Muse2NOPharaoh said:

Well Karen, I'm not advocating a free for all care free sin spree. I am saying that people should stop preaching on this shit because some situations are not cut and dry and black and white and those who stand on the outside looking in with their fingers pointed might not know the whole story. The point still stands, she can't fuck this dude if he doesn't make himself available to do so. I for one will not point fingers at her.

coolcat said:

It doesn't make sense because you don't want to think about it.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

She solicited opions and as you gave yours ive given mine hence forth when solicited it is hardly preaching. I do feel we are personally acountable for what we do. and just because i am foot loose and fancy free I do not believe that I have that right to take my blonde ass anywere i want because i can and or because outcome is not my problem.

I respect your opinion and you know i live and let live... this does not mean I dont have an opinion of my own.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

She solicited opions and as you gave yours ive given mine hence forth when solicited it is hardly preaching. I do feel we are personally acountable for what we do. and just because i am foot loose and fancy free I do not believe that I have that right to take my blonde ass anywere i want because i can and or because outcome is not my problem.

I respect your opinion and you know i live and let live... this does not mean I dont have an opinion of my own.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Are you saying you will never criticize anyone about anything? Because nothing in the universe is ever black or white.

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

regarding the preaching I wasn't really referring to you. I was referring to Mr Dad up there And I believe in personal accountability to but whores who live in glass whorehouses shouldn't throw stones and I'm sure there are many here who are guilty of the same shit they are condemning her for and I just don't have the time to listen to the Pharisees or the Sagisees

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Oh no, I caught that and i quite agree seeing a married man carry on on here as one does is his prerogative
... glad it isnt excercised in my marraige!

None the less if someone is sharing a conservative view it is 'preaching' ( and i am not referring to you specifically Richard) and if someone expresses what is seen as a conservative view ( weather they are conservative or not) they described as preachy and forcing there view down peoples throats.... where is the balance in that?

So here's the situation:

I'm currently the cause of someone's cheating on his girlfriend. Yep, I'm the other woman everyone loves to hate so much. I won't go into the details of the why and the how of it, except to say that yes, I do know it's a bad thing to do.

But that's not the point of starting this thread. I've got an honest question for y'all: The kid's got a heavy case of the guilties about the whole thing, in spite of not seeming to be compelled to stop this anymore than I am. Thing is, if I thought he thought he was getting away with something, I'd have no problem ending this situation. But since he does (and I know he's not just putting that on to look like the good guy either) I don't.

Does my reaction make any sense at all? Because I sure as hell can't figure myself out.

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

Well where is the balance when people start claiming that there all of a sudden cannot be any morality whatsoever if one advocates to view the situation as a whole and consider the circumstance on a case by case basis? That is hardly balance either!

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

Well where is the balance when people start claiming that there all of a sudden cannot be any morality whatsoever if one advocates to view the situation as a whole and consider the circumstance on a case by case basis? That is hardly balance either!

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

Well where is the balance when people start claiming that there all of a sudden cannot be any morality whatsoever if one advocates to view the situation as a whole and consider the circumstance on a case by case basis? That is hardly balance either!

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

She's given enough details to be able to judge this case specifically so I don't even know why you are bringing that up.

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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

She's given enough details to be able to judge this case specifically so I don't even know why you are bringing that up.

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All I really know about the girlfriend is that his roommates like me more than her and wish he'd just break up with her, and have said as much to both of us.

What am I getting out of this? I don't think I'm all that sure. I get sex -occasionally, and I get someone to pay attention to me. Beyond that? I don't know.

JustErin said:

Oh please Erin. I know you can read Stop it.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

No really, why bring that up when it's not relative to what we are specifically discussing here?

JustErin said:

Umm.....I brought it up because someone else brought it up first! It's called a reply!
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JustErin said:

Umm.....I brought it up because someone else brought it up first! It's called a reply!
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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

From what I read you brought it up in response to Muse giving her opinion on the topic.

Maybe I read wrong. Oh well.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

meow has given the specifics of this situation... and people are giving their opinions based on that.

You yourself said that the blame lies with the man... how do you make that judgment? Is that not moralizing?

coolcat said:

yup, it is. moralizing and finger pointing.

HiinEnkelte said:

Not really. I could give a shit less if he keeps his dick in his pants. But HE is the one who is supposedly committed and that is the rest of y'alls (omg, did I just use yall? ) point. I'm just forcing the moral brigade to get their shit right. Under your rules he is the one in a relationship and therefore the obligation to remain faithful is on HIM. Besides, I came to the same conclusion the rest of you did without being a total tool about it.
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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

so others were tools about it? hmm. more judgment and finger pointing.

we are complex animals, although i understand everyone's reaction. being overtly moralising is mad fake

truthfully none of us can answer your question, your situation, your feel is unique to you

we need to learn, from our mistakes as well as our successes, go with the flow.
and see where it takes you, maybe it will lead to something better...

HiinEnkelte said:

Not really. I could give a shit less if he keeps his dick in his pants. But HE is the one who is supposedly committed and that is the rest of y'alls (omg, did I just use yall? ) point. I'm just forcing the moral brigade to get their shit right. Under your rules he is the one in a relationship and therefore the obligation to remain faithful is on HIM. Besides, I came to the same conclusion the rest of you did without being a total tool about it.
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I just ran out of popcorn.

minneapolisgenius said:

And I just plainly love you.