I am invited for a dinner on thursday, i wonder if i can expect some porn on his huge tv screen.

I read most of you found his actions tasteless, and i agree, but have you never watched a man masturbating, now seriously?

OzlemUcucu said:

Of course.. many a time

I cant believe nobody has asked.. does he just masturbate infront of you, like have a fumble and stuff.. or does he out rightly get out his dick, wank off seriously and come infront of you?

Now if he just messes about with his crotch or even pulls out his dick and has a play, well thats compeletely different to doing the whole thang and ejaculating in full view..

so which is it?

REDFEATHERS said:[quote]I cant believe nobody has asked.. does he just masturbate infront of you, like have a fumble and stuff.. or does he out rightly get out his dick, wank off seriously and come infront of you?

Now if he just messes about with his crotch or even pulls out his dick and has a play, well thats compeletely different to doing the whole thang and ejaculating in full view..

it is certainly the latter...but sometimes he does get his dick right out, not that i watch, i mean seriously i was watching comedy on telly, and just noticed he was masturbating while i was laughing...i just think it is sick. His whole life is porn, i guess a lot of men are like that, i hope not!
[b][Edited 6/18/07 15:22pm]

OzlemUcucu said:[quote]

REDFEATHERS said:

Ok now this has just hit a new low..

OzlemUcucu said:[quote]

REDFEATHERS said:

Ok thank you for clarifying, even though it may seem a bit of a sensitive nature, but that does make a difference to the whole thing you are saying

I see so many guys, adjusting their bits, rubbing them, and other times having a real play..

now you say he is really wanking off and coming while you watch tv???

I am not easily shocked.. and in some circumstances this wouldnt shock me, but to feel uncomfortable in this situation is not on.. so I think you REALLY need to address your concerns.. again, I do not know your play in this situation.. whether you are egging him on, or he thinks its a turn on for you, but if it definitely is NOT, I would tell him straight:

You think thats sexy to me? It isnt. I want you to stop doing that when I am here.

No?


Well dayum.. I know some who believe shitting on others is a turn on.. so threaten him with that and I am sure he will stop.

Either that, or he ISNT a good friend
and if he is into the shitting thing.. (and you arent) well honey get the fuck outta there

it is certainly the latter...but sometimes he does get his dick right out, masturbates and ejaculates...not that i watch, i mean seriously i was watching comedy on telly, and just noticed he was masturbating while i was laughing...i just think it is sick. His whole life is porn, i guess a lot of men are like that, i hope not!
[b][Edited 6/18/07 15:22pm]
[/quote]

Ok now this has just hit a new low..[/quote]

low? lmao! Sorry, we are talking here about someone who cant heep his dick down..

OzlemUcucu said:

yes, it's very captivating, it was someone I wanted to see and vice versa but in your case it's an unwelcomed act which is why there's such a negative response...but I'm sure you know that

REDFEATHERS said:[quote]

OzlemUcucu said:

Hi,

I told him already, he masturbates less nowadays. If i would know he is an idiot, i wouldnt bother, he is a mature guy, and i just think some people are like that, he might open door naked, not even thinking it is a strange thing to do. He is strange, but i dont really care much, cause i know he is strange.

OzlemUcucu said:

Strange, mature? Its not a sociable acceptable behaviour
Now if you were to pick your nose and wipe it on his furniture, would he pass that off as just strange, but you are mature so its ok?

Its just not done.
If you are ok with it, cos he is a friend, why start this thread in the first place?
If you are serious about your concerns, then take advice given here and be straight with him.. there is a time and a place for everything

I think it's very odd that you have put up with this at all.

I think the fact that you keep coming back tells this guy it's okay, and maybe you even like it (I'm not saying you do like it, but he could get that impression)

here's the tough question:

Are you sure you don't like it?

REDFEATHERS said:

I guess you are right. He is a friend of my underworld, i suppose, cause of him being strange. Can you imagine a man outside behaving like that He sent me a text message 10 minutes ago, saying he is going to act in a porn, i have no idea if he thinks i have to congratulate him to his new part time job.What a laugh!
[Edited 6/18/07 16:14pm]

Are you sure you don't like it?[/quote]

That is so typical question of a man!

Any reactions?

OzlemUcucu said:

I only ask because I don't know anyone that would remain friends with someone like that.

