BlackAdder7 said:

Things do happen for a reason, I agree. Things do work out in the end too, whether we don't like it at the time, it's always better in the long run.

I don't believe in "destiny", in this sense. So, no.

I do believe that most people will be happier and more secure, single or not, if they believe in their own ability to live a full, happy life on their own.

I do but i don't think that everybosy has a soulmate nor, as i said b4, that finding ur soulmate means successing at having/keepin him/her.

I've thought about all this a lot b4 & i came 2 the concusion that (& here i'm talking about life, not only love), life is an amazingly complex permanent re-adjustment [or is it "re-adjusting?] between fate & free-will. Each & every goddamn one of our actions r in permanent interaction, some things r fate, some r chance, some r just our own decisions & the whole universe [GodShiva & His/Her workers] is permanently adjusting all that incredible mess 2gether so it all fits & works out.

Destined to make a solid choice and not one based on compromise on any level this time.

Without reading other repsonses, I think it is silly to assume people are meant to be with someone. I know that we, as a species, are meant to reproduce as pairs, but after evolving into species with thought and reason, I think humanity is all about choice.

You can choose to follow propaganda about Mr or Mrs Right ( ) and build your life around that and for most that works, sorta. The entire prospect of marriage to me would be fun if there was not such a high percentage of divorces.

To me, having a life partner is somewhat tempered by the fact of possibility; I found out I was gay at 13, came out at 16 and had to redefine my entire excistence, as I grew up in a hetero world, not really supportive of gay people.

The possibilities are aplenty; in Holland gay people have exactly the same rights as straight people when it comes to partering up. We can marry, we can get divorced, we can adopt; the whole works.

But the many forms of relations I have seen work and fail have marred me to think that I should limit myself to a certain relationship, so I have experimented the last 6/7 years. I still do not know what works best for me, as all the relations I had were different, so...

I like being single, though. Maybe too much. My big loves (2 long term relations) were too consuming, maybe I am spent.

I do believe I am destined to be alone but I am okay with it.

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

Good answer.

What bothers me is the way American society looks at single women. If a woman's not "with someone" or married and pumping out kids, there's something wrong with her(or she hasn't experienced real womanhood). Bunch of horsesh!t if you ask me. Single men are envied, but single women are made to feel guilty for their life choices.

My advice to all you single Org ladies is keep doing your thing. If strangers, friends or even family get in your business, y'all know how to respond.

uPtoWnNY said:

Another thing that irks me is that when women are single and successful that we don't need/want a man.

uPtoWnNY said:

and the greater part of those mouthing off about it to me are miserable in there realtionships!

I usually smile at them and say you just want me to be miserable like you! They generally laugh and shut up.....

I don't think were 'DESTINED' for anything.

I think there is Gods plan for us, like his 'ideal plan' being like, what he WANTS us to do, Or what path he would like us to follow. But it's our CHOICE which path we choose.

uPtoWnNY said:

OMG, I get this ALL the time... well, what about companionship and you don't want to be alone for ever... and my 2 favorites...you've just given up and it's time for you to stop/not be so picky and come down of your high horse...

yet my brother who's older and not married yet they say nothing...not a word to him about still being single.

whatever!!!

TotalANXiousNESS said:

Wow, I agree 100%.

Predetermined destinies are for people who believe in spells and magic.

For the rest of us it comes down to choices. Choose to be alone or choose to get out and look for someone.

It's a choice I've made before (8 years) and when I had enough of that, I choose to actively look for someone.

No matter how hard you try? Well, try again and again. When you've done everything you can do to try to meet someone, do it all over again. Quiters are a dime a dozen, make another choice not to be one.
[Edited 7/25/07 11:18am]

Slave2daGroove said:

She speaks sense.

scififilmnerd said:

You're not alone, Michael.

statuesqque said:

Just play them Billy Joel's "My Life".

CarrieMpls said:

I agree..thats why im still single too. But hes gotta be "somewhere here on Earth" surely.. I live in hope.

It's a sorry to state of affairs when I'm single

Cant believe ur single JD? ur such a cutie pie! mind u, ive heard ur a bit if a casanova! lol.

Justin1972UK said:

And a big hug to you, too, Justin.

Justin1972UK said:

Destined to be alone?

Yes. Now f*ck off.

i think i'm destined to have people in my life, but it's also my nature to require lots of alone-time. i'm an only child from a microscopic family, so on the one hand i'm accustomed to enjoying my own company and it's where i get a lot of peace and restorative energy - on the other hand, i'm always wanting to develop a sense of family that i never had, so having people close to me is very important. it's a balancing act.

TotalANXiousNESS said:

Although I do believe god does have a plan I also believe very few of us ever stay the course long enough to find out what that is.

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

i dunno. does a leaf have to believe in photosynthesis in order to turn green?

MissMe said:

sounds like being alone is like being about to die i am not afraid of neither. im really don't know if i'm destined to be alone. i think i will have a constant stream of people in my life subsequently. coming from a family where the parents cheated on each other and ultimately divorced, subconsciously i don't believe in relationships lasting as i think they should. I've always imagined being very old with tons of grandkids running around. and that doesn't feel like being alone to me.

eraclito said:

So in that case .....


Have I met you yet?

I don't believe in destiny or fate and I certainly do not believe in "God's plan".

There are so many people out there that it's almost impossible to not find someone that you'll like and who will like you back.

I'm single now (and enjoying it) but I do not think that I will be alone for good. Actually, I know I won't be.

it's impossible to be alone when u're reading other people's words... time and space is conquered. Next one is energy, with or without mass...

Serious said:

And a big hug to you, too, Serious.