ReturnofDOOK said:

What happened??? Sorry to hear that about your breakup, that's rough.

ReturnofDOOK said:

Paul, man, keep communicating. Keep letting her know that you're in it, not giving up and willing talk it out a million ways to Sunday (with counselors, if need be).

I know exactly how you feel. It's easy to get frustrated and tired. Relationships are great. But, once you get past the butterflies, they require some heavy lifting.

Praying for you, man.

jerseykrs said:

I was thinking that too...while it might not be wise to count on a reunion...maybe it would be good to keep the possiblity open. I hope you're not hurting for a long time.

I'm sorry to hear that Paul. I remember how great you guys looked together in the pics you posted, and how happy you seemed. Is there a chance these differences can be reconciled? Chin up, buddy, and keep on keepin' on.

That sucks. I never met either of you personally, but from your posts and pics on here you two seemed like a cute couple. Maybe after she sees your comments on here she'll have a change of heart.

Sorry Paul

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IAintTheOne said:

Same here honey! You two were a highlight of the weekend.

Hang in there. Wish I could give you both big hugs for real.

I am sorry this has happened it sucks to feel this way I know it first hand. You will get through it you are a strong person.


Jess


PS will you be my org sweetie now

I hope you're okay. You know you can call me if you need to talk or meet up for coffee.




M

Dude I have sort of recently come out of a 7 year marriage the divorce papers where final last year. At first I was like "I'm free" I started going out with some ladies that had asked me out before when was in the middle of the divorce. I was living with the idea "the best way to get over someone is get under someone" so eventually after I went through that stage. Then I realised it wasn't sex i missed but companionship, I guess because I have no family that made me feel very alone and isolated. Even though I have plenty of women to go out I shut myself off from the rest of the world and have fell into a deep depression. I think i finally realised something just recently, that is I didn't want to get hurt and thats why I was keeping my distance from everybody.

Your situation and mine may be simular in the sense that my ex wife is a good person and I am a good person but we where a bad couple. It sounds like maybe you have the same problem with your ex. Its the ones that you break up with on good terms that hurt the most, the ones you tell "fuck you I never want to see you again" are easier to get over.

I know I don't seem like a deep person here on the boards thats just my defense mechicnism, when I'm hurting the most I'm usually the craziest life of the party type of guy. I'm like that way in person I went to a friends Christmas party and me and a couple of other friends were insane everybody was laughing and cracking up including myself but inside I was dying. Hope this helps.

LordEvil said:

I think most people here would like you better if you dared to be yourself more often, even the ones who think your violence/sex banter is amusing.

retina said:

That is also a part of me, however I don't really remember being violently humorous.

LordEvil said:

I've never found you violently humorous, but you've often tried humour about violence. Or maybe you've been dead serious, I don't know.

retina said:

Well if you can't laugh at some of the horrors that life shows you, you will be forever haunted by them. I wish I could get to that stage with my divorce, i really thought I'd be over it by now but it is taking longer than I imagined.

LordEvil said:

Sure, I can agree with that. My comment was rather about the whole "evil" persona that you've created for this message board. That's what I find kind of unnecessary.



Well, you know the whole cliché that it takes you at least half the time the relationship lasted to get over it - I find that to be quite true. I was once together with a woman for 4 years and it took me around 2 years after it ended to get to a point where it was managable. Another relationship lasted 1 year, and that took around 6 months to get over, etc. If you're a sensitive person though, like I am, you're never completely over it. I can still feel the sting from breakups that are waaay back in the past every now and then. But at least now I can deal with it. Really well even. So have faith.

It's just another love TKO.
Go forward.

LordEvil said:

you're a real person? it's nice to see this side of you.