heybaby said:

Believe me, it's happened several times. I think I need to move.

I was talking to an ex on the phone last night and when we were saying goodbye he said "I love you". I was like, "Um...I love you too....?"

I had no idea what to say back. It was weird.

So what I am saying is that they don't seem to have a problem saying it when they don't really mean it.

evenstar3 said:

I couldn't agree more...

JustErin said:

Oh, I know what you mean...

JustErin said:

That's very true.

But, what makes you think he didn't mean it?

Imago said:

why is that?

girl66 said:

Yes!!...

Lothan said:

Cuz of our history, I guess.

Say it loud
I'm in love
And I'm proud

admit it, it's the most glorious feeling in the world, why not scream ???

has anyone ever accidentally said i love you to a close friend who took it the wrong way? i did once, when saying goodbye to a close guy friend before leaving for school several years ago, and he gave me this bizarre look and i had to explain that i didn't mean LOVE love.

uPtoWnNY said:

wow i think so to

evenstar3 said:

One late night I was with my crush and he was bummed out and a bit drunk. He said that he loved me and that he "could say that without things being all weird".

I had no idea what that even meant but I know for a fact that he really didn't mean what he was saying. Or at least, in the way that I would have wanted him to say it.

Guys are weird.
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evenstar3 said:

The first time my first love said it to me, we were still "just friends". I'd been crushing on him hard but I really didn't think it would go anywhere so I let it be. We were talking very late at night, practically falling asleep on the phone and when saying goodbye he said "I love you..." and I was utterly speechless not knowing what to say so I just sat there holding my breath. He finally followed with "you know.., it's good to love your friends."

But it was about a month later we got together... so there's that.

I've never been in a relationship with a guy who had trouble saying it.

But I haven't been in very many relationships.

I know that for many guys, the I Love You is held over their head, even if circumstances change and its not feasible for the feelings to be expressed or even felt any longer....a moment in time that passed...a snowflake.....once bitten, twice shy....

just my

reneGade20 said:

What do you mean, Renegade?

JustErin said:

yup.

CarrieMpls said:

reminds me of a john hughes movie

JustErin said:

Who is 'they'?


Oh, and I hate you

heybaby said:

That whole relationship was very much a John Hughes movie. He was a bad boy, I was a quirky red-headed honor student. We were "best" friends for a good several months before I finally won him over. And the end was all drama strung out over a year or more with lots of break-ups and make-ups and me finally learning to get rid of him for good and be the strong independent woman I was meant to me.

Lothan said:

sometimes women (since the topic is guys and the L word....) will cling to the L word as if its a lifeline....and if you explain that it no longer applies...that you either no longer feel that way or that its no longer possible to continue along the path together, instead of moving on, they call you all kinds of dog and asshole and whatever.....so after dealing with a situation like that, many guys I know are very reluctant to say it....

reneGade20 said:

In that case I think they should be reluctant to say it. In my world, saying it means something. It's a big deal. Not to be taken lightly.

CarrieMpls said:

i agree

CarrieMpls said:

CarrieMpls said:

Truly....

I used to equate the L word with the M word...marriage.....

...that, of course, was before I got married.....

I'm not afraid to say it when I mean it. I DID say it once without meaning it though.

ArielB said:

You are way too sweet...