Yes, unfotunately most of my male friends' girlfriends don't believe it.

CarrieMpls said:

I'm pretty sure I am one of the guys that most women wouldn't go crazy for. So, it would be quite easy to make a platonic friend out of me.

FarrahMoan said:

Very well. Nice to meet you.

FarrahMoan said:

I'm platonically entangled with many people here on the Org....its a platonic pond of goodness.....keeps me very well behaved.....

CarrieMpls said:

Nice to meet you, too.
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Sometimes if I give the little finger, they want to take my entire self.

It's absolutely possible. I have plenty of straight female friends that I'm not trying to bag. And as far as I know, the feeling's mutual.

I'm thinking it can happen but it's rare, I have only a few male friends. & this is bias but I really believe it - if anyone has ever developed feelings it better be the woman b/c she could probably get over it & actually be a friend despite past feelings, I think men (w/ all that ego bullshit) never get over the fact that they couldn't "get" you, that's if they bother to stay in your life at all. Seems like any man who takes the fake friendship route just to try to fuck wouldn't wanna be bother w/ you b/c now you're a person, not the chick he's gonna bang... b/c he's sooooo sure he can bang you in the first place

Wow, I'm bitter this morning I dunno, maybe if these people were actually friends first the guy could get over it



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[Edited 8/13/07 8:06am]

CalhounSq said:

But it's not aways like that. A friend of mine fell in love with me and I didn't feel the same for him. I told him the truth and it was even worse for him as one of his closest friends became my boyfriend shortly after. But he was telling me that I am that important for him as a friend that he wants to be close friends with me nevertheless. At first it was hard for both of us and I and my boyfriend tried to not show too much that we are in love when he was around, but when he started dating other women again it became easier. This happened 16 years ago. This man is now married, has 2 lovely step daughters and we are still close friends.

Well...seeing how my thirdandfinal already answered this question for us I guess I'm just reiterating. However, yea, it can happen. He's one of my closest friends and neither of us have any sexual/romantic feelings for the other. I have had a couple of male friends that has happened with. However, it is INCREADIBLY common for those kind of friendships to turn into sex if the people are attracted to each other and aren't committed to someone else.

I have a few female friends and I don't recall any of them wanting to be more than friends with me. However I can't say that my feelings for them have been strictly platonic. All of them, except one, have boyfriends which rules out me trying to bone them.
The one that IS single just broke up with her boyfriend and I've known her for over 10 years and maintained a really special friendship with her. By this time it would be kinda weird to make a move. There would be no point in me wanting a relationship with her because she studies in a country FAR away from my home. And if I wanted to bone her any time soon I would have to hurry up because she leaves the country on Friday.

The problem now is that some of my male friends are pressuring me to stop calling or chatting on MSN with my female friends or female co-workers if they have boyfriends because they feel that having female friends is "gay" and I shouldn't "mess" with the taken ones because their boyfriends might get pissed at me. They say I should get to know some girls that I'm not really "friends" with but girls I can bone and be on friendly terms with (fuck buddies).

I'm a bit confused right now about what I should do. I'm not exactly lucky when it comes to women and I certainly haven't met any girls that would want to be my "fuck buddies", plus I don't want to cut off completely my "relationship" with the few female friends that I have. What should I do?

In order for any relationship, sexual or otherwise, to work all parties have to have the same goal in mind.

If both a man and woman want to be friends and view this as their ultimate goal then they can be friends with the ocassional but minimal problems from the romance junk.

Imago said:

True on all accounts

They totally can! And I wish more people would get hip to that fact. If your man or woman has a friend of the opposite sex and you're freaked out about it, it's your own insecurity. Maybe you have a reason to suspect, but maybe not. If you trust your significant other, it shouldn't be an issue, should it?

Today I am going to have to vote no on that!

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

I think it's always there, at one point or another even if unspoken and/or doesn't last. Doesn't mean it can't work out to be and stay friends, though.

from my personal experience, it's hard to not let the sex/love get in the way
I was friends with a girl for many years..and I wanted to bone her the whole time. We had fun, and we shared feelings hopes and dreams, but I was always looking/hoping to score.
It turned sour when I had girlfriends. She would always complain about how I never had time for her.