about to say something... He said "I've got something to tell you..." and all I could think was "Don't say it! Don't say it!". And he did. But, obviously, I am glad that he was open and honest.

Wow, I'm glad I never went to dinner with you

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

That's not meant in a nasty way, though. Just I could *sense* he was going to say something and I didn't have those feelings. And I didn't want to hurt his. It was sort of embarrassing but flattering at the same time. We talked about it and everything was cool.

Glad I cut you off at the pass before you could slap me with one of these

evenstar3 said:

but it's on both sides tho. If u feel it the fear of these words "oh? that's sweet (silence).. but i don't feel the same about u tho. I'm sorry."

that sentence right there will hold anyone back from telling them how they feel about each other

sag10 said:

“Love is too strong a word to say it too early, but it has too beautiful a meaning to say it too late”

everybody has their list of what love is or isn't....and usually the first thing out somebody's mouth when they're hurt is "you said you loved me"

i can't speak for everyman... but i'm hesitant to say it to certain people because of what their understanding of what love does and doesn't mean

SirPsycho said:

Nah, I don't do that either. I have been hurt by people I know love me. Most of the time, they don't do it on purpose.

Lothan said:

well im glad you got sense...i just know we place alot of value on the word love, when the existance (or non-existance) of love between two people will thrive regardless of whether it has been expressed vocally...I take more comfort in watching someone show their love or lack or love for me without saying it....and since I feel that way, I don't cave in to any lover who says "why don't you say it?"...I just tell them "If I didn't love you, you'd know already"



{not 2 pretend like I don't understand the assurance it provides...but false assurance has no value to me}

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Now now... I was a gentleman, believe me.

everybody has their list of what love is or isn't....and usually the first thing out somebody's mouth when they're hurt is "you said you loved me"

SirPsycho said:

i agree wholeheartedly

SirPsycho said:

"Just because the rose died on the vine, doesn't mean it lied to you while it was in bloom."


These are all stored up in my head lol...

Lothan said:

well im glad you got sense...i just know we place alot of value on the word love, when the existance (or non-existance) of love between two people will thrive regardless of whether it has been expressed vocally...I take more comfort in watching someone show their love or lack or love for me without saying it....and since I feel that way, I don't cave in to any lover who says "why don't you say it?"...I just tell them "If I didn't love you, you'd know already"



{not 2 pretend like I don't understand the assurance it provides...but false assurance has no value to me}

heybaby said:

thanks...






hey, what happened to your avitar...it was sexi..

SirPsycho said:

I made a thread about this a long time ago, but there are five different ways in which we feel loved, valued and appreciated:

Through words
Through touch
Through acts
Through gifts
Through space

We tend to express our love and show our appreciation for our partners through the same ways that make us feel the most loved and appreciated. They're all equally valid ways of expressing and experiencing love and value/appreciation...we, though, tend to diminish the ways which rank lower on our list as not being as "valuable" in general as the ways that rank higher on our list.

Byron said:

even better call....

(damn byron, i had to read that a couple times. .....just realized i'm listening to "love is forever"...but this is prince....coulda been any song)

Well just because I couldn't see you throwing up through your tears doesn't mean it didn' happen. You know, kinda like if a forest falls into the trees and you didn't hear it, did you have a picnic or not? Or something like that

Lothan,

I think a lot of men have trouble saying it to someone new because often we can remember previous times when our saying and showing "I love you" went unappreciated.

All of my life, I have heard women cry that their man never says "I love you," as if love's declaration will melt away their fears and heal their wounds. As if the three words, spoken sincerely, represent the attainment of an emotional panacea by two committed adults.

To quote the Gershwin gents' tune, "It Ain't Necessarily So."

Yet, I persist, fool that I am, because you women are just so cute and soft, and you pretend to need us on occasion.
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