Last night, I was talking to my friend and he was a bit drunk, ok, very drunk and he revealed a lot of things that I wasn't expecting.

He kept telling me that I was beautiful when we first met when we were teenagers, but he didn't see it, but he sees it now. He told me that I'm an angel and he said that any man that talked to me should be sad that they are not with me.He revealed to me that he had been in love with me for several years, but never did anything about it because he thought I would freak out. I really did not know how to respond to this information, so I just said thank you and I told him I was very flattered


He is quite mad at me now and is ignoring my phone calls and emails. I feel like such a bitch, but I didn't know how else to react. I just don't feel the way that I guess he wants me to feel. I feel horrible right now . . .



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You should probably stop being friends with guys.

LOL...funny. A girl named Jessica broke my heart a while back too! And I knew her when we were teens!

It worked itself out, though. It was a chemistry thing...and those can NEVER be forced. She needed more of a button-down type of man, and I needed someone who wasn't so corporate or uptight. At the time, though, OUCH! It hurt. Romantic rejection is the worst because you automatically think it happened because there's something wrong with YOU. But we're still friendly.

You did the right thing.
I don't think he's mad at you. He probably feels silly for expressing his love while wasted, is overwhelmed that he FINALLY got it all out (since he said he's been holding on to this for years) and/or it may be painful to try to talk to you, since you obviously don't feel the same.

And if it just happened last night, maybe he's just hungover and feeling like crap. And simply doesn't want to think about it yet.

You did the right thing. It would have been worse to lead him on. Doesn't make it any easier, though.

He will get over it. And at least he can now since the secret's out and he at least tried and now he knows.

Good luck.

Give him some time

Imago said:

OK, thanks Dan

jess555ja said:

Ocean said:

He was honest, you were honest.

You've nothing to feel bad about.

Cloudbuster said:

She should at least apologize to him for being his friend. It would make things better for all parties.

SnakePeel said:

It isn't a chemistry thing in this situation because I love this guy, just not romantically. I always saw him as the brother I never had, but I now see that he doesn't feel the same way.

Imago said:

Just take your fucking clothes off, man.

Imago said:

I almost feel like maybe that is what he is trying to get . . .

CarrieMpls said:

Thanks . . .I hope he isn't mad. I'm going to try to leave him alone for now, but I seriously feel like crying.

Cloudbuster said:

jess555ja said:

Well, romantic attraction IS a chemisty thing, hon. My best friend in high school was a girl and we were like brother and sister. Then one day she told me that she loved me and I was like, "WHAT?" Just...ewwwww. No way. "Oh, sister...don't put me on the street again/Oh, sister/I just wanna be your friend."

situations like this suck. you did do the right thing...it's just going to feel bad for a bit.

jess555ja said:

This might sound harsh to judge his feelings but IF he truly loved you he would be concerned with YOUR feelings and would not be treating you in this way.Let him get over himself and i am sure it will be ok

Imago said:

SnakePeel said:

mdiver said:

It's been ONE day. Not even 24 hours. Give him some time to lick wounds before you judge.

Maybe he's still asleep, if he was really drunk last night.

mdiver said:

I think it was the alcohol. It was just last night and it is very early here. I sent him an email and I'm going to give him a break and not contact him anymore for a couple of days. You are right that he should be thinking of my feelings, but I can't stop thinking about how he is feeling right now. I don't feel bad for what I said because it was the truth, but I don't like that he is hurt.
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CarrieMpls said:

mdiver said:

OK, he just sent me a message and said that I am afraid of him


He apologized for saying what he said and he said that he won't bother me anymore

mdiver said:

CarrieMpls said:

jess555ja said:

Don't let him turn the guilt onto you.
He said what he said and probably feels daft for doing so.
But it's no reflection on you, remember that.
He may come around yet, just give him some space.