New topic
PrintableI don't understand why others would criticize you guys. It's no one else's business first of all. Everyone has their own ways of parenting. What's right for one, may not be right for others. When my oldest was young it was sooo hard to even drop him at the babysitter's for an hour. My husband is in the Air Force and he was gone a lot when my oldest was little. We also didn't have family around. I cried like a baby when I had to drop Conner at the base day care so I could go to the doctor. My husband was out of the country and I had no choice but to take him to the day care center. He was crying and screaming and did not want to go and that made it so hard. But, I think both my kids are better off for it. It's good for them to be socialized and learn authority from other adults. When they go to school they have to behave and listen to other adults. I could share a bunch of stories, but I won't bore everyone to death.
Some parents are afraid to let anyone watch their kids, so the child is never away from the parents. I personally don't think it's healthy. It's better for everyone involved. I think if your child doesn't experience being away from you then when it comes time for school they will have a really hard time adjusting. So, try and not let it get to you what others say or think. I know it can cause lots of guilt, but I personally don't think you have anything to be guilty about! | |
- E-mail - orgNote -  Report post to moderator |
hokie1 said: I don't understand why others would criticize you guys. It's no one else's business first of all. Everyone has their own ways of parenting. What's right for one, may not be right for others. When my oldest was young it was sooo hard to even drop him at the babysitter's for an hour. My husband is in the Air Force and he was gone a lot when my oldest was little. We also didn't have family around. I cried like a baby when I had to drop Conner at the base day care so I could go to the doctor. My husband was out of the country and I had no choice but to take him to the day care center. He was crying and screaming and did not want to go and that made it so hard. But, I think both my kids are better off for it. It's good for them to be socialized and learn authority from other adults. When they go to school they have to behave and listen to other adults. I could share a bunch of stories, but I won't bore everyone to death.
Some parents are afraid to let anyone watch their kids, so the child is never away from the parents. I personally don't think it's healthy. It's better for everyone involved. I think if your child doesn't experience being away from you then when it comes time for school they will have a really hard time adjusting. So, try and not let it get to you what others say or think. I know it can cause lots of guilt, but I personally don't think you have anything to be guilty about! Many thanks again. I agree entirely. Happy is he who finds out the causes for things.Virgil (70-19 BC). Virgil was such a lying bastard! | |
| - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
One of the best gifts we as parents can give children is freedom to experience, learn and grow !
Travelto different places with different people is a great lesson !  You enjoy your time with your wife | |
| - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
Mach said: One of the best gifts we as parents can give children is freedom to experience, learn and grow !
Travelto different places with different people is a great lesson ! You enjoy your time with your wife | |
| - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
mdiver said: Mach said: One of the best gifts we as parents can give children is freedom to experience, learn and grow !
Travelto different places with different people is a great lesson ! You enjoy your time with your wifeThanks Mach. I strongly believe this too. Phil  Happy is he who finds out the causes for things.Virgil (70-19 BC). Virgil was such a lying bastard! | |
| - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
PREDOMINANT said: mdiver said: Thanks Mach. I strongly believe this too. Phil Later mate..have a great weekend and give our love to Paola  | |
| - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
mdiver said: PREDOMINANT said: Thanks Mach. I strongly believe this too. Phil Later mate..have a great weekend and give our love to Paola  | |
| - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
|
Mach is indeed wise. The time apart from an early age on will help him become more independent and aware there are other sides to being alive.
Sure it might be hard some years, being apart for an extended period, but it will beneficial to all, rest assured. |
| - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
A true parent!  | |
| - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
PREDOMINANT said: Still can't help feeling like we have deserted him though. Palm him off so we can go out on the razz.
