CarrieMpls said:

I am sure you will, when you aren't even looking.

MissMe said:

Yeah, but I think it's true. Some people have more than one. Other people have no one.

I've been looking for one all my life, but I have yet to find one and I'm close to 39, so maybe I'm destined to be alone, although I sure hope not.
[Edited 7/25/07 4:13am]

CarrieMpls said:

Me, too.

I beleive there are many people for many people, it is up to the individual to be a loner or not.

PREDOMINANT said:

deep.

shanti0608 said:

Thanks

But not really, I don't believe in this one person each crap. People chose their own destiny. It just depends what you are prepared to go an get.

PREDOMINANT said:

hehehe I was being a smart ass...soon you will learn

shanti0608 said:

You mean you were using sarcasm, but you are American?

PREDOMINANT said:

Not for long....

Yes I am one sarcastic person at times....be prepared!

shanti0608 said:

Bring it! Except I always find sarcasm doesn't work very well in type.

I'm destined to be alone, whenever I'm not dating.

PREDOMINANT said:

You are right some times...just depends on how you read it.

shanti0608 said:

Or how you read INto it.

I truly believe that there is a soul mate for everyone, and that when one is ready to meet their soul mate, they will. I also believe that things happen for a reason, and in the end things will work out That's how my life's gone so far.

PREDOMINANT said:

shanti0608 said:

I know you said "be prepared" but I still read it as "be peppered".



I need coffee.

CarrieMpls said:

I need pepper.

CarrieMpls said:

I know how you feel..I think I need more the 1st cup is not working yet..

shanti0608 said:

I am fully awake now, after two espressos, a regular coffee and a double espresso. Ready to take on the world, ready to embark on great things at work, ready to have lunch

PREDOMINANT said:

Holy cow...what is your pulse rate?

I don't believe in fate or destiny, but I do believe in things happening for a reason - which some people may say is the same thing, really, but I don't think anything is 'written in the stars', predestined or pre-determined.

We are in charge of our own destiny to a great extent IMO and that's it. You may be fortunate to meet compatible people along the way, you may not be. You may have a low 'settling' threshold, you may not.

It's all about being in the right place, at the right time, feeling 'right' in yourself, with the right person. Add chemistry/sexual attraction and... bingo.

shanti0608 said:

Pretty shit, along with my blood pressure.

MissMe said:

We all got a karma & it depends what's in it & what we do with it.

This Indian girl i was with 4 2 years a few years ago. We were destined 2 meet each other. It was our fate, we had been looking 4 each other all our lives & we both knew it. But after 2 years, we had messed the whole thing & separated.

Since then i've had other great love stories & i'll have others but i know SHE was the One. I might find a girl i spend my whole life with one day, it ain't the problem, but i know nobody's "waiting" 4 me somewhere anymore. This one i already met... & lost.

PREDOMINANT said:

There seems to be two main trains of thought, those that say "it will come when you least expect it" and those that say "if you want something, you have to make it happen".

So, I basically never expect anything. I never have. And that one doesn't really seem to be working. Unless that means you have to wait till you're 50 or something. Or you need a certain # of YEARS not expecting anything. And I have no idea how to really "make" it happen, but any effort seems to make a woman of my age appear desperate and therefore unattractive. So really it all comes down to damned if you do, damned if you don't.



Which brings me back to accepting that I will live a full, happy, fulfilled and complete life alone.

CarrieMpls said:

I am somewhere between the two - and I completely agree, 100%, with your first comment on this thread.

MissMe said:

Why is it depressing?

scififilmnerd said:

I'm with you there, I was looking at one point years back but now at 40 I'm not. I don't know if I'm destine to be alone or not...I hope I don't end up being alone but is very very likely. And in many ways I'm okay with it because I'd rather be alone then be with someone for the wrong reasons or just because I don't want to be alone.

I have been married 3 times (yeah forever the optimist). (I am now aged 46) I didn't go looking for love after my 2nd divorce because I'd just had enough (and who can blame me?) but I met my now 3rd husband and we have been together for 10 years and married for 4years and adopted 2 children. Yeah I believe that there is someone out there for you. I asked my husband what attracted him to me and he said that I was laughing all the time and just being myself and he said that he wasn't just the only one attracted me. Men are attracted to women who smile and laugh and are relaxing to be around. Also physical attractiveness comes into being but it is considered secondary.
[Edited 7/25/07 6:19am]

I don't believe in soulmates, 'The One', or any of that Leo Buscaglia/Hallmark crap about romantic love, although I believe that I will fall in love again. I just don't know when. So for the time being, I'm just enjoying the ride. I've had the pleasure of loving two great women in my life. I'm sure lightening can--and will--strike a third time.

uPtoWnNY said:

Just when you say it's just said to comfort. I believe there are more than just one for everyone.