roodboi said:

awwwww I love me too

heybaby said:

I'm always up front with women about my feelings about love & marriage. Playing games isn't my style - to me, that's just using someone. My recent ex was cool with my attitude in the beginning, but once I mentioned the 'L'-word, everything changed. She talked about getting a place together, buying a ring and I'm like, whoa! Where did th!s sh!t come from? Did you get amnesia all of a sudden? I guess she thought I'd change, but she thought wrong. We're still friends though.

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

again why is that? okay erin is right guys are just wierd

heybaby said:

And this totally started a series of events like moving in and all that. Ughhh.

Sweeny79 said:

Well she hung up on me, angry. We were teenagers. but still to this day I have a hard time saying it, until I really feel it. I could say I love you to a friend, as a friend. but romantically, unless I really do, the words would just not come out.

ArielB said:

I'm the same way

heybaby said:

We need another thread of why men say they love you and don't mean it.

uPtoWnNY said:

but I thought you said.....wha.....but...you love me....so....wait...I bought the dress.....I hate you!!




I'm really awful....I thought this was going to be about lesbians...
[Edited 8/29/07 9:19am]

Rhondab said:

I usually start off by saying "olive juice" and judge the reaction before moving on to I love you.

I usually fall too quick but just saying the words is really just a person saying words...show your love by your actions and then there's no weird silence or questions about saying it too soon...

Lothan said:

it's not just us....women get plenty of manipulation mileage out of those three little words, too.....

Slave2daGroove said:

Rhondab said:

Actually, that's been the story of my life the past few years. Now I'm reigning everything in, like Lothan said earlier.

reneGade20 said:

I don't think it has to equate to marriage.

But it does mean something. As long as you're clear with your intentions along with saying it, all is OK.

I never had a guy have a hard time saying it.

All the guys I've had say it have either, used it way to loosely. Or they really did love me and they said it.

Then theres my husband, who I have always told....I don't think you know what love it. I really don't think he does. I know he BELIEVES that he loves me.

reneGade20 said:

Dude, come on. how many women say "I love you" just to get in men's pants?

Lothan said:

I can't think of a single woman who has said "I love you" to manipulate someone else...

CarrieMpls said:

I didn't get my drivers license till I was 20.

TotalANXiousNESS said:

We all, or most of us, use it one way or the other.

Sweeny79 said:

What? "I love you"?

I feel as though I've heard every reason or explanation on the books as to why the word was said, can't be said, what they meant when it was said, what they didn't mean when it was said and so on. I'm to the point now, where it has basically lost all meaning and value to me, it's just a word like any other word for the most part. It's seems to have become a means to an end for both men and women.

Lothan said:

Yeah.

Like for example say I wanna see a girly love story movie and my bf wants to go see an action movie... I get him to go see the movie I want by making doe eyes at him and saying Please... I love you....please...

everyone does shit like that.

Sweeny79 said:

People do that? That sucks.

Lothan said:

see my edit.

Lothan said:

People do all kinds of shit.

I hate that when I was with my X fiance he loved me so much and I went along with it. I wasn't in love with him, but he was a great guy and did everything for me.

Pay backs a bitch though.

I'm getting punished for it now.

Sweeny79 said:

Oh, okay.

Rhondab said:

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@ you.


















Me too.

heybaby said:

I'm AFreud to love

CarrieMpls said:

In my world also, when I say it...said it, I meant it. If they're sure and they know without question, doubt, butterflies and all, then shout it from the mountain tops. But, if they don't mean it, don't know for sure and it might be just gas then I'd rather it not be said at all.

I was always the one to say it first (and regret it). But with my current sweetie, he actually said it first. It was a looooong time ago...but I remember the first time he said it, I must've had a quizzical expression on my face (like I wasn't sure I'd heard him right) because he repeated it. Which, in turn, made me feel dumb before I felt incredibly happy.