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PrintableIAmNotSpats said: Would you do it?
Would you marry someone just to get a visa, or a promotion or anything that has nothing to do with real marriage? I sorta did. 
Not really, we were in love, but we probably wouldn't have bothered to get married if he didn't need a green card. I'll tell ya, when the government is threatening to take away your loved one, you're THRILLED to sign some paperwork and make that problem go away. oh noes, prince is gonna soo me!!1! | |
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I like to "never say never". It would really depend on the circumstances. If the situation were right and it was the right person. I would have to love him deeply (even if it weren't the romantic type love). | |
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DON'T DO IT. $5000 is not worth it. If the fiance is coming to the US, it can take 2-3 years to get it approved and you are caught in a bureaucratic maze for that long, which can become humiliating for both of you. You have to PROVE that you are married for love and that you have a promising future together and the authorities can be very thorough. Basically, if you're hosting someone as a fiance to your country, you're hauking your life for several years and you are under surveillance of the government.  If you do not play along with their game, then you have it on your head to watch your partner possibly get deported or be doomed to a lifetime of illegality and threat. That is YOUR responsibility and DO NOT underestimate the stress of it.
I got in this situation for love, but naively -- and was way in over my head. Would NEVER put myself in that position again. There is nothing "convenient" about a false marriage. There is nothing "convenient" about a false divorce. Divorces cost money too. | |
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Illustrator said: My wife married me because I had a Visa and MasterCard.
But I don't complain. Whether it's emotional, mentally, physically or spiritually, a consistent piece of ass is always gonna cost ya, one way or another. And besides, it's these kinds of realizations (or what Oprah likes to call "light-bulb moments") that make me feel I'm walking thru life with a sense empowerment. 
If I didn't know better, I'd say my husband has an account here.  I'm firmly planted in denial |
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my cousin did it, and now he found the love of his life and has a bit of mess to get out of first  | |
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ZombieKitten said: my cousin did it, and now he found the love of his life and has a bit of mess to get out of first
That's the kind of stuff I'm talking about. It can really entangle you in ways you don't realize and once you're in, good luck getting out. | |
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