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PrintableIm so sorry about your granddaughter....
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 I'm so sorry. I can't even begin to imagine. I wish you and your family all the best. | |
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What a beautiful baby Fear can be one of the most powerful motivators. I'm sure there wasn't malice involved in not telling, just fear of what happens if they did. I'm so very sorry this has happened. It's not right. Hopefully you and your family can take comfort in the fact that you did know this baby and the joy she brought you. Of course there can be no replacement but I hope that your daughter can have brothers and sisters that can help fill the void and enrich your familie's life. I wish you all the peace in this  2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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noimageatall said: We got the news from the coroner early this morning. I am just now able to type this. She did not die from SIDS. She suffocated. I am so angry and hurt and in shock right now, I don't know what to do with myself. My daughter is a mess. I think we all knew when we kept calling the coroner and they kept telling us they were not finished with the report. We just didn't want to think it was true.
It seems that right after my daughter left for work @ 5am, the babysitter put Aliyah in bed with HER instead of in her crib. Which my daughter specifically told her not to do. Even worse is that the sitter and her uncle KNEW and hid it. Just when you think you may be able to heal a little...this. She didn't have to go...she didn't have to go...I so want to feel empathy for the sitter. Because I know if I was watching someone's child and something like this happened, I would probably jump off the nearest tall building....but I just can't right now. I'm too angry and hurt. I'm watching my daughter cry and hurt and suffer, and all I can feel is anger. It may have been an accident, but they KNEW for Christ's sake...they KNEW...and they covered it up. Three adults in the house, and they knew and covered it up. How could they??? This is too much....   If I were you, I would press charges against those people. Your daughter specifically told the sitter not to put your granddaughter into her bed with her, and she did so anyway, plus them covering it up, it so totally wrong on all levels.  I'm sorry that these poor excuses for human beings have put you and your family through all of this.[Edited 9/20/07 11:52am] RIP, mom. I will forever miss and love you. | |
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I don't know what to say. I hope you can all find some peace, but Christmas is so near. It's just awful. | |
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Oh Honey, I just felt sick when I read about this. Your grand daughter was a beautiful baby. She is in a better place. 
Maybe there were drugs or alcohol involved? It still doesn't quite make sense . I'm sure the woman didn't mean to do it but there are consequences for her actions. At least try to make sure she never babysits anyone else. Sending out lots of positivity for you and your family. "Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"-Dr Seuss
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Wow what a gorgeous child, again so sorry. | |
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I have a lump in my thoat right now, I am so sorry....
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My deepest sympathy to you, and your family. ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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noimageatall said: I don't know where to put this. I am here the most so
She was beautiful. Her name was Aliyah. She would have been 5 mos tomorrow. My daughter was at work. She works at 5am. The sitter called and told her Aliyah wasn't breathing, and she should come right away. My daughter and her husband rushed to the hospital. Loyola in Maywood, right outisde of Chicago. It was too late. She was gone. the doctors said it's SIDS. I just can't believe that. She was okay yesterday. She smiled so big all her gums showed. She was an angel. I feel like my heart is ripped out. I just held her. My daughter is hysterical. I had to give her sleeping pills. I am a wreck. All my family was here tonight. She usually wakes from her morning nap, and the sitter said when she checked on her, she wasn't breathing. My oldest son is flying in from Oregon tomorrow. And the one who is in boot camp at Ft Jackson...the Red Cross is sending him home as well. I am numb now. My head is aching. My eyes are burning. I have never had this happen to anyone since my sister. I have never cried so hard....WHY???? she was so little. so happy..so precious..there si no rhyme or reason to anything..Just wanted to tell you all. I'm gone for a while..... Im so sorry hun, my prayers are with you and your loved ones. ,
Take one breathe at a time, keep family close and never lose faith. Say it's just a dream...
U open up ur eyes and come 2 realize u simply imagined this So u lean over and give her a kiss Here on earth, here on earth, with u it's not so bad Here on earth, here on earth eye don't feel so sad Stay right here |
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it's been a long month for you i am sure and this news doesn't help any. 
nothing anyone told you would make this pain easier to bear though. she is still gone. regardless of the explaination i hope your daughter isn't thinking there was anything in her power to prevent it. it is a tragedy but i know you are a survivor and given time will be able to cope with her death. much love to you and thank you for sharing this personal heartache with us.  She couldn't stop crying 'cause she knew he was gone to stay | |
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Have you thought about at some point, maybe sharing this thread with your daughter? To show her that people truly care about what has happened and that there is a tribute to the baby? 2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: Have you thought about at some point, maybe sharing this thread with your daughter? To show her that people truly care about what has happened and that there is a tribute to the baby?
Supa...I did show this thread to my daughter. She was very touched and honored.
As for the sitter...I guess the coroners office is not going to do anything. They investigated. Took photos. Interrogated the sitter. The uncle and aunt. Made them re-enact the scene. I couldn't be there. I just couldn't. They say it was an accident. They say they didn't commit a crime. I don't see how they can come to that conclusion, but with Chicago's crime rate, this probably rates on the bottom of the pile. I'm sure they had dozens of new bodies waiting for them. My daughter just wants to let it go. I have to respect her wishes, even though I feel differently. All I know is that I cannot see the sitter again. My daughter feels the same way about that. She wants no contact at all. And this lady was close to our family. Maybe one day that will change. I can't say. My heart is too broken right now to take anyone elses feelings into it.
Love to all of you for showing me you don't have to see someone face to face to care..... "Let love be your perfect weapon..." ~~Andy Biersack | |
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I am sooooo sorry! I can't help but to be in tears right now, I'm not going to say I know how you feel but I know how "It" feels to lose a baby in the family. It was actually from SIDS she was a baby girl just like little baby Aliyah and she had Down Syndrome. She was my cousin and I didn't even get a chance to hold her, all of a sudden out of the blue she was gone. I sympathize 4 you and your family my heart goes out 2 you 4real. Baby Aliyah was a "Beautiful" little baby and I'm sure she brought much joy to your home. I know it's hard but I feel she is in a better place watching over ya'll with that wonderful smile!
Stay strong sister!  surviving on the thought of loving you, it's just like the water
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| so sorry for your loss. | |
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there is no making sense of the senseless i am so sorry... are you ready for submission
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