Cloudbuster said:

God, I am so damn sensitive that I am feeling guilty. I know I don't have a reason to feel that way, but I do.


I'm not going to respond to him right now. I think that he needs to reflect on the things he has said and how he is reacting. I'll give him some time.

jess555ja said:

Well, quit it, 'cos as you admitted yourself, you've no need to.
Us menfolk have a habit of throwing our guilt elsewhere, don't make yourself a target for him.



That's the best thing you can do for now.

Cloudbuster said:

the sad part is for me, is that i wish i could i see where you were coming from....i feel like such a jerk, but once my beauty was disregarded by someone i cared for i became desensitized so now we just go through motions. I can never really talk to a guy without thinking he probably has another significant interest so it's hard, i really don't invest in love as much as i do friendship.

sex is more or less a chemical accident.

I NEED THEARAPY!!!!! ha ha

better you do the breaking than someone breaking your heart.Time heals you said he was drunk so how else should you react. I feel bad too when I hurt someones feelings but best believe my feeling get hurt daily and when I say something about it I'm a B****
[Edited 8/5/07 10:11am]

I don't wanna be your "brother", Jess.

live4lust said:

live4lust said:

I am sorry to see that you were feeling bad concerning your friend and the things that were said. But you did the right thing...it was better to be honest, then to lead him on. Don't feel bad, don't feel guilty, you did what you thought was best. I know it's easier said then done. I hope things are better today, and that he realizes it's better to have you as a 'friend' in is life, then not having you at all.

ok, Jess, on a serious note, have you considered just joining a convent?



It may be the best way to prevent yourself from hurting more men.

Imago said:

there's nothing you can do really jess, just give him space and time.

MoniGram said:

He is still mad at me. I'm not going to discuss his past, but the last year has been very difficult for him and I didn't help him very much yesterday. He sent me another email earlier and he basically told me to have a nice life. He is really trying to make me feel guilty and it is pissing me off. I told him that when he is ready to speak to me like an adult, call me. I really don't need this right now.

Imago said:

I'll give your suggestion consideration

jess555ja said:

Thats messed up. What does he expect you to do??

Maybe he's just really embarrassed with himself and he's pushing you away

Were you also drunk?

Cinnie said:

Nope! I haven't had a drink in a loooonnngggg time.

ThreadCula said:

I really don't know what he is thinking right now. I feel he is just making it worse. He is definitely pushing me away.

Are you single?

irrisistableB said:

Narcissist

Cinnie said:

Yes

jess555ja said:

Your love is like a tidal wave, spinning over my head
Drownin' me in your promises, better left unsaid
You're the right kind of sinner, to release my inner fantasy
The invincible winner, and you know that you were born to be
You're a Heartbreaker
Dream Maker, Love Taker
Don't you mess around with me!
You're a Heartbreaker
Dream Maker, Love Taker
Don't you mess around - NO NO NO!

Your love has set my soul on fire, burnin' out of control
You taught me the ways of desire, now its takin' its toll
You're the right kind of sinner, to release my inner fantasy
The invincible winner, and you know that you were born to be

You're a Heartbreaker
Dream Maker, Love Taker
Don't you mess around with me!
You're a Heartbreaker
Dream Maker, Love Taker
Don't you mess around - NO NO NO!

You're the right kind of sinner, to release my inner fantasy
The invincible winner, and you know that you were born to be

You're a Heartbreaker
Dream Maker, Love Taker
Don't you mess around with me~~`
You're a Heartbreaker
Dream Maker, Love Taker
Don't you mess around with me!

You're a Heartbreaker
Dream Maker, Love Taker
Don't you mess around with me!
You're a Heartbreaker
Dream Maker, Love Taker
Heartbreaker!

jess555ja said:

as a dude, i am surprised u wouldn't take a moment to actually consider dating someone who is already a friend (although given the circumstances - him being drunk, how he is acting today, i don't blame you)

irrisistableB said:

CHIC0 said:

Cinnie said:

i'm sayin, did you consider it?

jess555ja said:

I love that Pat Benatar song!

Cinnie said:

The thing is that I knew that he had a crush on me. I didn't know that he was in love with me and that he was in love with me for several years. I would rather not go into a relationship with him when I am not feeling the same way as he does.

Also, he is currently screwing up with the way he is treating me. I have the right to feel the way I do and he should respect that.
[Edited 8/5/07 11:22am]

Cinnie said:

wanna dance?

Cinnie said:

or we can get our groove on to "Love Is A Battlefield" featuring Queen Latifah.

jess555ja said:

that's totally fair. at least you didn't take advantage of the situation and then reject him. i think that's what real heartbreaking is.