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What's worse... having expectations that are too high, or having no expectations at all? The only reason I say this is I had a kid today walk up to me after practice all glum and I asked him what was wrong and he said he felt like I expected too much from him. My response was, "You should be glad that I think you can handle the expectations, because it would be far worse if you were one of my scrubs and I had no expectations of you at all!" This event got me thinking about this topic. [Edited 7/12/07 23:00pm] Carpenters bend wood, fletchers bend arrows, wise men fashion themselves.
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karmatornado said: The only reason I say this is I had a kid today walk up to me after practice all glum and I asked him what was wrong and he said he felt like I expected to much from him. My response was, "You should be glad that I think you can handle the expectations, because it would be far worse if you were one of my scrubs and I had no expectations of you at all!" This event got me thinking about this topic.
I guess it would not be cool if a coach did not expect much from you. I mean what would that say? I really like spicy food. I mostly put Jalapenos on a lot of my food.
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karmatornado said: The only reason I say this is I had a kid today walk up to me after practice all glum and I asked him what was wrong and he said he felt like I expected to much from him. My response was, "You should be glad that I think you can handle the expectations, because it would be far worse if you were one of my scrubs and I had no expectations of you at all!" This event got me thinking about this topic.
I'd rather someone have high expectations of me. People wouldn't think like that if they didn't think we could meet or exceed them. I'd feel bad if someone didn't expect anything from me. http://prince.org/msg/100/263154?&pg=2
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I tend to have too high of an expectation of people, which in some ways isn’t a good thing because when they don’t reach this level that you’ve set for them, it’s a major disappointment. In recent years, I’ve developed a rather low expectation of people, which I think is worse, to have none for a person. | |
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all my teachers had such high expectations of me in high school, they never failed to mention it in my report cards, yet whatever I did I never seemed to live up to it.
I often wonder now if it was as a result of the IQ testing they would give us each year and the results of which only the teachers ever got to see. | |
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Unfulfilled expectations always cause problems.
Having expectations in our culture is expected. We are brought up that way. Having great expectations sounds great however when the expectation is unfulfilled, we bitch, we moan, we become disappointed. That is a problem for most people. There's Joy In Expatriation. | |
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JDInteractive said: Unfulfilled expectations always cause problems.
Having expectations in our culture is expected. We are brought up that way. Having great expectations sounds great however when the expectation is unfulfilled, we bitch, we moan, we become disappointed. That is a problem for most people. I guess it is about finding a balance which I think our culture has not been very good at. Though I do see more ppl realizing that balance is important. I am struggling with the balance issue everyday but I am determined. | |
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statuesqque said: I tend to have too high of an expectation of people, which in some ways isn’t a good thing because when they don’t reach this level that you’ve set for them, it’s a major disappointment. In recent years, I’ve developed a rather low expectation of people, which I think is worse, to have none for a person.
I'm the same way. I think I've taken it to the extreme though because rather than be dissapointed with people I keep most of them at arms length. I'm trying to be a bit less demanding  .
I do think that it's better to expect more, however, from friends and relationships. Teachers are in a unique position as they probably can see the raw talent and possibilities. | |
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karmatornado said: The only reason I say this is I had a kid today walk up to me after practice all glum and I asked him what was wrong and he said he felt like I expected too much from him. My response was, "You should be glad that I think you can handle the expectations, because it would be far worse if you were one of my scrubs and I had no expectations of you at all!"
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My teachers kept telling me "you have such potential" in school, and "you could do so much if you just wanted to" to which I replied "yeah but I don't want to  " cos well, I wasn't in a good place my entire childhood so I skated through school on a banana peel. If I could do it again I'd ace everything cos I know how important it really is. I think I'm a better teacher for having had the experience I did though. So having expectations put on you is always better. | |
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karmatornado said: The only reason I say this is I had a kid today walk up to me after practice all glum and I asked him what was wrong and he said he felt like I expected too much from him. My response was, "You should be glad that I think you can handle the expectations, because it would be far worse if you were one of my scrubs and I had no expectations of you at all!" This event got me thinking about this topic.
[Edited 7/12/07 23:00pm] when it comes to children - coaches - sports the line is very fine and you must take each child into account - they are all so different and they ARE children When I coached High School mens and womens soccer I always had a clip board taking notes on the students is it test season is there a divorce going on was there a death or marriage an new baby sibling problems hormones prom boyfriend/girlfriend issues sexuality problems so much to concider with each child - each day - every day | |
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sj1600 said: statuesqque said: I tend to have too high of an expectation of people, which in some ways isn’t a good thing because when they don’t reach this level that you’ve set for them, it’s a major disappointment. In recent years, I’ve developed a rather low expectation of people, which I think is worse, to have none for a person.
I'm the same way. I think I've taken it to the extreme though because rather than be dissapointed with people I keep most of them at arms length. I'm trying to be a bit less demanding .
I do think that it's better to expect more, however, from friends and relationships. Teachers are in a unique position as they probably can see the raw talent and possibilities. Exactly teachers have that sense and very special gift to see what you could or can be. I’ve become like that low or no expectations of people, keeping them at arms length. However with my family and friends, it's hard to say I like to hold them to high expectations as I once did but in truth I’ve lowered the bar for many so they could reach it. | |
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I always think dont expect too much from anyone cause that way they cant dissapoint you , but still they usually do  | |
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Pochacco said: I always think dont expect too much from anyone cause that way they cant dissapoint you , but still they usually do
I am usually like that too...  | |
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Pochacco said: I always think dont expect too much from anyone cause that way they cant dissapoint you , but still they usually do
I know they usually do | |
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Pochacco said: I always think dont expect too much from anyone cause that way they cant dissapoint you , but still they usually do
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Mach said: karmatornado said: The only reason I say this is I had a kid today walk up to me after practice all glum and I asked him what was wrong and he said he felt like I expected too much from him. My response was, "You should be glad that I think you can handle the expectations, because it would be far worse if you were one of my scrubs and I had no expectations of you at all!" This event got me thinking about this topic.
[Edited 7/12/07 23:00pm] when it comes to children - coaches - sports the line is very fine and you must take each child into account - they are all so different and they ARE children When I coached High School mens and womens soccer I always had a clip board taking notes on the students is it test season is there a divorce going on was there a death or marriage an new baby sibling problems hormones prom boyfriend/girlfriend issues sexuality problems so much to concider with each child - each day - every day  See that s ss where regular mawfuckas dont realiZE that itsss abou t thos'Se Facktors too wehen they give you ggooodd marks ...THey Just RecogNIze for the NOW the MOMEnt not the CIurcfunmstances like U DO ..circumstnaces can be a reaql probblenm and fuckk youu up m,entally so oyu fail .,
If mo techers wld b e like yOu effetcts on socienty n gneral would be e Dramatic and less stress Peeps don´t relaiieze being kids iant easy no mo re ! #Tehn pl wonder why kids fucjk up big time lateer on | |
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