I think he does it because he likes it and likes you, and you haven't treated him like a freak for doing it. By letting him do it he thinks it's okay, and in his mind he's having a sexual relationship with you.
[Edited 6/18/07 16:18pm]

NDRU said:

Absolutely agreed! In his mind he is having the most bizarre sexual relationship with me, and i dont even give him a reason for that. Whats got that porn acting to do with that?

This is so funny!
[Edited 6/18/07 16:28pm]

oh my god

OzlemUcucu said:

I can totally understand where you are coming from.. I had a best friend for 7 years - who was male, intelligent, very spiritual, caring and clever - but he had a certain set of "rules" - at the beginning, I thought he insecure and sweet, but really he was working on something a whole lot more damaging.. whether he expected it to go that way or not, he was totally in his "own world" and not intouch with the "real world"

Course he went out to work and socialised and everything, but I am guessing he had been hurt real bad, and set these certain restraints on real life.. I tried to play along to an extent, until I realised it wasnt normal and it was NOT gonna affect MY way of life, nor my THINKING what was real and what was his fantasy

For something that can start out as a bit of fun, excitement, something different can totally change quicky into the unreal world.. and THAT you gotta escape fast..

I am not saying "ditch him as a friend" just friendships gotta work 2 ways.. and if he wont compromise when you explain you are uncomfortable, then he isnt worth it in the end.. the friendship is unbalanced.

Good Luck




.
[Edited 6/18/07 16:28pm]

I can totally understand where you are coming from.. I had a best friend for 7 years - who was male, intelligent, very spiritual, caring and clever - but he had a certain set of "rules" - at the beginning, I thought he insecure and sweet, but really he was working on something a whole lot more damaging.. whether he expected it to go that way or not, he was totally in his "own world" and not intouch with the "real world"

Course he went out to work and socialised and everything, but I am guessing he had been hurt real bad, and set these certain restraints on real life.. I tried to play along to an extent, until I realised it wasnt normal and it was NOT gonna affect MY way of life, nor my THINKING what was real and what was his fantasy

For something that can start out as a bit of fun, excitement, something different can totally change quicky into the unreal world.. and THAT you gotta escape fast..

I am not saying "ditch him as a friend" just friendships gotta work 2 ways.. and if he wont compromise when you explain you are uncomfortable, then he isnt worth it in the end.. the friendship is unbalanced.

Good Luck




.
[Edited 6/18/07 16:28pm]
[/quote]

Hey, i think i am stable enough to see his world and my world. I think he is insecure, and surely not quite okay by normal standards, but you sometimes have to not run away from people like that. He is not my best friend, so i can deal with that. I have no problems in dealing with people who have different worlds. It gives you another perspective, and there are too many perspectives out there.

OzlemUcucu said:

But you do give him a reason for that. You accept it and come back for more.

NDRU said:

I am speechless, i shall be in a big dilemma shortly. You sound like his mind.

I have to agree with NDRU here. It sounds like you're at least somewhat fascinated with what is going on. If you were repulsed you would have stopped seeing him immediately or at least had a long talk with him about it, right? Since you keep coming back you're making him feel like what he's doing is normal and acceptable to you.

OzlemUcucu said:

I'm not sure I understand (you mean I sound like him?), but what I mean is the fact that you haven't said "that is not okay!" and not returned to see him without a promise from him to never do it again means there's no reason for him to stop.

NDRU said:

I agree

Not quite right there. He promised many times he would stop masturbating, but he didnt stop, so i keep ignoring his dick. Pure dick ignorance...and he has no chance. Now if thats a turn on, good luck, i would say.

REDFEATHERS said:

co-sign and even though he promised, he still hasn't stopped and you still accept it. sitting in there ignoring him while he masturbates does what? because whether you ignore him or not the point is your still sitting there while he does it.

OzlemUcucu said:

Is that a trick question?

[quote]

OzlemUcucu said:

So long as he isnt serving up cauliflower cheese, you MIGHT be safe

OzlemUcucu said:

Some people get turned on just by the idea that someone else is in the room. You could be sitting there watching TV or cooking dinner, either way, it doesn't matter to him because you keeping coming back and he gets to act out that fantasy. By going back, you are giving him the chance, because he obviously gets his rocks off on it.

REDFEATHERS said:[quote]