But i don't see why when you become parents you have to give up your freedom either. you are only "palming him off" if her parents don't wish for him to come or are at the age where they should not be expected to take care of him. i am very sure that is not the case  in the end you are doing this for his sake not yours
steve. you are starting when he is young. excellent foundation to develop lifelong bonds with this side of his family. if you waited till he was older he might have a terrible time leaving you. if he was gone for a week he would just be getting settled and getting familiar with them when he was snatched away again. this will become a part of his life routine. and the lessons in who he is, where he comes from and eventually the life experiences and personal independance he will aquire are priceless.
now. any chance of a new photo?   She couldn't stop crying 'cause she knew he was gone to stay | |
| - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
PREDOMINANT said: toots said: What your feeling is normal. I have a daughter as well and know the feeling myself. Its good for parents(rather single or married) to "get away"(sort to speak) and spend some time alone without the little ones. My daughter goes to her fathers(since we are divorced) every other weekend, but if I need a break like going to a movie by myself, my mother is glad to take my daughter for that purpose. The guilt is there no matter what you do, I have it myself. But if they are old enough to understand(about the tween years) they need to know that its okay for mommy and daddy or mommy/daddy(if single) to spend time without them around. Not to mention as well, when(if you do) leave them at a daycare or in the hands of a caregiver they will know you will come back for them, and not cry their heart out while your gone(AKA seperation anxiety). So in short yes its okay to let go at times mommy/daddy, they will be okay(especialy in the hands of their grandparents). 
[Edited 7/27/07 6:04am] I am confident leaving him, he has been exposed a lot to other people and the worst his Granparents can do is spoil him! In fact one of the only times he cried when being left was when MDiver left without giving him a ride on his Bike!! AWWWWW! Mdiver how could you do that? Shame on you for breaking that little boys heart, shame... shame on you!  (BTW, Im just kidding!)
Then DONT feel guilty about it! ENJOY the free time and get to know each other again. Have fun on your 3 weeks alone!
And I wasnt criticizing you in any way shape or form.
*sigh* I remember when my daughter was that small, I miss those days! They grow up WAY too fast. [Edited 7/27/07 12:45pm] Smurf theme song-seriously how many fucking "La Las" can u fit into a dam song 
Proud Wendy and Lisa Fancy Lesbian asskisser  | |
| - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
toots said: PREDOMINANT said: I am confident leaving him, he has been exposed a lot to other people and the worst his Granparents can do is spoil him! In fact one of the only times he cried when being left was when MDiver left without giving him a ride on his Bike!! AWWWWW! Mdiver how could you do that? Shame on you for breaking that little boys heart, shame... shame on you! (BTW, Im just kidding!)
Then DONT feel guilty about it! ENJOY the free time and get to know each other again. Have fun on your 3 weeks alone!
I miss the little tinker too he is so cool ..... 
And I wasnt criticizing you in any way shape or form.
*sigh* I remember when my daughter was that small, I miss those days! They grow up WAY too fast. [Edited 7/27/07 12:45pm] | |
| - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
Hey Steve,
I know it's WAY off topic here, but I tried to respond via Orgnote to you and it of course is not functioning properly. So I thought I'd get wise and just send you a reply to the email addy you have listed in your profile. Now that was returned as undeliverable. Shy of skywriting, I am running out of options... If you have my actual email addy (via my previous Orgnote) drop me a line, not an Orgnote. Or update your email address in your profile. Or simply throw a brick at your monitor when you too get the dreaded white page "Website cannot be found" prompt when you try using Orgnotes lately. I apologize.... I'm venting. | |
| - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
|
It's a wonderful opportunity for you son to go to Italy. He's going to remember this trip his entire life.
Plus his grandparent would say your'e selfish if you kept him all to yourself. Happy kids have happy parents. Wear the wife out, and have stupid grins on your faces when he comes back. It's a win-win. No More Haters on the Internet. |
| - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
littlemissG said: It's a wonderful opportunity for you son to go to Italy. He's going to remember this trip his entire life.
Plus his grandparent would say your'e selfish if you kept him all to yourself. Happy kids have happy parents. Wear the wife out, and have stupid grins on your faces when he comes back. It's a win-win. You have a point a well. Smurf theme song-seriously how many fucking "La Las" can u fit into a dam song
Proud Wendy and Lisa Fancy Lesbian asskisser | |
| - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |